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Here's the fact of the matter. If I were to suddenly get a lot of action, I wouldn't suddenly become a nice, male-feminist piece of little bitch shit.

I'd simply be an angry narcissist who also just so happens to get a lot of action. It would change literally nothing.
 

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Probably from some men loudly complaining and blaming their bad behavior on not getting sex?

I mean, I get that sexual frustration is real, but it's definitely not an excuse for some things--like shooting up a yoga studio.


And then people get tired of trying to tell them that, and just start trying to communicate on their level in some vain hope that they'll be open to listening to other perspectives about the matter, so they humor them by repeating the same narrative back to them...which doesn't work because they don't actually need empathy, what they need is to take responsibility for their behavior and make an effort to empathize with people different than them (women usually). And shut up and listen for a change.
 

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Oh I dunno. Might have something to with red pillers bitching about sex as a resource that needs to be doled out to everyone and if it isn't, they run out and murder women.
No way! Yer just a brainwazzed feminazi who took the bluepill!

MEn just act like complete monsters sometimes because their dicks are sad--womenz couldn't understandz it...too much evolutionary fluff got stuck in der brainz.
 

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No way! Yer just a brainwazzed feminazi who took the bluepill!

MEn just act like complete monsters sometimes because their dicks are sad--womenz couldn't understandz it...too much evolutionary fluff got stuck in der brainz.
I like my fluff head. It's fluffy, oh so fluffy and fluffy is pretty, 'specially in pastel shades. 💖✨🎈🎆❤💗💋
 

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I dunno, in that scenario you would at least be spending less time on the rage-machine (internet) and actually connecting with people.
 

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It just occurs that anger issues don't mix very well with affection. So where there isn't one, there is the other.

It is pointless to sort out the cause from the consequence for they are two parts of a same russian doll.

Sometimes it seems like one causes the other, or the opposite, depending on how we idealize our own experiences.
 

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Male anger comes from a lot of places because anger can come from a lot of places and it has little to do with gender or sex besides social influences. But blaming male anger on women is what social workers like to call "abuse culture." It's a straight up abuse tactic designed to control and dominate women through sexism and victim blaming, etc etc. A literal threat of violence if they don't put out, while blaming them for it. It gets perpetrated through society as less openly blatantly toxic memes that are supposed to be white washing, but idk how "if you don't sleep with me I'll get angry and it'll be your fault" is even white washing... it's pretty openly rapey / abusive.
 

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Male anger comes from a lot of places because anger can come from a lot of places and it has little to do with gender or sex besides social influences. But blaming male anger on women is what social workers like to call "abuse culture." It's a straight up abuse tactic designed to control and dominate women through sexism and victim blaming, etc etc. A literal threat of violence if they don't put out, while blaming them for it. It gets perpetrated through society as less openly blatantly toxic memes that are supposed to be white washing, but idk how "if you don't sleep with me I'll get angry and it'll be your fault" is even white washing... it's pretty openly rapey / abusive.
Sorry.. all I read was "I'm an SJW who loves showing up where I'm not wanted or needed."
 

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Male anger comes from a lot of places because anger can come from a lot of places and it has little to do with gender or sex besides social influences. But blaming male anger on women is what social workers like to call "abuse culture." It's a straight up abuse tactic designed to control and dominate women through sexism and victim blaming, etc etc. A literal threat of violence if they don't put out, while blaming them for it. It gets perpetrated through society as less openly blatantly toxic memes that are supposed to be white washing, but idk how "if you don't sleep with me I'll get angry and it'll be your fault" is even white washing... it's pretty openly rapey / abusive.
That's interesting--I've never heard that before. Thanks for explaining it!
 

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Here's the fact of the matter. If I were to suddenly get a lot of action, I wouldn't suddenly become a nice, male-feminist piece of little bitch shit.

I'd simply be an angry narcissist who also just so happens to get a lot of action. It would change literally nothing.
I sometimes wonder (I do not have any data) whether younger generations have lost their incentive to develop interpersonal/intrapersonal communication skills because "screen culture" has supplanted the actual need to interact.

