That pretty much sums up what I do. I generally find it easier to talk to someone with similar views, or surround myself with like minded people; which is where I get my energy. If I'm really pissed off, I need to be around people. Sometimes I like to be a lone, but would prefer to be around a like minded person when I am pissed off.I keep it to myself. Usually after 30 minutes to an hour I'm calm. Unless, something has happened that I completely disagree with, and then I might rant and rave to myself for an extended time. Might even find a friend that shares the same views as me and talk to them about it.
Can you explain the offensive thing she said?Last night my girlfriend said something offensive to be me by saying "Oh! You mean those Chinese girls? Your dream come true. Hehe. It's okay. You are my China boy".
Then she goes to defend herself by saying "I was just joking around and trying to be like what other people do and have fun."
I explained that it was going too far. Then she got upset and wouldn't swallow her pride.
Next morning, today, she just ignored me and texted me neutral responses and being evasive.
Ugh. I don't know how to deal with you ESFJ females. Teach me! What do you want me to do!?
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She had no intention to insult me or hurt me. That I did apologize to her. I just found it offensive because she grew up in Hiroshima, Japan. Her first boyfriend was Chinese and was a real jerk. I am half Chinese and half Vietnamese. She would go on and on about making fun of Chinese males and females whether they are fobs (fresh of the boat) or Chinese born American raised here in the United States.
I just found it unfair and offensive that she would say "Chinese girls. Your dream come true" when she knows I do not like Chinese girls. To be fair, I would never tell her "Look over there. Japanese guys. Your dream come true." That's offensively and I guess I expected her to treat me the way I treat her.