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when an INFP says i love you?

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i've been friends with this infp since i was a senior in hs and she was a Sophomore who was my best friend's girl friend. our friendship has gotten closer in the past 7 years even tho we've been thousands of miles apart now and again. i've now moved to texas and she had happened to be in the town im in to attend her grandparents anniversary. we hung out for 2 days after not seeing each other for a year eventho we talk every week and she brought up the idea of marriage after she finishes nursing school next year and she wanted to settle down with me..but the thing is.. i've always cared about her..flaws and all.. i love her and tell her that but shes never said it back eventho i know she..enjoys it and cares, she gives great hugs.. anyway..
shes been going thru some stuff lately health wise, relationship wise..( shes single, but people are spreading rumors about her) i guess average stress of someone in their mid 20's. we had a conversation.. i tried to help, she snapped at me and told me i didnt understand and to just leave her alone for today but said she loves me.. that's the first time i've ever heard her say that to me... i know she cares but when i try to tell her that she, her life and well being are important to me... she "clams up"
how long does it take an infp to realize that or acknowledge it. does it come easy to you? what do tho's words mean to you? i know every human is different.. i guess im just trying to look at things from different perspectives.
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I can't speak from too much personal experience, but I can say that I generally know how I feel about a person pretty quickly, and those feelings, whatever they are, are usually quite strong. However, as others have mentioned, I find it excruciatingly difficult to express my affection, even to people I genuinely do love.

As for her clamming up, well, I guess I can sort of understand that. I don't know how to explain it, and I don't get why I am this way at all, but it is sometimes uncomfortable for me to hear the way people feel about me. Especially if it's unexpected, I need to sort of process it and decide how I feel about that, how I want to react, and all of that.

I don't know. There could be a lot of different things going on here, actually, and I am wary of misleading you at all. Take everything I say with a grain of salt, for the record.

Oh, and the helping thing. I actually hate it when people try to solve my problems for me. If I'm venting, it's just to get the feelings out. It's frustrating when people automatically want to dismiss my feelings and push me to take action to "fix" it all. But that's just me.
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