I'm curious how other INFJ's try and handle their exes. I usually just give them the INFJ doorslam, although not always. The reason for it is well, obviously I feel a bit hurt by them. I don't think any of my exes would ever say I did anything bad towards them, but things just have never worked out. I know people can't control their feelings, and I don't ever blame someone for not having romantic feelings for me. I will however blame them for saying very serious things and then pulling a 180, which consequently will lead to that person getting doorslammed (as my doorslam of someone yesterday would show)
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Examples of things they said and changed their mind about.
I belong to you.
I'm yours
I'm the luckiest girl in the world.
God you're perfect
You're so amazing
The list goes on. Anyways, I'd be lying if I didn't say I saw it coming. I also held back a little bit because I drew parallels from a previous relationship so I've experienced it before and luckily that prevented me from being hurt too much. It doesn't prevent me from being angry at them though, hence the doorslam. Despite them being cut out of my life and me working on forgetting them, I'd still help them if they ever requested my assistance. It seems weird.. like. I don't want to talk to her for years probably, if ever again, but if she was in need I would aid her to the best of my ability. I don't know if she knows that, and I don't plan on telling her either way. Wondering how many of you can relate.
Examples of things they said and changed their mind about.
I belong to you.
I'm yours
I'm the luckiest girl in the world.
God you're perfect
You're so amazing
The list goes on. Anyways, I'd be lying if I didn't say I saw it coming. I also held back a little bit because I drew parallels from a previous relationship so I've experienced it before and luckily that prevented me from being hurt too much. It doesn't prevent me from being angry at them though, hence the doorslam. Despite them being cut out of my life and me working on forgetting them, I'd still help them if they ever requested my assistance. It seems weird.. like. I don't want to talk to her for years probably, if ever again, but if she was in need I would aid her to the best of my ability. I don't know if she knows that, and I don't plan on telling her either way. Wondering how many of you can relate.