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Hey all, I was just sitting around with Spotify on and I heard the song "No Type" by Rae Srummond. It's a horrible song and I hate it passionately but I started pondering about preferences, and what my own were. In days past, I've been asked what my "type" was. Knowing they meant physical appearance over MBTI type, I would normally respond with "Tall, slender, long torso, caramel to butter pecan skin, short natural hair." Seems to always please the interviewer, yet left me unsatisfied with my response. I don't go out and speak to women specifically with those attributes, nor am I naturally inclined to notice them first. So I began to ask myself, what is my preference?

I've come to realize everyone has a preference, yet it may through and entirely different categorization for each individual. Some define it by physical appearance, intelligence level, personality type, hobbies, interests, net worth, and a myriad of other qualifications and combinations. I deducted that my preference has to do with 3 things: Physical Compatibility, Awareness, and Adaptability.

In terms of Physical compatibility, I am very aware I need someone who can dress in a similar fashion, and we have the same level of physical attractiveness in a general sense. I never want the question of "How did he get her" or "how did she get him" to come in to question. It's an unfortunate situation that I'm not proud of but can't really change consciously. Sense the bane of my existence are those that lack self and general awareness, it makes sense that women who know themselves are attractive to me. My preference specifically lies somewhere between wallflower and stage-hogger. The one that comes to a party to be at the party. Not to watch everyone else and be disassociated, yet not begging for attention of everyone entering the room. Adaptability is last, but not least, because it helps add the idea of change (which is paramount for the ENTP type anyway.) I enjoy women who can be articulate and "proper" relevant to the circumstance, but I love those with a knack for having a temper. Some people refer to them as female dogs, though I'm not sure whether to be taken aback or embrace the stereotype.

Regardless of my humdrum tastes, I'm curious. What are your preferences and in which way do you define your view of a "type?"
 

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Smart, ambitious but submissive brunettes with a morbid streak and a compatible music taste.

Nothing else has ever got me going.
 

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Interesting. I can agree and relate to most of what you say except for the "Physical compatibility", especially the part
I never want the question of "How did he get her" or "how did she get him" to come in to question.
Because:
1. I have a very weird sense of beauty and attractiveness. I find attractive some men I am aware might not be considered handsome to most people. Examples for famous people can be: Adrien Brody, Mesut Ozil, and so many others I can't think of right now.
2. I don't care what other people think of my choices. If I like him, if I find him extremely hot it's none of anyone else's bussiness to state who's hotter than whom. Besides, there's always going to be that particular person who wouldn't approve. Haters gonna hate, you know.

With that being said, I really like your idea of adaptability. I've always said the most important trait in a person and the trait I'm most proud of in myself is adaptability. Oh, I love change.
 

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I think the people who know me well and have seen the guys I've dated and been in relationships with would agree to the following: I have no type. Every guy has been massively different from each other. I like guys who won't let me push them around though. Cause I need resistance. I also have had a tendency to like IxxP. I do prefer dark hair/features more then light though.
 

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I think the people who know me well and have seen the guys I've dated and been in relationships with would agree to the following: I have no type. Every guy has been massively different from each other. I like guys who won't let me push them around though. Cause I need resistance. I also have had a tendency to like IxxP. I do prefer dark hair/features more then light though.
Yep, I agree with you, someone always doing what you want, no resistance whatsoever. Boring!
I can also relate to that about Ne and Se users, but I prefer it to be the dominant function; extroverts, please.
 
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Yep, I agree with you, someone always doing what you want, no resistance whatsoever. Boring!
I can also relate to that about Ne and Se users, but I prefer it to be the dominant function; extroverts, please.
Yeah. Compliance is so so boring! I think that's why I'm with a hella assertive ISTP 8 XD plenty of resistance and freedom! <3
 

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Yeah. Compliance is so so boring! I think that's why I'm with a hella assertive ISTP 8 XD plenty of resistance and freedom! <3
I can totally see the attractiveness in Se & Ti :th_love:
 

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I must agree on the disdain for pure compliance without retaliation. It's no fun being with someone who just agrees with everything you do.
 

