Right now, she's a bit of a "maybe a friend, maybe a love" to me. Very much maybe. I've just decided to be as nice to her as possible and see where it goes... I stink at reading signals though, so I've got no clue how she feels for me. But if she outright tells me that she wants to know everything about me, cook for me, bring me to the opera, never wants to hung up on the phone when we talk and promise to always support and listen to me... that has to be a good sign. Right? Haha, maybe I'm just thick as a log, but it's hard to know whether the cake she made for you meant something special, because you guys makes cakes for everyone. :laughing:(especially if she has feelings for you)
I also love receiving letters, mixtapes, drawings (you're good to go on that one, Oliver :happy, that sort of thing. Journals are always a great option, especially if the person writes a little note (or, preferably, a loooong letter) in first few pages. And I know that it's really unoriginal and a known standby option, but I love getting flowers, simply because I love flowers.
Basically, as Enigma and Saccha said, keep it personal and unique. That's the golden ticket. :laughing:
So I have this birthday gift idea for an ENFJ girl I like.
Her favorite flower is an Amaryllis and I thought I would just get her something simple that ties in with that. I would actually buy the pot, the soil and seed and put it together for her, and water it for a few weeks and then give it to her for her birthday.
Along with that, I would make a card that would say "I thought I'd make you a cute card." It would have pictures of cute, baby animals likes puppies, kitties, ducks, etc. and a picture of me from when I was really little riding a tricycle in my overalls and wearing some oversized sunglasses (it's cute, and embarrassing). Either I'd put my picture on the cover, or on the inside. If it's on the inside, I'd put a cartoon bubble that would say "happy birthday!" on it.
Reaaalllly simple and not "overbearing" as we've only known each other a few months. As much as I'd like to go all out and do a bunch of nice things for her, I can't, lest I scare her away haha.
On top of that, I'd have my own plant that I'd water and take care of...come spring time or summer, she'd have another gift. One that I put time and work into myself for her.
What do you guys think? Yay, Nay? Any suggestions? Thank ya! :laughing:
First, I would refuse any gift someone suggested to me in advance of the giving (e.g. "I'd like to give you a gift - what would you like?") though I love giving gifts and never feel at all odd if someone doesn't presume to give back. But I would accept a gift once given.
Second, the drawing is absolutely a perfect idea. Of course, you'll need to do it without involving her. Drawing her from memory is even more meaningful even if the picture comes out looking like the cross between a fairy and a bunny rabbit because that's how you perceive her.
Ohhh, I like the flower idea! Personally, I would love a gift like that and I like to think I have a green thumb. Plants are a gift that keep on giving! Simple and not overbearing is the safest way to go about things until you get to know each other better but that doesn't mean you can't give her anything sweet, cute or sentimental.
I also like your card idea since anything with old pictures of kids doing something silly makes me go "Awww!" Retro stuff like that always puts a smile on my face! However, the quirkiest card I ever got was from a friend that had a picture of a hot dog that read "Birthday's are like wieners..." but on the inside it said "Well, they're not like wieners, I just thought there should be more cards that say "wiener". And on the very bottom it read "Wiener! Wiener! Wiener!" Sure, it was odd but it made me laugh since it was just totally different but in a goofy way :crazy:
Thanks for the feedback! I think INFJs and ENFJs have a lot of the same humor and stuff. The wiener idea for a card is hilarious. I would die laughing, especially if it's from an ENFJ. You ENFJs have a way of saying or doing things that are hilariously cute. :laughing: