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So, I'm just curious if anyone wants to chime in. What is it that is annoying about ENFPs to other types?
I wonder why no one has ever complained about ENFPs before? There is a thread devoted to what annoys you about ENFJs...probably started by an ENFP.

So, just curious...keep in mind these are just generalizations and can't be claimed as true or defining characteristics of the ENFP.
Just, if you have something to say that you've noticed annoys you about ENFPs you know, feel free to say it.

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-Indecisive
-Going with the flow without passing judgement on their actions or asking any questions about where that might lead them
-Speak without thinking about how their words are heard/read/interpreted by others
-Make broad sweeping generalizations that are stated as facts such as, "Are you drunk?" so clearly accusing the person of being drunk. Why would you ask a question like that at 7:30 AM? Haha.
-So interested in what is interesting, not interested in anyone's thoughts or feelings
-Need for pleasure surpasses backbone/self control
-Unreliable
 

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So, I'm just curious if anyone wants to chime in. What is it that is annoying about ENFPs to other types?
I wonder why no one has ever complained about ENFPs before? There is a thread devoted to what annoys you about ENFJs...probably started by an ENFP.

So, just curious...keep in mind these are just generalizations and can't be claimed as true or defining characteristics of the ENFP.
Just, if you have something to say that you've noticed annoys you about ENFPs you know, feel free to say it.

I'll start:
-Indecisive
-Going with the flow without passing judgement on their actions or asking any questions about where that might lead them
-Speak without thinking about how their words are heard/read/interpreted by others
-Make broad sweeping generalizations that are stated as facts such as, "Are you drunk?" so clearly accusing the person of being drunk. Why would you ask a question like that at 7:30 AM? Haha.
-So interested in what is interesting, not interested in anyone's thoughts or feelings
-Need for pleasure surpasses backbone/self control
-Unreliable

Are you talking about yourself here? You are not interested in anyones thoughts or feelings?
 

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-Indecisive
-Going with the flow without passing judgement on their actions or asking any questions about where that might lead them
-Speak without thinking about how their words are heard/read/interpreted by others
-Make broad sweeping generalizations that are stated as facts such as, "Are you drunk?" so clearly accusing the person of being drunk. Why would you ask a question like that at 7:30 AM? Haha.
-So interested in what is interesting, not interested in anyone's thoughts or feelings
-Need for pleasure surpasses backbone/self control
-Unreliable
I don't feel like any of these apply to me. I judge all of the decisions I make, try to figure out where I can do things better next time, or see my motives behind each thing, what I did well, why I might have sabotaged myself etc. I don't worry about how others interpret my words because I don't know how they will interpret them so I have to trust my own judgement, I avoid generalisations, I AM interested in others thoughts, infact I get paranoid when people won't share their thoughts and feelings with me because I think they think poorly of me or are making fun of me in their head, or I'm irritating them and I would say I'm fairly reliable, if I say I will do something, I will do something, unless its for my mum because sometimes I'm too tired or I just say I will do something to shut her up- I don't like mundane tasks. I do have trouble with self control though.

Why are you hating on your own type?
 

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Are you talking about yourself here? You are not interested in anyones thoughts or feelings?
Hahaha, i loved the way you called the creation of this thread , 3 hours ago ;) Oh my our Ne is in overdrive today ;P and who said ENFP weren't physic ; D

What she really meant to say its " What pisses me off about ENFP"....Opps, i think we have a typo ; D

EDIT: Hum, i'm sensing a plot to pin the ENFP against each other here. The smell of manipulation is quite rotten at this moment. Stinky Stinky!!
 

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Hahaha, i loved the way you called the creation of this thread , 3 hours ago ;) Oh my our Ne is in overdrive today ;P and who said ENFP weren't physic ; D

What she really meant to say its " What pisses me off about ENFP"....Opps, i think we have a typo ; D
Sad but true. I did call it. The clues were all in the thread dedicated to me.

Well I'm off out, my man summoned me to give him some lovin!

Goodnight and don't be too hard on her now.
 

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Are you talking about yourself here? You are not interested in anyones thoughts or feelings?
I consciously worked on it. I noticed I was doing it because my ENFP best friend--it's hard for him to stay focused on anyone or thing in particular. So if someone is talking, I'm listening to them while he's running around with his shirt over his face singing drunken melodies. He's entertaining but sometimes I've noticed it prevents him from any true form of intimacy.
And yes, all these qualities are things about myself and other ENFPs I know. It's true. I work on them because I legitimately care about people. I just think it's fair that if there is a: things I dislike about ENFJ thread, there should be one about the ENFPs.
 

