this was excellentI sometimes wonder (I do not have any data) whether younger generations have lost their incentive to develop interpersonal/intrapersonal communication skills because "screen culture" has supplanted the actual need to interact.
I didn't have internet/Web, or a smartphone as a horny teenage male, so if I wanted to get intimate with a young woman, I had to walk up and talk to her. If she wasn't interested, I had to talk to another, and so on. I developed the skill because I was motivated to do so.
A lot of younger males are frustrated because they have needs they can't fully meet, and they appear not to have ever learned to overcome their fears of rejection by simply walking up to women and asking them out until one of them says: "yes."
You have some guys who figure it out and manage to get with women, but there's a lot of socially awkward young men who don't have the first clue what to do. They've consumed a lot of internet porn that makes it seem like most women are perfectly willing to do whatever the man wants them to without any effort on their part. They've completely mistaken what used to be every horny male's fantasy for reality, and why not? They've got zero experience with the real thing, so this is all they have to go on. So they get this crazy idea that a lot of women are out there being super slutty with other young men, just not them. Sure, there's a few young women who might be a bit more brazen, but Internet Porn may make it seem like more of them are than is realistically true. So, instead of blaming themselves for not learning how to interact in an acceptable manner with women, some of these frustrated young men blame the women for not living up to the fantasy they've constructed in their own heads, thus the "Incel Movement" was born.
Now please do not think I am in any way endorsing this turn of events, I am simply attempting to analyze and explain what I see going on. Lord knows, as a teenager, I got a boner every time the wind changed, and, I did not get anywhere near the amount of intimacy with women that I craved, but I didn't blame them for it. I knew there were other factors involved. I wasn't ugly, but I wasn't shockingly handsome either. I was a few years behind on the "social maturity" curve. Also, a lot of young women were afraid of the same things I was: disease, pregnancy, and societal shame. There was also a general lack of opportunity when you're younger. It can be hard to find a place and a time to "fool around" when you're underage, don't have a car, and aren't financially solvent. Still, these were not reasons to blame women. Just part of the "normal" frustrations of being young, dumb, and full of...well you know.
only thing ill say is incel was originally meant to describe women who couldnt have sex like they wanted to. but in true female fashion it was flipped to describe males who dont get enough sex as if every man just wants have sex with every pretty girl. most guys do. but a significant proportion of boys and men dont want to stick it in every pretty thing they see. thats just a stereotype as 80% accurate as it is.
it is more shameful for a woman to want sex and not be able to get it because if shes half decent looking she should have too many options to choose from, thus the incel thing. as a man not getting enough sex is common. even if you have a lot of sex its still not enough sex and thats why we want more sex