I forgot to put down my own opinions! Well here goes...
I guess you could call me lazy in the way I approach relationships, maybe I'm just not around girls who attract me that much, but I just have never found myself looking for a relationship. I really just wanna have fun and if someone comes along that catches my eye and my heart, then things tend to progress naturally anyway. I'm ok with being by myself though, no need to interject extra drama in my life for the sake of HAVING a PERSON.
While I'm not necessarily opposed to dating, I do think that it tends to lead more to serial relationships instead of long-term ones. I tend to be really casual in a relationship, and honest, and I prefer to keep things platonic for as long as possible. I want to know if I can be friends with a person before I get involved ya know? It's at that stage where I get real comfortable with a kind of equilibrium of "ok we're two good friends who are REALLY attracted to each other and we both know it, but we don't need much more." I've got a bunch of girls infact who have made it at least this far. I guess I tend to put off commitment.
And that's not at all because I'm a non-committal sort of person, in fact the exact opposite. See I know if I get involved, that I just have a lot to give, and opening myself up like that tends to really stick me to a person. I cannot be casually in love with a person, I am always super focused on becoming as close to that person that I can. This is why I don't have sex, I KNOW I couldn't handle it. Gosh, it's bad enough for me to just get CLOSE to a girl, there's no fricken WAY I could ever have SEX with one and get over her... :blushed:
This doesn't really stop my relationships from turning distinctly sexual anyway, it just becomes a more hypothetical sexual, like "yeah if I wanted to you know I could have you" kinda thing :crazy: it's all silly fun, because if it was anything more, it would suck me in and I'd never get me back for reals...
Also I tend to really idealize my relationships, and as with anything that I idealize I associate it with religion. I'm intensely spiritual in my approach to relationships, and my relationship with God is paramount to the way I proceed in a relationship. Especially if it gets into any trouble. Whoo boy then I'm on my knees day and night scoring good behavior points looking for some divine intervention!
Lol, then again most of this is based off of just a single girl but still, it's prolly a pattern....
But seriously it really effects the way I go about a relationship even in good times, which are pretty much any times that aren't bad times. I really enjoy when I'm in a relationship. I believe firmly in giving as much as you can without caring whether you get anything back, cuz you know you will, you can't treat any decent girl totally awesome and then have her just soak it up and move on. Girls as I see them are instinctively hardwired to give back, and most of the time its tenfold what they get. That's why I give so much, cuz they deserve being equal in how much they give, even if its just because we are both giving it all we got.
No even when I'm not in a relationship I try to think of my entire life as a gift to whomever that person is that I'll end up with some day, and anybody along the way for that matter. It keeps me on my toes, keeps me working out, doing well in school and work, keeps me creative and generally approaching life with gusto. ALso it gives me the much-needed motivation to get over my utter caucasianicity when it comes to teh dancin. I wanna dance with my girl, and I wanna dance well, it's romantic, right? I guess when it comes down to it, I just wanna be the ideal for a girl as much as she's an ideal for me. I wanna be perfect for her. Someday...

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Hmmm it seems impossible for me to write a short comment... :tongue: