From what I can see of ENFJ's they are more people oreanted than us INFP's. Ask these questions.
1. How do you do in social situations? Are you more comfortable or do you tend to shy away?
2. If there is a mess in your room do you have a need to get it cleaned? Or do you not mind dirt and clutter?
3. If you were in a situation where one of your strongest values was being violated, would you try to make peace with the person and let your strongly held values be violated or would you stand up to the person?
ENFJ's seem to care more about human relationships than INFP's. And ENFJ's are more likely to clean up messed where INFP's will overlook them. And ENFJ"s are much much better in social situations.
I admire ENFJ's and wish I has some of their traits when it comes to social situations.
Mmm.. those are pretty good. But to clarify some of his points..
Number 2: It's not really the actual "mess" that an ENFJ usually is bothered by.. we just have to be organized. It can be dirty, as long as we have it all organized in our heads. For example, my desk will be cluttered with paper, but cluttered in an organized way. I know where all my school homework is, and it's most likely organized by class, etc...
and number 3, we definitely hold our values and moral principles dearly. If someone doesn't agree with them, it really puts us over the edge. I wouldn't go out with anyone who didn't hold the same basic beliefs that I did, and I'm likely to end up debating with someone who disagreed with me over certain things.
But overall, yes, just ask yourself if you care about other people's feelings more than your own. If so, you're probably ENFJ. If not, probably not..
Thanks I was wondering how close I was. I have an ENFJ supervisor and I try to read him as much as possible.
You seem to be doing a pretty good job so far, in that case!
I wish more ENFJ's responded more on the forums.. XD
From what I can see of ENFJ's they are more people oreanted than us INFP's. Ask these questions.
1. How do you do in social situations? Are you more comfortable or do you tend to shy away?
2. If there is a mess in your room do you have a need to get it cleaned? Or do you not mind dirt and clutter?
3. If you were in a situation where one of your strongest values was being violated, would you try to make peace with the person and let your strongly held values be violated or would you stand up to the person?
When you are angry..... is it usually because you feel angry.... or because someone else was hurt? Don't try to answer the way you should but the way you would. IN other words..... are you feelings focused more on other people... and their feelings... or is it more just your feelings?
First if you haven't already please read the thread "You know you are ENFJ when..." good reading.
Basically...
Outgoing always socializing. Do you like people and are very sensistive to everybody liking you?
Do you despise conflict?
Do you wear your emotions openly?
Do you like to hear everyone's stories but keep things about you guarded.
Do you look for the inherent good?
When I am angry it is usually because I feel angry. It is a fault of mine that I don't have strong reaction to other people's hurt, I tend to be quite detached from that in a wierd way. Sometimes when someone has a very strong hurt reaction, it even annoys me - isn't that awful!!! But I do really care and will think a lot about how to help someone, or solve their problem, if they are hurt.
I often get angry at myself. I rarely get angry at others.
Who do you put first when thinking about situations involving yourself and others?
When you mess up and either directly or indirectly cause someone to be hurt do you feel bad because of it?
In any situation can you find the good in what is happening to yourself and/or those around you.
~EBD
This is easier than you'd think!
1) How many friends have you made from: the grocery store, bus, bus stop or walking down the street?
2) When a new person starts at work, do you find it exciting and can't wait to take them to lunch to find out all about them?
3) Do you suffer (emotionally) a lot in the short term with conflict but end up bouncing back well in the long term? ie being often the most fiery or upset but further down the track not really carrying much baggage?
If yes to these three than you are probably an ENFJ.
If the memory of your first boyfriend still haunts you...etc etc...you may not be.......
I would put others first, the tricky bit is more when there are multiple others and you have to choose who out of each of THEM to put first! Me, I can wait/fit in etc.
When I mess up and cause someone to be hurt I feel TERRIBLE
Yes, I can find the good in what is happening, some people find this annoying or think I am in denial but I know I am not.
What do you think Eternal Black Dragon, am I sounding like an ENFJ? Or could I be any other NF?
Hmm Here is one question that may help:
When your beliefs are challenged do you back down to avoid conflict?
~EBD
Do you have a small group (less than 4) of very close friends? (=> INFP)
Or you have a large group (more than 10) of not-so-close friends? (=> ENFJ)
I think the ENFJ will also have a small group of close friends, but the INFP almost never has a large group of normal friends.