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Like the title states, which personality type would you want your significant other to possess and why?
 
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INTP and she IS INTP! ♥♥♥ :happy:

Why? I like a girl that can stand independent and challenge me! I don't want a trophy girl that just looks pretty and does not engage my mind. Intelligence is beauty! :proud:



 

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I picked all of them as potentially good spouses, except some SJs as it would drive them crazy how I am.:unsure:
 
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INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP, ESFP, ISFJ, ENTJ, INTJ and one I forgot, my own type, INTP. There are so many reasons, but as Marino said I dont neccesarily want a trophy, I want someone with brains. Its whats inside that I like, eventhough a pretty exterior is not bad :laughing:
 

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Who cares about the type? As long as s/he is a (partially) BALANCED xxxx I am happy with anything that fits me. I would not want to exclude certain types, only because I THINK they suck (aka: only because I have had bad experiences so far). So I guess I have to pick'em all.

Yeah, I know. I am not exactly sticking to the rule, bla bla, but seriously. I don't feel like being *racist*. I would not want people to do that either.
"Ewww, you are an INTJ! I won't date you!". C'mon. It's like saying that every demon is bad, only because it's a demon. *shrug*
 

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Who cares about the type? As long as s/he is a (partially) BALANCED xxxx I am happy with anything that fits me. I would not want to exclude certain types, only because I THINK they suck (aka: only because I have had bad experiences so far). So I guess I have to pick'em all.

Yeah, I know. I am not exactly sticking to the rule, bla bla, but seriously. I don't feel like being *racist*. I would not want people to do that either.
"Ewww, you are an INTJ! I won't date you!". C'mon. It's like saying that every demon is bad, only because it's a demon. *shrug*
Its not racism since its not about race but about personality. I always thought personality mattered the most when it comes to relationships.
 

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ENTP, ENFP, ENFJ, INTP, INFJ.

There we go :)
 
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What a weird poll. Lets wait for it to update.:confused:
 

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I'm totally amazed that no-one else has commented that %577.77 of voters have voted in this poll.
*lol* Is that true? I didn't even check the results yet, to be honest.
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*LMAO* Yeah, SOMEthing seems wrong. 50%, 50%, 60%...? Amazing. :tongue:

Its not racism since its not about race but about personality. I always thought personality mattered the most when it comes to relationships.
Ah, there we go again. INTJs and making their own words for something. Sorry.
Okay, so this is what I actually call "MBTI Racism" or "Type Racism". If it is only about the types. I mean, only because somebody is a certain type, it does not mean that s/he is like this or that, right? I seriously highly dislike to feed the stereotypes and / or to make people *live up to some roles*. xxxx is not necessarily equal xxxx. You know what I am saying?
Not to brag or anything, but I often heard "You know, I always thought INTJs suck. But you made me re-consider". Often I don't see much good come out of "MBTI Racism". But that's just me. :proud:
 

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Ah, there we go again. INTJs and making their own words for something. Sorry.
Okay, so this is what I actually call "MBTI Racism" or "Type Racism". If it is only about the types. I mean, only because somebody is a certain type, it does not mean that s/he is like this or that, right? I seriously highly dislike to feed the stereotypes and / or to make people *live up to some roles*. xxxx is not necessarily equal xxxx. You know what I am saying?
Not to brag or anything, but I often heard "You know, I always thought INTJs suck. But you made me re-consider". Often I don't see much good come out of "MBTI Racism". But that's just me. :proud:
i agree! there's going to be +/- for any personality type. even, for example, if someone *ahem*ookami*ahem* hates INFPs, they might meet an INFP they get along with someday, who also is able to stand them in return. you never know!

though i think there is much value in understanding the personality type of someone you're dating. i will be curious to pay attention to that in the future.
 

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ENTP, INTP, INTJ, INFP.

Because I've known guys with these temperaments, and I felt like they somehow understood me, or took the time to express interest in understanding me at a deeper level.

ENTP is the only type I've been around and really felt distinct chemistry with. But I can picture being with any of the other types pretty easily.

I almost voted ESTJ, because I get along so well with my dad. And girls usually marry someone like their dad. Oh well.
 
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i agree! there's going to be +/- for any personality type. even, for example, if someone *ahem*ookami*ahem* hates INFPs, they might meet an INFP they get along with someday, who also is able to stand them in return. you never know!
Exactly my point.

though i think there is much value in understanding the personality type of someone you're dating. i will be curious to pay attention to that in the future.
Yes. As long as you see it as a tool and a help, everything is good. But not a bible or fix rules. It's exactly what I am saying. Thanks for understanding. =3
 

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Also, I think that there are several other factors that stipulate your individual personality that are not included in the MBTI Types.

For non-specific examples, I'm talking about how you were raised to behave and what sort of goals/desires you have, along with your own personal set of moral and ethic values. I don't think MBTI covers these things and some of the things it does not cover are vitally important to building and maintaining relationships.

