I seriously considered being a surrogate for a gay couple that I know. They're both good men, and their standards of raising a child meet my personal values. They would never hit the child in any way, shape, or form, and that's a huge deal to me. We also agreed that I would be able to be a part of my child's life, practically assuming the motherly role I would want. I would be able to spend one-on-one time with my kid often. Basically, instead of one or two people raising a child, there would be three of us... two dads and a mom. I almost agreed to it until I thought about the possibility of having a real family of my own with a partner who loves me on a deeper level. That's what I really want. I also didn't want my child to have to face the questions and the judgments... How come you have three parents? Ewww, his/her parents must be polygamists. And the bullying... your family is disgusting... your family is going to hell, etc. I don't want my child to have to face those types of things. I do want a child, but under the right circumstances.
More on topic, I couldn't simply sell my eggs or be a surrogate knowing that I don't have control over what's going on in my child's life. I am responsible for protecting that child. That child is a part of me, and if I'm not going to be able to be there to protect it and take care of it, then no one else can either. I would die if my egg went to a family that abused my child. I would never forgive myself.
