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Lately, Ive had a bad streak with friendships because of misunderstandings and such, yet I always regain or gain new friends and have unforgettable times with them. Like many of you, sometimes I over think things and do things a bit too late. Today I was confronted by a random girl, she asked for the time and left. But before leaving the trolley(train for some) she gave me a piece of paper with her number and name and left.

What- if anything- should I do? I mean, should I call her and see where this takes me or should I just throw this damned piece of paper away? I mean, this is supposed to be a personal choice but curiosity is biting my leg, but reality knows how I am and I'll simply wither away after some time...
with school and with a band(Dead Morals on MySpace Music - Free Streaming MP3s, Pictures & Music Downloads) I barely have time for myself.

has any one had a similar experience or have any advice?
 

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another thought. you sound scared that life's gonna dupe you, so you think you'd better protect yourself by duping it before it dupes you. i say let go, go with the flow, fly, be freeeeeeeeeeeee ;)
 

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DOOO IIIITTTTTT!!!!!

You never know until you give her a call :)
And if it turns out she's a bitch, don't bother with her!
It sounds so simple doesn't it? I know I know the possibilities are running round in a purposeless circle in your mind. The only way to stop it is to go for it and find out! :crazy:
 

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Yes, the endless "what ifs", it feels kind of relieving actually to do something about it. The randomness is what I cant get over lol, I guess I should call her to get to know her a bit, be it as I am very vocal :S
 

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cool she gives you her number practically inviting you to get to know her.
Go for it, u have much more to gain than to lose,.
 

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Go for it, worse comes to worse you get embarrassed for a couple of hours. On the other hand it could go extremely well and... well I'll let your imagination take it from there :tongue: .
 

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i think a big part of friendships not lasting is that we can see people quite clearly, and we also have very high ideals... combined we end up convincing ourselves to keep distance from most people, consciously or otherwise.

but eventually you'll find that certain people stick around, there's enough mutual understanding that no conflict could possibly come between you. the odds of finding these wonderful people are slim however! so take every chance you get! :happy:
 

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Honestly, my very first thought would be a "Hell no." She's nothing but a random stranger who might try to take advantage of you.

...However, like you, I would think about it more and probably call her that same night or something. While I would be 95% wary, there is a possibility, that she could be a really awesome person worth befriending and getting to know. We all have to take risks at some point.
 

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Honestly, my very first thought would be a "Hell no." She's nothing but a random stranger who might try to take advantage of you.

...However, like you, I would think about it more and probably call her that same night or something. While I would be 95% wary, there is a possibility, that she could be a really awesome person worth befriending and getting to know. We all have to take risks at some point.
Why so scared of people?

And as for the randomness, it's not random at all. She obviously found you attractive, gathered up some courage, and tried not to let you slip by.
 

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I shall call her tonight. I think that because of my past(heartbreaks and stuff) I think about it too much before entailing a random person. But I think that not knowing this person gives me some opportunity to try to make things work or lighten my heart up for a time, you know?
 

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Yep. Don't punish yourself for being wronged in the past :) You can do it! And if it doesn't work out with this girl, there's always someone else. You know you deserve something good :happy:
 

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Why so scared of people?

And as for the randomness, it's not random at all. She obviously found you attractive, gathered up some courage, and tried not to let you slip by.
It's not being scared. It's taking a defensive role rather an aggressive/passive one when it comes to the situation. I'm not going to open myself so easily so that I can be taken advantage of, used. It's happened to me before in the past and it left me feeling angered and depressed for about two years.

...I don't want to talk anymore about this.
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PanolX, I hope your conversation with her goes well, try not to be too nervous and remember to be yourself.
 

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EVERY STRANGER THAT LOOKS AT YOU KNOWINGLY AND LEAVES BEHIND A CLUE TO FOLLOW IS A POSSIBLE ADVENTURE. :3
Who knows, maybe you're one call away from saving the world or having your organs stolen! You may never know which one if you don't try!

I chickened out on it once, but it was much less mystical and spectacular.
 

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Just because a random girl gives u her number doesn't mean you should look at it as a good opportunity... but if and only for the purpose of growth, you should call her anyways
 

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It's not being scared. It's taking a defensive role rather an aggressive/passive one when it comes to the situation. I'm not going to open myself so easily so that I can be taken advantage of, used. It's happened to me before in the past and it left me feeling angered and depressed for about two years.

...I don't want to talk anymore about this.
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PanolX, I hope your conversation with her goes well, try not to be too nervous and remember to be yourself.
I didn't mean to come off as rude. Sorry. I guess we all have our own methods of self preservation. Me, I just jump in and hope I won't get burned. Yeah that causes problems, but so does defensiveness, aggression, and passiveness. Maybe you need to have a balance. Hell, I don't know. I'm just throwing out ideas here, who knows.

So you're gonna call the girl? Do tell what comes of it :happy:
 
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