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What is your enneagram type, and what type of person makes you weak in the knees?

I'm not asking, necessarily, for what *enneagram type* turns you on, but feel free to throw that in there if you see a pattern. I am, rather, asking for what qualities turn you on, make you fall hard for a person, make you weak in the knees. I don't care if this is physical, type-related, or what. There is no such thing as too shallow for this thread, though I'm curious about personal qualities that turn you on, too, if there are any.

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I'll start.

I like mystical, magical, intense, strong men. If he's mystical and magical but he's a wuss with no practical goals or sense of pragmatism - not my thing. If he's intense and strong but there's nothing otherworldly about him, that means he's forgotten the dreams of his childhood which is also not my thing. I need magic and strength, both.

The idea of mystical, magical men is not some imaginary thing. It's about being with someone who thinks for himself, is in touch with something beyond the tangible, and whose mentality and expression is expansive. Usually people like this will move like an animal. My attraction to them is visceral and turns me on to the bone. When I meet someone like this, my heart thumps and my cheeks flush and all I can dream about is making love to him/ having wild animal sex/ tasting his sweat/ feeling his skin against mine/ doing something so carnal it's spiritual. I want someone who can speak my language of music and art and body language and things beyond words; the universal language.

I wrote this in another thread, and I think my body responds to such signals, perhaps for these reasons.

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- Quiet, shy men are often aggressive and dominant in bed.
- A higher IQ often equates wild and intense in bed.
- Men who seem mystical and magical are probably more sensual and attentive to their lover. They spend most of their time 'far away from earth' and make their own rules. They have their own deep approach to everything that isn't forced or contrived. They are individualistic and react to what they feel, rather than just copying motions from porn or magazine tips.
- Someone who spends a lot of time dreaming will come to life with a beast-like fury once they are jolted into their body in the bedroom.
- If someone reads a lot instead of watching television, they probably have a well-developed imagination and are more creative in the bedroom. Watching someone else have sex is not the same as reading a sex scene and really imagining it, or imagining yourself in it. This is why readers are better in bed.

 

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Alright, let's get this started! This is in no particular order.

Personality Traits

1. Sensitivity (no..not the I am a wilting fuckin flower so walk on eggshells around me bullshit), empathy and emotional intelligence

--- being able to draw out my vulnerable side, and being comfortable with your own..once my vulnerability is drawn out..how it blooms!

2. Assertiveness, directness, being able to display aggression when the situation calls for it, displaying restraint when that's the need of the hour

3. Being ambitious, intellectually inclined and culturally aware

4. Having strong convictions, solid integrity and sense of justice

5. Being firm and opinionated

6. Open-mindedness

7. Strong nurturing instincts (no..not 'mother henning' but I love a man who isn't afraid to show his caring side; it speaks of a secure sense of self and of compassion), a strong protective drive

8. Rationality, a thirst for knowledge

9. A great sense of humour, more inappropriate and morbid the better

10. Fortitude and resilience

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Having overcome a lot of obstacles, having processed pain from the past, being emotionally scarred and supremely, emotionally and psychologically, healthy, despite these. This makes me so wet. I wish they hadn't suffered at all, but I won't deny that I am unbearably attracted to people who have conquered great hardship and come out on top, while retaining their humanity and vulnerable, open-hearted side.

12. Speaks one (or more) of the following: Spanish, Arabic, Farsi, Russian; does a fun and authentic AAVE impression :D or has a sexy lil Southern or Australian or South African Accent

13. A deep and insatiable desire to understand and caress the depths of my darkness, grotesqueness, grief, longing, anger and more.

14. I absolutely NEED him to be highly invested in the relationship, and I need him to thirst for a great deal of closeness and stimulation, not just sexual. I need to be able to crave him, his voice, his breath, his warmth, his hardness, his sleeping eyes that I could kiss unto death and beyond. He needs to reciprocate my unrestrained desire for him. No half-assed nonsense. I want someone who can't get enough of me, day after day after day..for the rest of our lives.

15. POETRY! God, if he writes good poems...well...then;). When two poets meet, it's wild fires and lust all around. ;)

16. Gratitude-- Not taking me for granted. I'd accept nothing less.

17. Being sexually uninhibited and devious;)


Physical Traits


1. A deep masculine voice is KEY! sofuckinarousingdamn!

2. Long hair, dreads, afro textured hair in general. :blushed: @Animal knows what I am talking about. ;)

3. Classy well-kept beards

4. Tallness is appreciated but not required at all. Having a more muscular built or being bigger, somewhat overweight is just fine if the guy carries it well and is otherwise active.

5. Big strong hands, preferably slender fingers.

6. Dark skin! *melts*

7. Broad shoulders

8. A confident sexy gait

9. Enjoying sexual dominance, pinning me down and getting his way with me.

10. Hairiness is preferred, not required.

11. A sexy chest for my mouth to prowl across ;).

12. Expressiveness in bed! Mmm...love those growly beasts...

For what else makes me weak in the knees ;), look here.

