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Need help figuring out my MBTI and Enneagram

I first read about the types and then took the MBTI test. The problem is I'm pretty sure that I was subconsciously selecting answers that would get me the types that I wanted. I ask for your help.

I am an 18 year old aspiring writer. I am the de facto leader of my group of friends and everyone who knows me sees me as one of the most intelligent people around.

At school, I was the President of the Philosophy Club and Manager of the Culinary class. People often told me that I was really calm to the point of complete indifference. I was very well-known around school for my eccentric clothing choices and hairstyles. I also picked up the nickname "Spider" because I had a "web" in everyone's business. People always end up spilling their feelings to me for some reason and I'm glad to have that information for some odd reason.

I can come on pretty strong sometimes because I almost immediately steer any new person into talking about their goals and how they plan on achieving them. I can be pretty mysterious myself because I have learned how to camouflage my true intentions to get information that I want. It's really easy for me to make people think I'm revealing my true self when I'm not really saying anything. My ever-present smile and monotone voice help a lot.

1. Establish a "baseline mood"--when you're at home with nothing to do, where are you at mentally and emotionally? What do you notice in yourself? (Note, this is not a mood you inhabit "frequently", but your psychological baseline).
There's no emotion really, I just feel ind of empty inside. I'm thinking of both new and old things and of ways to have fun that day.

2. Describe yourself--

a. What's it like to be you?

It's really a mixed bag. Loved by many, not really close to any almost. Often gets thoughts of how to manipulate a situation or person to work for you. Questioning if your a "good or bad" person then deciding it doesn't matter as it can't really be defined anyways. Always willing to help people, but also very persuasive in convincing them that what they want isn't as good as I what I think they want. I love adrenaline rushes and hanging out with friends, though I often suspect that they're a little dull. I am very attracted to the classic rockstar lifestyle and have materialist tendencies.

b. What have others said about you?

That I'm intelligent, fashionable, chill, and lazy. I'm ungrateful because I don't constantly than people for helping me. Completely unpredictable

c. What do you think of yourself?

I'm a man with an unrivaled intellect. I have a taste for adventure and am always scheming of a new way to get ahead. I can sometimes trample people to get where I need to be, but I always listen to people's problems and try to help them in the way I deem best. I play a lot with people for no apparent
reason other than to do it and have a major mischievous side often convincing my friends to do something stupid.

3. What are the issues you've dealt with in life? List some recurrent themes, and tell us a little about each one.

Intellectual loneliness, trying to control my impulsive side, my mouth getting me in trouble, manipulating people to help me, and sometimes lying just to do it.

4. You're not good at everything--

a. What personality traits and/or ways of being are impossible for you to adopt?

I could never be a sucker who fell for other people lies. I could never be a person who is content doing the same thing every day or being the same person as I was when I was younger. I don't like to cry about my emotional problems so I just ignore them largely until I have time to analyze them.

b. What are qualities you'd like to have, but can't seem to develop?

I'd like to be better at accepting my own emotions instead of being able to read other people's emotions so easily. I'd like to be more decisive with my life choices instead of switching every time there's a chance, though I always gravitate back towards my initial goals. I have a tunnel-like vision for things I want and even though it may seem like I'm going off-course, I always have an eye towards my dreams.

5. Why have you left friends and other relationships in the past and/or why have they left you?

6. Which types do you identify with most?
a. How do you relate to these types?
b. How do you NOT relate to them?

7. They claim enneagram type is a hidden love need. What are your attitudes toward finding love?

Sometimes I feel like I need to pursue love while other times I feel like I just need to wait for it.

8. What is the message your superego tells you?

Consider a time when you felt poorly about yourself--this means your ego (i.e. YOU) is receiving negative feedback from your superego. Write a conversation between the two of them--what is your superego telling you about how to be? (Note: this obviously is very personal and may be better done privately. Report your findings).

Me: I really messed up this time
Superego: Yeah, you should have seen this coming, it was super obvious.
Me: I wonder if destiny and the future really even matter.
Superego: Your goals are all that matter, forget about everything else.
Me: I don't need anyone else to succeed just me
Superego: Yeah, but you'll never be accepted by other people

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I think you are a ESTP for some reason i see Se with your quest for adventure, Ti i don't know how to explain it , Fe because people come to you for assistance and i don't really see presence of Ni. I'm still new i haven't figure out this cognitive functions much. What do you think?

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I am torn between EXTP and ENFJ for my type. Ido believe I have Se and Fe in my function stack.
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