I came to this realization while responding to a different thread. Fours need people to be obsessed with them, because they are obsessed with themselves. No matter how low a four's self esteem is, there is still a "self" that we nurture and care for inside of ourselves. I believe that even though the basic motivation of the creation of this "self" is the same for all fours, I think that all of our inner "selves" are quite unique and different from one other. I know we don't often like to share this with others, but we are on an online forum, so no one will know- what makes you think people should obsess over you? who is your inner "self"?