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Oooh! Err, let's see. Sensitivity is a must, not just in the over-reactive to criticism kind but a perceptive sensitivity. Affectionate in both action and word. Depth of character, the enjoyment of no bounds conversations, where we could talk for hours about anything from music to the ends of time to love and bonding. Someone that shares my romantic appreciation but is independent and is happy for me to be independent. Someone that has an equalist mentality, no power trips or any of that ego fluff. And someone who is not afraid to eventually be vulnerable on occasion. Humour and open mindedness. Self responsibility. xD
 

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Here's my list

- deep quiet inner strength (I don't mind physical strength , but he doesn't have to be a Mr. muscleman nessecarily. Inner strength is more valued over raw musclepower.)
- Being one with his body (I don't know how to describe this, but I'm a sucker for people who inhibit their body in a certain poised kind of way. When they move... awww... )
- I don't have any "prey pattern" in terms of looks, hair, height or whatever. But I go much in for humor, a certain kind of smile, how the eyes glitter and so on. I also value deeply that one can just speak about everything, but also being quiet together, everyone absorbed in own interests, but still feeling the presence of the other one around.
- chivalry (well, what do you expect? I'm a romantic 4, heh...I read french medieval literature for fun...)
- being able to be very intensly close and open, but also letting room for everyones uniqueness
 
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Here's my list

- deep quiet inner strength (I don't mind physical strength , but he doesn't have to be a Mr. muscleman nessecarily. Inner strength is more valued over raw musclepower.)
- Being one with his body (I don't know how to describe this, but I'm a sucker for people who inhibit their body in a certain poised kind of way. When they move... awww... )
- I don't have any "prey pattern" in terms of looks, hair, height or whatever. But I go much in for humor, a certain kind of smile, how the eyes glitter and so on. I also value deeply that one can just speak about everything, but also being quiet together, everyone absorbed in own interests, but still feeling the presence of the other one around.
- chivalry (well, what do you expect? I'm a romantic 4, heh...I read french medieval literature for fun...)
- being able to be very intensly close and open, but also letting room for everyones uniqueness
I relate to all of these, especially tremendously the bolded.
 

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What is your enneagram type, and what type of person makes you weak in the knees?

I'm not asking, necessarily, for what *enneagram type* turns you on, but feel free to throw that in there if you see a pattern. I am, rather, asking for what qualities turn you on, make you fall hard for a person, make you weak in the knees. I don't care if this is physical, type-related, or what. There is no such thing as too shallow for this thread, though I'm curious about personal qualities that turn you on, too, if there are any.

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That is a lot to think about before food.

Intellectual prowess, wit, emotional/mental strength.. jellyfish exhaust me. Being outsmarted rarely occured in the past. Compassion and generosity a must but not bleeding heart crazy, passion over books and knowledge and playful. Does not take life so seriously they flip out over stupid shit. With a macabre, crazy dark violent side.. and a bit of temper.. Stronger than me physically I would break a skinny rocker boy in half with my vigorous fervent behaviour and muscle. My nickname is She Hulk in life.
 
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Moral idealism and emotional sensitivity are a plus. Especially if they're men because it's not "cool" for men to be emotionally sensitive.
 
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This is great, it seems a nice challenge for us personality-type fiends to explain personal qualities without resorting to type! I feel like it can get to be kind of a crutch in terms of understanding people.

But what gets me weak in the knees... I will say that I am often surprised at the wide variety of girls that I am attracted to, but there are a few common denominators that really get me going:

-> A certain type of calm, sensual confidence. Girls who aren't over the top and craving of attention, but seem to have a deep reservoir of awesome within them that they are saving for someone they think deserves it. I think this is one of those things that you can really tell in the eyes; I'm not sure how exactly but I tend to know it when I see it.

-> Openness and even, creativity. I find girls who are on the individualistic side in some way are super attractive. Not necessarily in how they dress, etc. but perhaps even in the way that they think. That being said, I've found that girls with interesting hair and awesome tattoos are really a soft spot for me. (but no "tramp stamps"! :frustrating:)

ninja edit: -> Also, sexy accents are one of those shallow things that I just can't get enough of. :wink:
 

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I started talking about this in terms of what makes me weak-kneed, but it turned into what I look for in a relationship.

I like men who are, for lack of a better word, physical--they just have this presence with their bodies. I also like the usual stuff: good sense of humor (or rather, humorous about himself), not arrogant, thinks of others before himself. I like a man who reads a lot, too. But I have Asperger's and I think it takes a special kind of person to really get it and be in it for the long haul--someone with compassion and patience, who sees my qualities as a benefit and not a liability (true story, it's happened before). I'm not a Chatty Cathy, so someone who can enjoy the silence (cue music) is great. Overall, a great relationship should be more of a partnership than anything; the ability to share equally in the responsibilities of that relationship.

And a handshake can tell you pretty much all you need to know about someone, not just their physical strength but personality strength, too.
 

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I started talking about this in terms of what makes me weak-kneed, but it turned into what I look for in a relationship.

I like men who are, for lack of a better word, physical--they just have this presence with their bodies. I also like the usual stuff: good sense of humor (or rather, humorous about himself), not arrogant, thinks of others before himself. I like a man who reads a lot, too. But I have Asperger's and I think it takes a special kind of person to really get it and be in it for the long haul--someone with compassion and patience, who sees my qualities as a benefit and not a liability (true story, it's happened before). I'm not a Chatty Cathy, so someone who can enjoy the silence (cue music) is great. Overall, a great relationship should be more of a partnership than anything; the ability to share equally in the responsibilities of that relationship.

And a handshake can tell you pretty much all you need to know about someone, not just their physical strength but personality strength, too.
Hey. its better to be a quiet, thoughtful weird aspie who can hold a meaningful conversation..then someone who blathers on about reality tv, their shoes.. their hair.. bitches about their "best friends" behind their backs.. Are you weird and random too? I used to embarrass the hell out of my exhusband before our first divorce with my inability to feel shame and embarrassment in public scenarios and that I would and do, say anything to anyone.
 

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I'm more worried about the obscurity below the waist....

He is of my same fiery species (see my sig-pic) so , I don't think I can get burned ;D
I snorted.
 
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I think hes wearing pants.
 
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I think he's very turned on and it's reaching straight out into the shadows. :kitteh:
I think you get oddly aroused by pictures of angels and fire. I love fire too. but come on!
 

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