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Just curious how you guys spend time in your head.

Most of the time, I have conversations with imaginary versions of people I know. Sometimes I'll get obsessed with an idea (Si obsessions?) and roll it over in my head over and over and over. Same with songs. How about all of you?
 

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That's funny, I also find myself having conversations with imaginary versions of people I know. Maybe this is somewhat common?

I'm also completely obsessive so if an idea or song grabs me I'll be thinking about it for a few days.
 

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I do have conversations and lots of secenarios with people in my mind. I'm very often contemplating making a big impact on the world, or on someone, being a famous novelist, becomning an actress, making movies, on the interpersonal front, romantic scenarios, or imagining myself in a victim possition and someone saving me/becoming connected to them/possibly saving them and then them saving me. I have...technical thoughts...not sure how to phrase it, like getting down to the root of something (Though 'getting to the root of' feels wrong, it's working through it to find satisfaction in my 'feel' for it I guess), weird inconsequential things like how best to tie up a series of wires so that none go in the same direction, or how a U-bend works, or imagining how the bits in a house I can't see fit together/are, which maybe turns into the fantastical. This 'techincal' thinking is kind've automatic to me, and very visual, kind've relaxing, because it's sort've away from the world, and away from the intensity of some of my own wmind when I get into it/it happens. I like to understand how things work in a general sense, everything from people, to things like literature and religion, to science and the universe, and past the universe. I will think about these things in a one track focused way mostly - one issue at a time, and only as and when they come up.

The thoughts more at the start are more scenarios which bring me a particular emotion - very 4ish - I return to particular scenarios are feelings to probably a somewhat unhealthy degree, it's like I want to consume/become merged with this emotion/make it my forever womb of sorts (a womb around me), at the sacrafice of experiencing real life. It can be a distraction of my own pain - I often won't realise something's not right in my own feelings, but will feel restless about not being able to get to that place, whatever the particular place is. I find I am rather less capable of socialising with people/dealing with other situations if I get into the clung to, comfortable safe zone/headspace, sometimes outside reality/the people in it can feel a little otherworldly if I get caught up in the other bubble/safe world. I've had the same mp3player since I was 15 through not wanting to get rid of this one, as it is not possible to put the tracks onto another mp3 player/ipod, but even if that wasn't the casel I definately relate to getting obsessive about particular songs.
I also ruminated alot about interections, and worry/negatively forecast future interactions.
 

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Same as you guys :tongue:, I fantasise about conversations or situations with people I know. Or I replay certain things from the past. Also current preoccupations. And songs as well too, if I'm not listhening to music allready. It helps my mind from going crazy.
 

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interesting, i think i play with possible scenarios rather than just fantasizing... such as wanting to tell someone something but playing it out in my head first to see if that would ever work
 

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I return to particular scenarios are feelings to probably a somewhat unhealthy degree, it's like I want to consume/become merged with this emotion/make it my forever womb of sorts (a womb around me), at the sacrafice of experiencing real life. It can be a distraction of my own pain - I often won't realise something's not right in my own feelings, but will feel restless about not being able to get to that place, whatever the particular place is. I find I am rather less capable of socialising with people/dealing with other situations if I get into the clung to, comfortable safe zone/headspace
yesss. Well said. The hard to socialze part... man. haha. all the time. :p
 

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man, imagine if no one else answered your thread or they all said no, how crazy would you feel? LOL
 
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I always dwell on the past, or ponder heavily about my future, if I'm not daydreaming or imagining random heroic fantasies. I often can't sleep at night, I become so obsessed with my thoughts; I never knew such things could bear so much weight. Am I moving in the right direction? Should I feel content about my life so far? Where can I go from here? Why does everything feel so wrong? Why does it feel like I'm listlessly standing still in this seemingly grey world, while it seems like everyone else is moving forward, and enriching themselves, regardless of the risks? Why can I not forgive myself for my errors, or feel content? What am I destined to accomplish? Just who am I, really?

I am always trying to put my life in perspective, but I always feel as though it just leads to me wishing I had done things differently, tried harder, had more confidence, tried things that I had been afraid of, prior. I affix myself to the lives of other people, and wonder why they're always so happy and content, while I feel empty and unfulfilled; alone. I often wonder if I think too much, or perhaps, not enough? Am I blind to the grand picture? Is my scope flawed? What do I have to do to live like everyone else, to be content and happy with the world, and my contributions and tenure while in it? What am I supposed to look for, to answer all of these questions? All of these things and more, are what circumvent in my mind, constantly. I suppose it's true what they say: "To think, is to feel everlasting pain."
 

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My mind just doesn't shut up. To many people, I look really calm and like there's nothing going on, but underneath the facade is my inner world. Sometimes, no, all the time, I feel that I'm carrying a world inside my mind.
 

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I always dwell on the past, or ponder heavily about my future, if I'm not daydreaming or imagining random heroic fantasies. I often can't sleep at night, I become so obsessed with my thoughts; I never knew such things could bear so much weight. Am I moving in the right direction? Should I feel content about my life so far? Where can I go from here? Why does everything feel so wrong? Why does it feel like I'm listlessly standing still in this seemingly grey world, while it seems like everyone else is moving forward, and enriching themselves, regardless of the risks? Why can I not forgive myself for my errors, or feel content? What am I destined to accomplish? Just who am I, really?

I am always trying to put my life in perspective, but I always feel as though it just leads to me wishing I had done things differently, tried harder, had more confidence, tried things that I had been afraid of, prior. I affix myself to the lives of other people, and wonder why they're always so happy and content, while I feel empty and unfulfilled; alone. I often wonder if I think too much, or perhaps, not enough? Am I blind to the grand picture? Is my scope flawed? What do I have to do to live like everyone else, to be content and happy with the world, and my contributions and tenure while in it? What am I supposed to look for, to answer all of these questions? All of these things and more, are what circumvent in my mind, constantly. I suppose it's true what they say: "To think, is to feel everlasting pain."
Wow, that is almost exactly the thought flow I have some nights when I'm stressed out and my mind wanders, preventing me from falling asleep. Just question after question after question, all of which seem unanswerable. It's hard to get out of that flow.

I also do play out potential conversations with others, thinking of the different ways that it might turn out. I also think of scenarios for the future, based on whether I do or don't perform certain actions. I think about what I do actually need to get done a lot, too. I also get lost in memories a lot as well, which is great when I'm thinking of something funny that happened, laugh out loud, and the people around me think I'm crazy. xD
 
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