well if you talked to him several times and perhaps did work for him in a research group then it is not awkward for you to ask for a recommendation letter - feels awkward, but you know what, some of those "gorgeous" girls are going to demand one from him and not even blink or have second thoughts or uncomfortable feelings about it, and you are not any worse than themhaha, vel, you're too quick! i edited the post, but i just saw your reply. I guess you're right... he's using his facebook to promote his social life, but it still irks me that he told us to add him, and cherry picked some people. as for the letter, i didn't ask him yet, i was planning on going in person in the fall, but now it's so... awkward.
and won't it be weird if i send him a second facebook request?
I would actually consider that sort of behavior to be a deviation from the standard. I went to a big university though, so perhaps it is an effect of size. Our professors kept their personal lives and professional lives separate. I was part of a research group for a couple of years and max our prof did was have some group get together events with us every couple of months, like going to a park making bbq and playing volleyball or soccer. And this was the norm across most other groups as well.yeah, you're right (again). =) I shouldn't feel awkward. I was planning on going by his office when he was back in school anyway so I guess I'll go then.
I guess I got my hopes up with facebook... all of my newly graduated friends and I got really excited about this. We thought "oh this must be one of those privileges of graduating -- your professors invite you into their social lives and you become more 'equals' in the academic world." and a lot of idealistic stuff about getting to know our professors more, developing deeper professional (and more casual) relationships, networking and all that stuff. BOO. my idealistic world has again been waken up by reality. again.