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None, just imagine an ESFJ giving a relationship advice to an INTP, will it work? Will the INTP listen and perform exactly what the ESFJ told them to? Even if it works, it certainly won't be as effective as ESFJ+ESFJ advice giving. (yes this is a generalization but I hope you see the point).
And yes, the INTP subforum consists mostly of "how do I date/seduce/pick up an INTP" and "I am an INTP and want to date/seduce/pick up [insert type here]". It's amusing, though soon it will cross the border of annoying.
And yes, the INTP subforum consists mostly of "how do I date/seduce/pick up an INTP" and "I am an INTP and want to date/seduce/pick up [insert type here]". It's amusing, though soon it will cross the border of annoying.
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@Watcher of the Skies did a very valid point. Assuming we are talking about F stuff, I think for 1 to 1 relationships, ENFPs are likely to be the best and for 1 to all relationships ENFJs are likely to be the best.
Now for T stuff, ENTP for 1 to 1 and ENTJ for 1 to all.
My cents.
Now for T stuff, ENTP for 1 to 1 and ENTJ for 1 to all.
My cents.
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A lot of people think I give good advice and keep coming back for more despite the fact that I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing...
HOWEVER
In most of these cases, the problem is caused by something tiny and stupid then blown out of proportion by people making decisions based off of emotions.
Because I am distinctly inept at things of the emotional variety, I'm not good at sympathizing or holding their hand and nodding, "you're right, Ryan is so cruel. He never should have yelled at you for that. You're a delicate flower and he just doesn't realize it. What a brute.," but I AM good at looking at the situation for what it is and giving cold, (kind of) bitchy advice. "Ryan is a dick but you knew that when you started dating and it would be extremely stupid of you to expect him to NOT be a dick just because you're together. If you're upset because Ryan is being Ryan and you couldn't fix him, you're probably turning him into a project to fulfill your own neediness so you can be self-satisfied, telling the world how much you changed him, in which case you're naive and immature and shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. ALSO, I think anyone in their right mind would be upset if their girlfriend stole their credit card and loaded it up with 300$ of purchases without telling them so you really shouldn't be surprised."
(I vote for xxTx types who can look at the situation objectively and give non-emotionally-influenced answers.)
HOWEVER
In most of these cases, the problem is caused by something tiny and stupid then blown out of proportion by people making decisions based off of emotions.
Because I am distinctly inept at things of the emotional variety, I'm not good at sympathizing or holding their hand and nodding, "you're right, Ryan is so cruel. He never should have yelled at you for that. You're a delicate flower and he just doesn't realize it. What a brute.," but I AM good at looking at the situation for what it is and giving cold, (kind of) bitchy advice. "Ryan is a dick but you knew that when you started dating and it would be extremely stupid of you to expect him to NOT be a dick just because you're together. If you're upset because Ryan is being Ryan and you couldn't fix him, you're probably turning him into a project to fulfill your own neediness so you can be self-satisfied, telling the world how much you changed him, in which case you're naive and immature and shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. ALSO, I think anyone in their right mind would be upset if their girlfriend stole their credit card and loaded it up with 300$ of purchases without telling them so you really shouldn't be surprised."
(I vote for xxTx types who can look at the situation objectively and give non-emotionally-influenced answers.)
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Ive been on forums for relationships that were not related to MBTI at all, but it is still easy for me to type people. NFP posts always stand out to me as especially insightful and useful. Of course, I am one, but they seem to really grasp the fundamental aspects of human nature and relationships. So-called common sense based on social folklore is not such a pitfall for them. Multiple perspectives are grasped, so less personal bias is attached to some group they identify with, making them great mediators. Im always impressed with my fellow NFPs, although they could put their insight into practice more in their own relationships (its easier to see things clearly when you're not involved though).
INFJs just dont impress me, and I dont grasp the reason for their hype.
INFJs just dont impress me, and I dont grasp the reason for their hype.
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Depends what you want to know. I'm super awesome at breakups. Clean, efficient, bridge burning kind of breakups.
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Yeah see, I don't think good advice has to necessarily come from people that have "good" relationships. I do think it helps if, at SOME point they had a good one or ones.
The best advice I've got has been from ENTPs. Being one, that may make me bias. But they have a more no bullshit, tell you what's really going on, whether you wanna hear it or not, or whether the diagnosis is looking good or bad.
The empathy skills of a developed ENTP come out, and as well, the Fe. Same time, the "bigger picture" thinking excels here.
With Fi, I've recieved some good advice for sure, INFJs for example. But often, they seem to be less ruthless if the situation calls for ruthlessness.
my 3 cents.
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Agree with the most part, however you may have mistyped Fi or INFJ, since both are quite exclusive
- 50 cents for you :BHere is an example of one of my very vile egocentric attempts to give someone a relationship advice. The best part is that I am quoting myself lol. (taken from this thread : http://personalitycafe.com/intro/540130-my-entp-boyfriend-me-istj.html
Honestly, the safest option is to RUN! But if you like challenges and want to use your mental energy to figure him out and convince him (Fi will probably not work) go ahead, it might be intense
He sounds like an unhealthy ENTP really. I don't know his circumstances but if he didn't settle yet, then you might run out of steam before you would (hypothetically) succeed.
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Agree with the most part, however you may have mistyped Fi or INFJ, since both are quite exclusive
Here is an example of one of my very vile egocentric attempts to give someone a relationship advice. The best part is that I am quoting myself lol. (taken from this thread : http://personalitycafe.com/intro/540130-my-entp-boyfriend-me-istj.html
Hey! I think that's pretty good, cut the bullshit advice.
I added my own, ha.
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"cut the bullshit advice." Which one? (INFJ & Fi?)
This is only vaguely related to the topic but
Lots of people, mostly Feelers, tend to ask me for an advice on relationships despite me being awfully inexperienced and socially awkward. But they seem to crave the rational "what are pros and cons? *calculates* cons outweight pros. Final conclusion can be summed up by the word "asshole". Leave him." Maybe it seems to them to be more 'solid', reliable thing, with a trustworthiness bonus from being expressed by a rational
...But does that mean INTPs give good relationship advices, especially good for Feelers? Aw, man, I highly doubt it!
(sorry if it makes little sense, it's a bit late here)
Lots of people, mostly Feelers, tend to ask me for an advice on relationships despite me being awfully inexperienced and socially awkward. But they seem to crave the rational "what are pros and cons? *calculates* cons outweight pros. Final conclusion can be summed up by the word "asshole". Leave him." Maybe it seems to them to be more 'solid', reliable thing, with a trustworthiness bonus from being expressed by a rational
...But does that mean INTPs give good relationship advices, especially good for Feelers? Aw, man, I highly doubt it!
(sorry if it makes little sense, it's a bit late here)
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I'm guess you're talking to meewahh?? C'mon Wik, gotta summon me!
But yes, you are correct -50 cents, haha. but large Fi or Fe both present problems, I think. xxTx and ExTxs especially, are the bullshit cutters.
But INFJs, I've experienced them laying down the law, ha, to me personally, and it was appreciated. They basically summed up my relationship question (in the ENTP relationship thread) pretty well. But in a more gentle way. Still direct though. Me being me, the gentleness, I can take it or leave it. No doubt, some people prefer a little padding more.
I personally like to be bitch slapped with rationale if I'm out of line on something.
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I have no idea about in general, but I do think the better advice would come from a person as the same type as the people in the relationship.
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