This question is primarily for the ESFJs on here (all 4 of them! 
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but if you are very versed in ESFJs and you have some input, have at it!
Where do we find ESFJs in real life?
What kind of careers are you drawn to?
What kind of schooling do/did/will you pursue?
Where do you spend your free time?
What kind of social gatherings do you think would attract the most ESFJs?
And where would someone likely not find you?
The more responses, the better!
My mom is an ESFJ, and I obviously know her very well, so I'm going to answer on her behalf to the best of my ability. ^.^
1. Anywhere and everywhere... I suppose the library would be a less likely place unless they want information on a specific subject. My mom likes any social gatherings. She likes to go to friends' houses. She runs errands like crazy though. She spends a lot of time shopping.
2. Before I was born and when I was young, my mom was doing bartending and serving jobs at restaurants. She absolutely loved it. She got to socialize, and she was skilled at all of the details of serving that I wouldn't know and knowing all of the little things she had to remember. She was a good worker; I could tell by the way she talked about it. She put passion into it. She ended up quitting that to work at my grandpa's jewelry store. She organized everything. She knew where everything was. The regular customers always asked for her; they loved her. (I worked there for awhile.) My grandpa (ENTJ) pretty much needed her, but he made her feel very unappreciated by saying hurtful things, and she needed to stay at home because my brothers were getting into a lot of trouble, so she quit that to be a stay-at-home mom. She loved cleaning and cooking and taking care of my brothers and me and her boyfriend. She told me she loved being a housewife (not those exact words). She only complained about it when she felt unappreciated. She started taking classes at a community college and hoped to become a respiratory therapist, but she started failing her online classes because I was in the hospital for months and she had to stay there with me every night in a different state. I remember the first time she failed an online test because I went into v-tach (similar to a heart attack, I suppose), so she had to miss her test. She had to quit her classes. She said temporarily. She never tried again, even though I urged her. She would have made an excellent respiratory therapist. I'm sad for her, 'cause her life isn't good right now. I think she feels directionless... but yeah, I think good jobs for ESFJ's would be jobs that involve serving/helping people, direct human contact, and jobs that let their organization skills flourish. I think especially stuff in the medical field working directly with patients would be good.
Although, now that I think about it, if my mom had gotten a job as a respiratory therapist, my brothers would have had no supervision (ESFP & ESTP), and they are incredibly... bad... with drugs and stuff. They're sixteen and seventeen, and they pretty much /need/ my mom to be hovering over them. I think that's mostly why she didn't go back to school. One of my brothers is in a detention home now, if that gives you an idea of how much they misbehave. My mom is at a loss. I don't think I could go to work if I were her either.
3. Like I said, my mom started college, but she had to quit because of me and never went back for it...
4. My mom absolutely loves cooking for people... so she loves hosting. She said she gets such satisfaction out of cooking for people who enjoy her food. I try to remember to thank her, because something that small can make her so happy (just like me). She likes other parties like that of course, but she prefers to host them. Holidays are awesome for her. She used to be a huge partier though; she hung out at bars a lot. I try not to think about that part of her. She still has a big drinking problem, but she only does at home or with friends anymore. She's getting help for it now. She also loves walking outside like in parks and stuff for exercise; she especially loves to bring someone with her. Did I mention she loves shopping? My god, does she love shopping...
5. Like I said, the first place I thought of was the library. My mom is intelligent, but she doesn't exactly seek out learning for the sake of it, except in stuff she's /really/ interested in like microbiology. She likes to read, but I don't see her hanging out in a quiet library, reading random books for the hell of it.
