ENTP interruption....But I just wanted to say I know how you feel. I'm a bit unconventional when it comes to this topic as well. I wish to adopt and/or foster, and I would do so regardless of my relationship status. In fact, not to slight single mom's (since most are not in that position by choice, so I mean no offense), but that route almost seems preferable. It would certainly lead to a more consistent environment.I get it now. This is a "traditional heteronormative ideal vision of the future" thread, and it's weird to me because I am not hetero or traditional at all.
See, I love that perspective. It makes so much sense. This is why I imagine my next partner should be an ENTP.ENTP interruption....But I just wanted to say I know how you feel. I'm a bit unconventional when it comes to this topic as well. I wish to adopt and/or foster, and I would do so regardless of my relationship status. In fact, not to slight single mom's, but that route almost seems preferable. It would certainly lead to a more consistent environment.
That's sweet, very loving, giving birth for your friend's benefit. If everyone could love each other that kind of way, the giving kind, then the world would have much fewer problems in it.If it makes you feel any better, I might be surrogate mother for my gay best friend someday.
As for myself, I personally prefer to raise a family first with a partner.Why would I get married, why does that have to be the start of a family? Why does there have to be a romantic partner involved in that formation at all? I don't get that. If ultimately I decide I want to raise children, I'll raise them whenever my life situation is stable, single or attached. I don't care about gender. Their names would be given by somebody else, because I'd be a foster parent. Probably lame ones like Ben and Judy. I'd make sure that I would make their worlds a constant interactive learning environment - I would fill my house with models of planes and the solar system and things, and I'd have things like a costume box and whatnot for the kids to play with. Playtime, after all, is essential to child development.
This is my exact preference. Sad to say, I've thought about this over several years ago despite my age. The way I see it, one isn't enough, three is too many. Two with varying genders (hopefully!) Is the best and well balanced combination for me. ;O2 kids for me. One male, one female.
I want three as well, but I'd be ok with two I guess. I like the idea of three because when I was little, it was such a blast with my two brothers. It wasn't quite as fun when my mom had two more later on, even though I really love my littlest brothers.I have long had the desire for children. It's sort of my motivation to be financially stable.
Right now, I'd like to have 3, but it's probably not a good idea to have a plan set in stone like that. I'm a bit ashamed to admit I want 2 boys and 1 girl, but god knows I'll probably cry like a little bitch(tears of joy!) if 3 girls pop out.