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I don't feel like any of these apply to me. I judge all of the decisions I make, try to figure out where I can do things better next time, or see my motives behind each thing, what I did well, why I might have sabotaged myself etc. I don't worry about how others interpret my words because I don't know how they will interpret them so I have to trust my own judgement, I avoid generalisations, I AM interested in others thoughts, infact I get paranoid when people won't share their thoughts and feelings with me because I think they think poorly of me or are making fun of me in their head, or I'm irritating them and I would say I'm fairly reliable, if I say I will do something, I will do something, unless its for my mum because sometimes I'm too tired or I just say I will do something to shut her up- I don't like mundane tasks. I do have trouble with self control though.

Why are you hating on your own type?
Why not? lol.
 

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Why not? lol.
Seriously, I want to stand up and defend you from all the hate you've been receiving tonight, but some of the stuff you have written is just crazy. I know you have a problem with paranoia and thinking people don't like you, but starting threads like this isn't helping your cause. Be nice to people, and they'll usually be nice to you.
 

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I think there is not much to hate about a healthy ENFP personally.
How can that be possible? How is it possible that there is one personality type that there are no "problems" with? That makes no sense. I've been reading about type relations, other personality types, and every type has great qualities. But every type has characteristics that are annoying. And for some reason, I just can't see the flaws in the ENFP. And it's blowing our egos way out of proportion in my opinion.
 

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Each type is designed with a purpose to contribute in some way to society, so in all retrospect, there are no 'flaws' in types. One type may dislike factors in another type (or even their own type) but that comes down to personal preference. In our healthy states, ENFPs are well rounded, balanced individuals. The same can be said about any other type for that matter.

HOWEVER, Unhealthy ENFPs can get very frustrating and hard to deal with. This includes ones with an under-developed Te. They can become impulsive, manipulative, moody, illogical and somewhat narrow-minded. Its these few that can cause others to make such generalisations about us.

I can think of several perceived flaws in me personally as a result of my ENFP traits but that's more individualised and won't necessarily be reflected in the next ENFP.
 

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How can that be possible? How is it possible that there is one personality type that there are no "problems" with? That makes no sense. I've been reading about type relations, other personality types, and every type has great qualities. But every type has characteristics that are annoying. And for some reason, I just can't see the flaws in the ENFP. And it's blowing our egos way out of proportion in my opinion.
There are flaws and many of us are very aware of our flaws (self awareness = growth afterall) - and we work to grow our weaknesses and strengths. A healthy ENFP should be balanced which leads to a very well-rounded person, imo. A very well-rounded person who is also an excellent social chameleon and simply adapts to their environment. And in many cases, it's just a matter of displaying different sides of our personality so it remains genuine and people can feel that too. They feel connected through our uncanny ability to break the "barrier".

People are almost always surprised when they tell me something they've never told anyone before after only a few days of knowing each other, I'm never too surprised as I've been hearing that my whole life. And an old friend of mine (ENFJ) always described me as someone who is simply well liked by everyone because I'm amiable and laid back. I don't add any aggression, I kind of mellow a room out or make it really excited.

Nonetheless, there are flaws, no less than any other personality type and by society's standards, probably more so in our type. But we're just well liked when healthy and still well liked when a bit unhealthy, however can lead to a bad experience (such as being unreliable). Maybe a psych evaluation wouldn't work out so well, though. I'd say I'm a pretty healthy person but I think they'd try to pin me as bipolar if I were to get an eval.
 

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I wonder why no one has ever complained about ENFPs before?
Srlsy?
I'm not sure where you've been hangin' out, but there are plenty of folk who complain about ENFPs. I've read their comments; they hurt my feelings; I eat a cookie; I feel better; I try to avoid reading negative comments about my Type in the future.
 

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I eat a cookie; I feel better;
LOL thats cute.




i think this thread has every right to exist. Maybe there are other ways to ask this question while avoiding any mention of MBTI TYPES. Maybe Marzipan01 is too bored and could be doing something else more productive because I know I worry too much about my mistakes, but who cares? let's entertain her without trying to call her an idiot in a classy and/or intellectual way because doing that makes you idiots anyways.

It annoys the fuck out of me when I drop out of a conversation because I started thinking about what other people are thinking about me.

It annoys the fuck out of me when a good friend won't tell me my flaws/weaknesses upon request.
 
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