Wow. I've just read that we fall in love with our perceptions of people. Doesn't have to mean that they are accurate perceptions either. And that is why you will often hear people say "I thought they were so different...". I have to chew on this one for a while now and see how it all fits.
So is it hopeless? Are we reduced to praying for dumb luck, for hoping that the person we've fallen for just happens to be the person we think we've fallen for, even though there's no correlation between the two?Right on the money. We fall in love with the vision/perception/ idea of what we think things are, how they should be. For ex: i told someone not long ago that they crushed my ideal of who they were...they initially appeared one way, ended up being another. Maybe this isn't what your saying, although if it is i can relate.
I would suggest not. I suspect you can hone your intuition. Even if you can't, you can take a long time getting to know someone before committing (or even "committing") to them.