Oh, let's have a pity party competition! You're right; it's not. It's worse. Because INFJs would love ever so much to do their own thing, but they feel responsible for the feelings of everyone around them. They would also love to withdraw from society, but they feel responsible for that, too. Often they can't go off and take care of their own needs until someone gives them explicit permission to, and even then it can still feel selfish. I don't think INTJs have any idea what it means to perpetually "feel selfish." Fe sux ballz.Closest to understanding may be the other dominant Ni user. But let's be honest: auxiliary Fe is nothing like auxiliary Te when coupled with dominant Ni.