My last ex was bewildered that I didn't think to schedule spending time with him on our first Christmas as a couple. I was at home, listening to music, reading articles and such that night, and I received a text in which he expressed great frustration at what I realize now was my detachment. When I go over some of the things I didn't do as expected in my last relationship, I can see how my detachment was the cause of much misunderstanding between us, and chances are, that has also caused some tension in my other relationships with people - romantic and non-romantic alike. I've been asked a few times by girlfriends if I was upset at them and that was the reason for my not contacting them on a regular basis, and I seriously felt bad because again I wasn't fully aware of how I'd inadvertently hurt someone's feelings or make him/her question my liking them. The more I think about, the more I can see why people have been annoyed at my detachment; I suppose I naturally don't involve myself enough in others' lives.
(What is wrong with me?)