I am having a hard time understanding something that maybe some 9s can explain. Why don’t 9s feel the need to apologize for negative impacts of tuning out or emotional detachment in a relationship? I don’t understand how you can hold resentment towards another person for not meeting your needs when you are neither making your needs clearly known(being vague to avoid conflict) nor are you working toward any resolution(being immovable)...why is sitting still and being immovable (by choice to avoid conflict) seen as ok, or not realized how damaging that behavior can be. That behavior will just lead to frustration and more conflict, as people don’t usually respond well to being stonewalled. Also, I mean no offense by this post and I know every person acts differently, it’s just confusing that 9s shut down and pull back, then get mad bc they are in a shut down retreated state. Do 9s ponder deep things or do you prefer to just not think about how actions can impact others?