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@Harvey, type-wise, I think the most compatible types are the same quadra, for me. That means I typically like NTPs and SFJs. ESFJs over ISFJs, because most of the time, there is such a wide gap between our Si and Ne. As far as attraction, don't apologize that you want a girl you consider hot. Attraction is subjective, and I'd only want to date someone with whom I would enjoy playing naked genital hockey. Attraction creates the chalice of fulfillment and personality fills it up. A person can be over flowing with personality, but if their looks can't contain it, then they belong in the trough of friendship. Of course, you can always have a fulfilling personal relationship and just blindfold yourself during sex and listen to wild German audio porn.
 
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So which celebrities personalities are you guys attracted to?
Personality-wise, I can dig an INTP like Aubrey Plaza or an ESFJ like Anne Hathaway. Actually, both would be great at the same time. Also, the kinkiness of Lexi Belle, an ENTP, would basically sum up this unrealistic fantasy. (Feel free to "research" her if you need to.)
 
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As for appearance: Someone with a unique face. Let me explain: I don't have a thing for traditional handsome guys, because I have a hard time telling them apart, at first. I like expressive body language. Someone who can make a joke with his face and posture alone.

I've never thought about personality types, but if I think about it, it's probably xxxP, particularly those with strong Ne, Ti or Fi. So xNxP, ISxP. Open, able to keep up with my trains of thoughts, I don't want to have to explain myself all the time. (which is more likely to be the case with those with high Ji, because they already thought about it, and those with high Pe, but mostly Ne, because they are used to wild tangents.)

For the rest... Humour, preferably a bit absurdist. (Related to the above) Passionate about something (A hobby, an interest, you name it.). Not a coward (So not averse to doing something because of some perceived, but undefined danger.). Independent, he has to have some activities that he does without me, those relationships where the two of them act as if they are glued together aren't usually very healthy if that continues after the first few months.

So far, I've always lost interest after a while in every guy I've liked, before I made a move or anything. So I don't have any SO's to refer to, just people that have sparked my interest in the past.
 

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Eh, I have several different "types," so to speak, but the one that I find most attractive is I guess someone who's a take-charge person. Not necessarily in a controlling way, but is proactive and energetic in a more directed way (as opposed to my kind of scattered, spastic energy) but still a little kooky like me :tongue:. I think MBTI-wise, that aligns best with ENTJs. NTJs are still kind of foreign to me though, it's been more of an observe-from-afar deal so far. But I think this one guy who seems to have some glimmer of interest in me could possibly be an ENTJ...Anyway, that's what I find most magnetic. I mean, there are other basic details like some degree of intelligence, physical beauty, and emotional stability, but those are more like...checklist things and less personality/"aura," I feel.

The other "types" are more like what I find appealing but don't really pull me in the same way. In terms of MBTI types, I enjoy EPs a lot and tend to gravitate toward them, but I don't have much romantic interest in them. Wonderful friends, but I guess the similarities turn me off them romantically. I tend to be attracted to FJs too, but I think that's more because they serve as 'mentors' (being Fe-tert) and emotional shelters to me. Otherwise, the strong Fe (and sometimes the additional Si in the case of SFJs) can be difficult for me to handle. TPs are interesting/fun to talk to, but in the case of ITPs, they tend not to be "active" enough for me.

I say all of this without much dating experience, though. But that's partly because I've never been that romantically attracted to anyone up until recently. Most of my attractions have been platonic, with a few mild, short-lived crushes here and there (often based on appearance).
 

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Interesting. I can agree and relate to most of what you say except for the "Physical compatibility", especially the part

Because:
1. I have a very weird sense of beauty and attractiveness. I find attractive some men I am aware might not be considered handsome to most people. Examples for famous people can be: Adrien Brody, Mesut Ozil, and so many others I can't think of right now.
2. I don't care what other people think of my choices. If I like him, if I find him extremely hot it's none of anyone else's bussiness to state who's hotter than whom. Besides, there's always going to be that particular person who wouldn't approve. Haters gonna hate, you know.

With that being said, I really like your idea of adaptability. I've always said the most important trait in a person and the trait I'm most proud of in myself is adaptability. Oh, I love change.

Yes!! I find those men at the top of my list too!
 
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