Fantasize, then get disappointed because life doesn't live up to expectation, then try to contain and destroy all emotion, then acknowledge some emotion, then pretend not to notice emotion, then quietly reconcile self with emotion one day
Overall, it knocks me for six when I end up especially liking someone and I never know how to act, how much contact to make and worry that I'm intruding, being obsessive or just being a moron and projecting my own feelings into her every word, look and action.
I find that when I'm interested in someone, I tend to over-think everything. Plan and strategize for each interaction. A subtle combination of avoiding and seeking out the person. I am a total stalker.
When I find somebody that catches my eye I observe them, profile them, learn their behaviours and seek out any inconsistencies. I will do this for days, weeks, months. I try to absorb as much information out of what is available to form a larger picture. Even manipulate them to notice me in the light that I want to be noticed. I will do this before even approaching said person as I will have it pretty well mapped out in my head how they will react and what angle to approach them with.
lol so that's why you've been hanging around INTJ forums so much :tongue:oh and i secretly wonder if they are also on PerC. if i see anyone's posts that sounds like them, i immediately stalk that person's posts until i can rule out it's not that person.... :tongue: um i guess thats not a secret anymroe