Sometimes you set a goal and work hard to achive it or get it, but then you realize that it didn't worth all that effort or it was not that important.If you could go back knowing what you know today, what would you change?Raising my 16 year old INFP son, who is growing into a kind, smart, creative, and deep thinking young man.
I've also had plenty of successes in my previous career as an accountant and manager, but they seem so unimportant to me know. So, I think another great of achievement of mine has been to summon up the courage to quit my old career and pursue a PhD in a completely different field (psychology) despite the fact that it will take me until I'm at least 50 to complete it.
That's a hard question to answer because I'm not sure what I would keep the same. I feel like I've become a completely different person in the last 4 or 5 years (it happened somewhere around that 40 year mark), with a completely different set of priorities. I think I would work just at hard at my goals, but my goals would have been completely different. I would have focused much more on people and much less on tasks. I would have trusted my instincts and walked away from challenges when they didn't make me happy instead of always feeling that I had to keep forging ahead according to the "plan". I really think my biggest accomplishment has been learning to trust my feelings/intuition, and to not be afraid to follow them wherever they lead me.Sometimes you set a goal and work hard to achive it or get it, but then you realize that it didn't worth all that effort or it was not that important.If you could go back knowing what you know today, what would you change?
EYENTJ, Thanks. Good luck to you too! To answer your question... I'm hoping to get into a counseling psychology program (to also begin Fall 2011) with an emphasis in career counseling topics such as personality, values, etc. I'm not 100% certain whether in the end I will want to be a career counselor, researcher/writer, professor or a combination. So far I believe that I would enjoy all/any of these careers.Catlauren: Wish you the best of luck in pursuing psychology. Myself, I'm looking at Clinical and OBM programs to start in Aug 2011. What do you wish to do in graduate school?
This is awesome and good for you!I've achieved most of the things I dreamed of doing as a teenager and a young adult, though not always in the ways I had expected.
When I accomplish my goals, I feel good about myself. I work hard and love the feeling when it has paid off. With each accomplishment, I know I can get through anything if I really work at it.But. . .
Lately I've realized that thinking in terms of goals--and going all-out to achieve them--has had a negative effect in my life. I know it's what everyone seems to think is the way to do it, but a danger of that approach is that once you get there you tend to expect to be loved for having reached your goal. But just achieving a goal is not a reason to love anyone. This has been a challenge for me because I was led from an early age to think only of goals and not to prize myself and others just for being. So now, I'm trying to work on that.