What type is my OH?

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honestfi

Discussion Starter · Sep 1, 2010

I tried asking on the forums that I think he is, and have got little response so far. You lot seem to be pretty good at this so I'm asking here. It's a merge of two posts, hope the mods don't mind.

He can be incredibly fluffy and loving at times

He can also be incredibly moody - this has usually built up over a period of time when stuff that has been annoying him come to a head all in one go

He has opinions on most things, states them, and really does not give a stuff about how the receiver of the criticism feels about it. He has full faith in his opinion.

Once he gets an idea, or has a plan, he starts it and makes sure he finishes it, even if it means missing dinner, favourite radio/TV programme etc

He will randomly go out on his bike/go for a walk just for the heck of it

He will start a convo/debate with me, and be annoyed when I don't have an opinion and accuses me of disinterest

He is romantically random - he will do odd, loving things like buy some silly trinket because he knows I would like it, or cooks eggs and toast at 2am (as happened during the UK General Election as we stayed up most of the night watching)

He is 100% of what he is - no bullshit - and I love him for it

He is 100% loyal and gets angry with other people who are not, or don't keep their promises

He LOVES radio and car programmes (though this might just be a boy thing)

I could never convince him to do a MBTI test voluntarily

Things have to be....just.....so....I'm not talking OCD, but like the knives and spoons in the right order on the rack and facing the right way? (OK that sounds OCD) All his radios have to be in easily accessible spots from his place on the sofa.

Listening to the same piece of music again...and again....and again

An appreciation for the little things in life

Tidiness really is next to godliness. My gosh, don't I know it...

A way of making a tenner last seemingly for days

Gaining a rapport - with anyone - in seconds

I thought maybe ISFP or ISFJ. Oh, and whether it has any bearing or not, he's managed to put up with this INTP for over 20 years.

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honestfi

Discussion Starter · #4 · Sep 1, 2010

Hmm. Can understand the J, but reading their thread the ISFJ sounds too apologetic and maybe analytical. There is very little in the thread that I can relate to. Reading ISFP's, there is a heck of a lot which is him...but not quite. He could be borderline. He could be one of the few who is near impossible to type. He could be E, there is a lot of him in there too on ESFP.

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honestfi

Discussion Starter · #9 · Sep 2, 2010

CrabHammer said:
So a lot of the things you list seem very Fi/Te axis oriented to me. That would put him at xxFP. You don't seem to mention other friends or anything like that. (Not saying he doesn't have them, just that apparently it hasn't struck you as a hugely important part of his personality.) So that would seem to point to an introvert, and IxFP. His perception functions I'm having a harder time grasping. Things like going on random car rides and listening to music obsessively seem very S to me, in particular Se. So I'd probably go with ISFP (Fi-Se-Ni-Te) with a weak F causing his T side to come out in his orderly ways.

Thanks CH. This is a very well thought out answer, and has sorted out a few of my uncertainties.

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honestfi

Discussion Starter · #12 · Sep 3, 2010

Mendelevium said:
He sounds like my mother at times. :crazy:

Hahaha he can be a bit of a woman sometimes, in fact, there have been times in the past when I think that I should have been the bloke, he the woman.:tongue:

Anyway, am pretty convinced is ISFP with maybe a fair bit of J and E. Thanks guys.

I know that this hasn't been mentioned, but I just wanted to add that we get on well because of common values and beliefs. I don't actually believe that the MBTI matters that much when finding an ideal partner. On paper, you may think that the relationship is doomed with him on such a high F, and me high T (for me I think it's the highest of all the elements at around 75%, I is around 70%). But he actually reminds me to show some emotion once in a while, and that my nose is in front of my face :laughing:

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