I cannot really comprehend why being friendzoned is such a bad thing.
Friendship is the best thing ever. Seriously.
Friendship is the best thing ever. Seriously.
Yes. Terms for assholes. :/The friend zone is a situation that entitled men use to describe a relationship in which they feel they've been kind/considerate/thoughtful/helpful/gentelmanly enough to a woman that she should have sex with them, the woman is not interested in them sexually however and considers them a friend. This is only a bad thing because the man wants to be having sex with the woman, he doesn't want to be her friend.
I really don't understand this. "Friendzone" to me has always been the term you use for an unrequited crush (which I think everyone can agree is painful af and therefore a less-than-ideal situation). I have no idea how or when it became associated with sexist entitled assholes. I don't even know anyone like that?? Literally all I have to go on are posts like this.The friend zone is a situation that entitled men use to describe a relationship in which they feel they've been kind/considerate/thoughtful/helpful/gentelmanly enough to a woman that she should have sex with them, the woman is not interested in them sexually however and considers them a friend. This is only a bad thing because the man wants to be having sex with the woman, he doesn't want to be her friend.
Depends on how you're using it I suppose. You get unrequited love, which already had a term to describe it and is a tale old as time (song as old as rhyme) and then you get the friend zone. To my mind at least they bare little resemblance to each other. If I had to make up an entirely arbitrary distinction: Unrequited love is when you have an established, deep relationship where one party doesn't feel the romantic feelings the other one does. The emphasis is on love. It features feelings like angst and longing and pain and the Romantics were crazy about it. The friendzone is when you're nice or kind to someone but your primary motivation in doing so is to have sex with them, that's the active goal that serves as your motivation. It primarily features feelings of frustration and that feeling kids get when they are denied cookies, the Romantics incidentally also weren't crazy about it.I really don't understand this. "Friendzone" to me has always been the term you use for an unrequited crush (which I think everyone can agree is painful af and therefore a less-than-ideal situation). I have no idea how or when it became associated with sexist entitled assholes. I don't even know anyone like that?? Literally all I have to go on are posts like this.
Like, I'm sure dudes like that exist but I haven't seen any, which leads me to believe their numbers must be very small. Too small for their usage of this word to have turned it into such a negative thing. What am I missing here?
To be honest, I found it a lot more common in male friendships. It's almost an anecdote by now about how "remember how %married_guy_name% hanged out with us, and now he's totally under wife's heel". If there is any complication exclusive to case with female friends, I suppose, it's potential jealousy.I personally don't believe in friendship between men and women.
Men and women can be acquaintances, but they can never be close friends, because when either party gets married in future, the friendship will end up changing forever and the friendship will become more distant, since their spouse will become their new best friend.
Make sense. :/*First a moment of silence for those in the friend zone*
Alright hold my orange juice, I got this!
Being friend zoned is seen as a bad thing because it is usually a waste of time and resources for the "thirsty party." What the people in the thread fail to realize is that while it can just be "being nice" to said individual that it could also involve dropping money. How much money is determined by how naive the person is. I cannot speak much from the women's side of the "friend zone" but I do know about the male side.
Pretty much as a male you believe the "hype" that is presented via television, movies, etc. where if a guy is nice then a girl will take notice and they will live happily ever and ride into the sunset because women don't like assholes...which is complete bullshit. Real life isn't like that however when you are young and naive you think so (kinda like how you believe in santa when you are little) You have been told these things repeated growing up so you believe it and behave accordingly. So for men the expectation is that you must be "super nice" to a girl to get her to notice you so you compliment a girl that you like calling her beautiful, you hold the door for her, you buy her flowers/gifts on valentine's day, you buy Christmas gifts, lunch, etc. You do all this trying to get her attention and, to be honest, some women love this because it's FREE SHIT lol Now some women would tell the guy early on he has no chance but others use this opportunity to exploit this "nice guy" by intentionally giving mixed messages giving the guy a glimmer of hope. That he COULD potentially be more than a friend.
To put this in simple terms, imagine if you are a volunteer at a place that has a spot open for employment. You are the first person there and the last to leave. Doing whatever you can to try to show you are "employment material." 9 times out of 10 the employer KNOWS whats up. Some have the decency to tell you that the position has already been filled and that the volunteer should invest their time elsewhere but other employers conveniently "forget" to tell the volunteer the position has been filled.
If we gonna be "real" here some women do suck in the sense that they know whether or not there are interested in a guy or not. If you aren't interested then don't take any of the free stuff he offers. The problem is that some women string these poor naive saps along so they are basically putting in 40 hours a week expecting a paycheck and get nothing...then yall wonder why they get salty. You'd be salty too lmao
The good thing is that now a resource exists for these boys/men who didn't have male figures in their lives to warn them about such behaviors. Hopefully the experience leads to them getting red pilled so they can become better aware of some of the common tactics used giving some of these saps a fighting chance to reach their relationship goals (be it companionship or sex)