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i look at everyone else, and they don't want more for their existence.
they chase the "american dream" of materialism and yet they know it'll never happen.
is existence depressing for anyone else?
i want to change the world but i feel like nobody would care if i did.
how do you live day in and day out? its just so difficult for me knowing that one day i'll have to just simply conform to the ways of society that i find so repulsive.
 

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You don't have to conform, you just have to go your own path and not pay attention to what others are doing...
I don't really care about what everyone else does or says. I just want to go my own path.
 

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existing is something i truly enjoy, many times the only thing i enjoy in life in the fact that i'm still alive. but people and the world are a source of stress for me for sure-it upsets me that sooner or later i'll have to live within their flawed society, but i i don't have to work for the same bullshit they do, all i desire is a decent habitation,and food on my table(someone to ocme home to wouldn't hurt either). we all hve the chance to do things our own way, and i refuse to submit to greed and matirelism. we INFPs are not flawed in our emotion and empathy they are flawed in their lack of it
 

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you're giving things that have no intrinsic value way too much value. society? wtf is society, man? describe society to me. what are it's characteristics?
i'd say there's no such thing. why give any value to something which doesn't exist?
materialism. if you don't like it, don't surround yourself with people who do. and yes, there will always be commercials and billboards, but i find most of them to be quite amusing. i take a theoretical approach to materialism. it has no "material" significance for me other than that.
it's irrational to take such a "big picture" approach to life; it doesn't make sense and it won't bring you happiness.
 

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It's weird because I look at others and I realize that I would never want to be ANYONE else but myself. I feel like I just care more, matters not pertaining to materialism. But then I look at myself and I'm never satisfied. I never feel like I'm contributing enough, not bettering myself enough..."the past is the past" is my favorite saying. It helps me to just accept things for what they are. :happy:
 

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The worst thing the world could ever do to me is to force me to conform and to be just like everyone simply to be able to survive. It would feel like becoming tainted and losing my soul.
But I do not want to die, I have to live in it as best I can.

Every new day I realise more that this is really not my world and I can see it heading for the abyss at breakneck pace. This greed and absence of love for fellow humans, if unchecked, will be the undoing of us all.
 

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I think a good majority of INFPs don't 'contribute' to society the way others do. I have an aunt who honestly believes that the worth of an individual can only be measured by his/her income. A lot of people in this world do, but she takes it to an amazing extreme. The way we contribute is by being ourselves. What healthy person doesn't treasure a bit of one-on-one time with an INFP?

I don't care for a big house (more to clean:frustrating:), lots of stuff (more to organise:angry:), fancy clothes, an expensive auto, the list goes on. I've noticed many INFPs feel the same way. But I'm happy. I think we can and do change the world, one individual at a time.

My ESFJ special one used to be a most uptight person. We have both noticed my influence on her. She's still uptight, but so much more easygoing than she used to be. And I am somewhat more organised.

My XSTJ husband used to resent my un-SJ qualities. But I'm the one he confides in. I'm the one he comes to when he has trouble working out his problems on his own. I'm the one who helps him feel the wonder and the healing power of nature when he's been sitting in a dark office full of contentious people all week. But, yeah, there are still Legos on the floor...
 

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I used to struggle day to day with the frustration of not being able to find justification in the way others lived, partly being because it made me feel disconnected and flawed for not being able to conform. I don't think I'll ever truly stop the thoughts of feeling disconnected from others, but I find comfort in realizing everyone is different and on their own path. Not all of our paths interconnect and all of us appreciate different views.

See yourself as just you on your path during these times. Your path is a beautiful one. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and you might not see the beauty in their path. And at times question what beauty is wondering if your path is beautiful when using their's as a comparative.

But life is not meant to compare. You can't compare to beauties. You can't compare philosophies. We are all experiencing our own subjective reality. In my experience, realizing you control where you walk and where it goes and what every step means gives you power. It gives you so much power that seeing a passerby you don't need to question them, but you could help guide. We can all use guidance.

We can all use a dose of a separate reality to help a bind a common truth. A universal truth helps binds us and thus makes us feel less alone and more understood. There's a dramatic difference between having a herd mentality and losing your individuality vs connecting and guiding each other by accepting that which we share together. There's a beauty in not fearing the scary components of individuality, the ugly sides. There is also a beauty in sharing our path for short walks with others and at times sharing the same main roads. But in the end, we are all on our own direction. This is not something to fear, in my opinion. Being alone isn't something to fear, but to empower. A good foundation of self is built off of feeling capable in your own ability to guide you first.
 

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i feel like i have a purpose in life, even though i dont have much of an idea what it is yet. its very comforting to me to know that God is watching over me and cares, and has a plan for me. I don't like it imagine how it would feel to not have that belief, life would be so empty and hopeless. its just frustrating i feel like i cant do much now. when im college age i would really like to do something like go to africa and teach children about Christianity or teach them to read and give them bibles :p existence isnt depressing, sometimes i feel like the current place im in is depressing, but as an infp i am very future oriented so i can occupy myself with wishful plans for the future :) that makes me happy


also, it seems like many infps cant comform and are troubled with that. for me i can conform pretty well, ive found. probably having an isfj mother helped that. i know i dont want to, but knowing i always could gives me a sense of security i guess. i like knowing that being individual, unmaterialistic and introverted, is my choice, not my burden. i know you infps dont necessarily want to be like that, but you cant help it either so its troublesome, i guess? i dont want to make assumptions, but maybe i feel more at peace with myself is knowing that i have a choice there. ....i dont want to come off self-righteous or anything, not really sure what note i should leave on. so...yeah
 

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I'm not an infp but I relate to the op.. i don't have a very strong purpose bc I don't believe god has created one for me, I don't think existential self created meanings consistently suffice and I find it hard to be objective about my strengths and weaknesses, which are out of step with what the norm expects and demands of us to survive. Even if I wanted to do things my own way it would still be within confines of "the system" so my main coping mechanism is to avoid it, which isn't really helping me cope in the long run. I wish I could find and join a nonprofit organisation which did some sort of activism for my values but I'm still trapped inside my head doubting how I'm going to go about doing that...
 

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6 billion plus on earth all making their own choices and lives. Just get busy making yours. Make your own mark, be it as little or magnificent as it may be. ""Either you get busy living, or get busy dying" - Morgan Freeman
 
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