Therefore, while there are certainly personality types that would mesh together much more readily than others, that isn't to say that any pairing couldn't work out. But this is just my opinion.
 

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Type is pretty irrelevant if the connection is there and communication strong, that said I fail to understand what's not to love about INFJs, they're totally addictive!

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Who cares about the type? As long as s/he is a (partially) BALANCED xxxx I am happy with anything that fits me. I would not want to exclude certain types, only because I THINK they suck (aka: only because I have had bad experiences so far).
I completely appreciate not stereotyping people by their type and agree with what you've said but some preferences can cause conflict due to seeing things too different and needing something the other person can't provide, what you said about 'anything that fits me' is the important part. If both people are aware of the differences in communication style and priorities then MBTI should not be used as a reason to not pursue a relationship but I don't consider it discrimination to know yourself well enough to know that xxxx type is a bad match for you and usually results in a bad outcome for [insert reoccurring reason here].

There are types that I love having in my life but due to our different needs in a relationship, getting romantically involved with them would be a mistake.

For example; Someone with Fi and Si may be very protective of revealing emotions and have a dislike of change when things are progressing comfortably, that wouldn't be a great mix for someone who needs emotional closeness and progression. Its about knowing what you need, not stereotyping others as flawed.
 

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Generally I have three or four personality types I find attractive in women, but I like vanWinchester's concept. I think as long as they can understand where I'm coming from, regardless of their personality type, I can be compatible with them. I've met a few really neat ESFP girls, a type I rarely associate with, but felt comfortable around those select few because they understood my personality and were able to adapt to it. Then again, I've met ESFP girls I know for a fact I would not consider for compatibility, let alone a basic friendship. So without having to repeat myself too much, I have great potential to get along with anyone, and often do, as long as they can see my side of the spectrum clearly.
 

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Generally I have three or four personality types I find attractive in women, but I like vanWinchester's concept. I think as long as they can understand where I'm coming from, regardless of their personality type, I can be compatible with them. I've met a few really neat ESFP girls, a type I rarely associate with, but felt comfortable around those select few because they understood my personality and were able to adapt to it. Then again, I've met ESFP girls I know for a fact I would not consider for compatibility, let alone a basic friendship. So without having to repeat myself too much, I have great potential to get along with anyone, and often do, as long as they can see my side of the spectrum clearly.
This sounds aabout right for myself as well. But then again, I'm always reminded of my ISFJ ex. As long as I don't have to explain every little thing I say, it should be fine.
 

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Generally I have three or four personality types I find attractive in women, but I like vanWinchester's concept. I think as long as they can understand where I'm coming from, regardless of their personality type, I can be compatible with them. I've met a few really neat ESFP girls, a type I rarely associate with, but felt comfortable around those select few because they understood my personality and were able to adapt to it. Then again, I've met ESFP girls I know for a fact I would not consider for compatibility, let alone a basic friendship. So without having to repeat myself too much, I have great potential to get along with anyone, and often do, as long as they can see my side of the spectrum clearly.
I also feel essentially the same as Res expressed himself here... I'd actually voted for ENTPs, both ENFs, and both INTs however... The strange thing is I don't really have any pragmatic references regarding female versions of those T types aside from some I've met on forums probably, but based off some relationships I've had with males of those types I don't think the gender roles could dinstinguish them so much that I couldn't have great relationships with females of those types too.

I was on the fence about including either INF type, but ultimately I think things would actually get boring with another INFJ or an INFP... Regarding the former though I think there'd be no conflit, but as most likely we'd have the same views on what to do and when, on more important things such as social issues, and even basic socialization there would just be no dynamism which would just lead to dullness... For whatever reason I'm just generally not attracted to INFPs.

I also tend to attract a lot of ESFPs, and am at least physically and basically attracted to ESFJs (though ultimately I did not choose the latter regarding types I'd want for relationships, as I don't think most could put up with my eccentricities for too long). Regarding the former point, and your pseudo-anecdote regarding your dealings with ESFPs Res, (and referencing all the INFJ males here reasonably anyway) do you find that a lot become attracted to you? I would believe it's because of the sensitivity INFJs can project while not sacrificing that for intelligence; those that I've actually become close to are actually attracted to intelligence despite the usually limited intelligence that characterizes them... Maybe subconsciously they want something complementary from men hence their attraction TO ME at the very least, I don't know...

To reference why I agreed with Res though, the most important thing to consider is that there is almost always an exception to any rule, and some rarites of any type you certainly couldn't see yourself doing well romantically with probably exist, and thusly it's important to keep an objective and open-mind regarding anyone you meet (as I say this after I'm so critical of ESFP desires; yeah I guess I'm just an asshole hypocrite :p).
 
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