I didn't have internet/Web, or a smartphone as a horny teenage male, so if I wanted to get intimate with a young woman, I had to walk up and talk to her. If she wasn't interested, I had to talk to another, and so on. I developed the skill because I was motivated to do so.

A lot of younger males are frustrated because they have needs they can't fully meet, and they appear not to have ever learned to overcome their fears of rejection by simply walking up to women and asking them out until one of them says: "yes."

You have some guys who figure it out and manage to get with women, but there's a lot of socially awkward young men who don't have the first clue what to do. They've consumed a lot of internet porn that makes it seem like most women are perfectly willing to do whatever the man wants them to without any effort on their part. They've completely mistaken what used to be every horny male's fantasy for reality, and why not? They've got zero experience with the real thing, so this is all they have to go on. So they get this crazy idea that a lot of women are out there being super slutty with other young men, just not them. Sure, there's a few young women who might be a bit more brazen, but Internet Porn may make it seem like more of them are than is realistically true. So, instead of blaming themselves for not learning how to interact in an acceptable manner with women, some of these frustrated young men blame the women for not living up to the fantasy they've constructed in their own heads, thus the "Incel Movement" was born.

Now please do not think I am in any way endorsing this turn of events, I am simply attempting to analyze and explain what I see going on. Lord knows, as a teenager, I got a boner every time the wind changed, and, I did not get anywhere near the amount of intimacy with women that I craved, but I didn't blame them for it. I knew there were other factors involved. I wasn't ugly, but I wasn't shockingly handsome either. I was a few years behind on the "social maturity" curve. Also, a lot of young women were afraid of the same things I was: disease, pregnancy, and societal shame. There was also a general lack of opportunity when you're younger. It can be hard to find a place and a time to "fool around" when you're underage, don't have a car, and aren't financially solvent. Still, these were not reasons to blame women. Just part of the "normal" frustrations of being young, dumb, and full of...well you know. ;)
 

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I can but you gotta stick to the topic. Rape and Race aren't a part of this LMAO.

Plenty of black incels.


white·wash

verb
gerund or present participle: whitewashing
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    paint (a wall, building, or room) with whitewash.
    "the brick walls have been whitewashed"

  2. 2.
    deliberately attempt to conceal unpleasant or incriminating facts about (someone or something).
 

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white·wash

verb
gerund or present participle: whitewashing
  1. 1.
    paint (a wall, building, or room) with whitewash.
    "the brick walls have been whitewashed"

  2. 2.
    deliberately attempt to conceal unpleasant or incriminating facts about (someone or something).
Okay but what was described wasn't that. It was just a shitty thing that happens.

Point is SJW vibes were felt and I'm not explaining further why that's getting dismissed.
 

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For the very same reason, they are perpetrators of domestic violence. It's the wimmen's fault. Obviously.

She didn't hold her mouth the right way, didn't do enough or she said too much, cried too much, asked for more, or some lesbian purple-haired femmo put ideas in her head and made her think she had rights.
 

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I can but you gotta stick to the topic. Rape and Race aren't a part of this LMAO.

Plenty of black incels.
It was completely on topic tho. Didn't contradict what you said in the op either, access to sex would not solve the anger, it is just a justification. The post didn't mention race and even stated that anger is unrelated to gender... i think you saw a lot of words and went "not today sjw" without really considering the message
 

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Okay but what was described wasn't that. It was just a shitty thing that happens.

Point is SJW vibes were felt and I'm not explaining further why that's getting dismissed.
So you read something that reminded you of "sjw" and you stopped listening. I think the kids call it "getting triggered" nowa days.

Not triggered in the clinical sense (more like rhetorical--it can be difficult for public speaking), but just as in you read or hear something that reminds you of something unpleasant, and then you stop reading. I "get triggered" in the same way at times--as do, I'm sure, your image of "sjws."

But it wasn't the fault of the poster. There isn't anything "SJW" in there. But maybe b/c the word "white" is in "white wash."

I noticed a lot of people get like this when someone talks about race or feminism. Sometimes I call it the f-word to try to help them not get triggered. White is even worse for conservatives. You can't say anything about the color white anymore--I feel bad for the comedians.

It can happen to anyone.
 
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