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Having doubts like always, so if anyone wants to try but is not obligated to:
@alittlebear @Hotaru @shinynotshiny @TelepathicGoose @Oswin @Living dead @ilovemusic006

What age range are you in?
16 going on 17.

Any disorders or conditions we should know about?

No.

1. What do you think your life is about? What drives you in life? This can be something like a goal or a purpose, or anything else that comes to mind.
Life is about being happy, doing the most with the time you have on earth. Do, create, love, help, whatever- do what makes you happy. It's very subjective, but I think that's what life's is what you make it to be. What drives me in life? Goals, friends and family, learning... I don't know, I've never really thought about it before. Lately I feel like I lost my drive due to all the pressure from school, but oh well.

2. What were you like as a kid?
I was a weird child (a bit of the poster kid for Si): I didn't like to get dirty or touch stuff, I was quiet and sometimes didn't answered when people talked to me, I LOVED drawing but I only drew in black and white, I disagreed to eat unfamiliar foods to the extreme (I didn't agree to eat french fries and pasta till I was 8-10), though I loved eating green peas one by one xD Oh! I was always very very responsible (eldest sibling syndrom), I liked taking care and playing with my younger sisters and all of my cousins, I loved playing pretend, I had an obsession with fairies in particular :D I didn't have many friends because I didn't liked a lot of people and I was fine with being alone. I was actually quite well liked haha. I also had a need to please others. I was write many many stories and I was very smart, always ahead of everyone in my class. Ergh that's everything that came to mind, not sure how much information it gives you.

3. Describe your relationship with your parents. Does anything stand out about the way you interacted?

My parents trusts me completely, considering how responsible I am. No kidding, I actualy asked them for a curfew the other day (just so I won't come back too late *facepalm*) and they just laughed and were like "No no go out and have fun". I think I'm the only teenager in the world who asked her parents for a curfew. My mom is very very anxious so she tends to put a lot of pressure on me and my sisters, and generally I do everything she says (I just don't have energy to have a fight with her because I know there's no way of winning, haha). I'm a very good and "comfortable" child so it's easier for her to ask me to do things because she knows I'll get that done (not like my sister, for example...). When my mother's being annoying I talk to my dad and he pretends to understand me xD They give me everything I want and take me to travel all over the world: really, if I have to do more chores than other kids but than I get such treatment, I don't care. I feel like I'm being ungrateful if I disobery my parents, to be honest. They give me so much, and they love me so so much and I love them soooo much <3 My friends say they're putting too much pressure on me but I don't care, I don't get stressed ot over the things my mother says xD

4. What values are important to you? What do you hope to avoid doing or being?
Family is important to me, as well as friends. If you're gonna surround yourself with people, better make them feel good. Ambition and happiness are also values that are super important to me. I hope to avoid being bitter, alone, angry- oh yes, I avoid being angry all the time. I don't like getting mad, so I don't do it (thanks to me supreme control of my emotions~). I want to avoid being unhappy, doing stuff I don't like (I can't see myself working 9-5, like ever).

5. Aside from phobias, are there any fears that characterized your childhood? Have they continued into the present day, or not, and if not, how have you dealt with them?
To be honest, no. At least not any I can think of. I think I've always had a high degree of self confidence. When I was in the 8th-9th grade and I was in the closet I was really afraid of people not accepting me, but now after I came out and saw how well my friends and family are accepting me I could give less damn about the rest.

6. a.) How do you see yourself?
b.) How do you want others to see you?
c.) What do you dislike the most in other people?

a) I see myself as smart, responsible, talented, helpful, creative, motherly, "in charge", and pretty awesome. The downside is that I'm bossy, a freak control, slightly rigid (okay, not slightly- very), I like getting revange (I always thought I didn't but recent events showed me that I should not be messed with).
b) My friend told me that she has a friend (whom I met twice) who thinks I'm the most wonderful thing he ever met, like an actual goddess, but he's super afraid I'm gonna punch him in the face. That's the exact impression I'd like to make ;) But then my other friends were like "pff, she's not gonna hit no one" or "if that's the impression you want to make, stop being so damn nice". xD
c) I dislike rude and disrespectful people so much. Also when people aren't real with me.

7. Which habit do you most automatically act on? Rank the following habits from most to least automatic, on a scale of 1 (most) to 3 (least).
a.) Work for personal gain with more concern for self than for others.
b.) Strive for a sense of tranquility in yourself and the world around you
c.) Decide what is right for the betterment of something or someone else.

b>c>a

8. Where does the wandering mind take you? What provokes this?
My mind wanders? :O I like to think about character ideas, like for a story or something. That's a very fun thing to do. I like thinking about the future, thinking about my loved ones, thinking about... I don't know, when in doubt I just start singing songs from musicals hahaha.

9.What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?
I'm at my best when I know something, when I have everything together, when people give me affirimation, when I'm doing something I enjoy, when I give my opinion (and I have opinions about everything haha), when I'm thinking about the future and it makes me feel... Good, and not anxious.

I'm at my worst when I feel like I'm losing my loved ones, when people disrespect me, when I just seem to have everything wrong and when I lose control, if that makes sense?...

10. Let's talk about emotions. Explain what might make you feel the following, how they feel to you or how you react to the emotion:
a.) anger
b.) shame
c.) anxiety


a) What is that anger you speak of? Nope, I don't have it. I've had a talk with my mom about this actually, like this is an interesting comparsion because she's an ESFJ: she has a hot temper and tends to get mad, when she was a kid she was of course a good girl and well behaved but she when people deserved it, she would hit them. One time she broke one kid's head! Now me- I never hit anyone. Not even my sisters, even when they would hit me (well, only one of them did. The other is like a carbon copy of me haha). I would get to the second part of the comparsion later, but yeah I don't get mad. If I do it's because my sister disobeyed ne or something... Or if someone really hurt me.
b) Shame? Like, when I feel like I'm not good enough. It happens... Sometimes. More seldom than not. Woohoo for self confidence.
c) Now here's the second part! But if my mom walks in a dark alley at night, she is terrified because of her overactive imagination and she's afraid if someone will attack her, she'll freeze. Me on the other hand is unafraid to do that, and I know when the time comes I will kick someone's ass. I'm very physically strng and I know I can take down people when I need. On time my mother saw I didn't come home and it was dark and she was very worried, but my dad was like "Come on, who's gonna mess with her?" ;) I think if I have too many things I need to do and I feel like my time is running out I can get anxious, and then I totally freak out and have a nervous breakdown or something and then I relax and do what needs to be done. It all turns out to be better than expected.

11. Describe how you respond to the following:
a.) stress
b.) negative unexpected change
c.) conflict

a) I think I can just quote what I stated earlier for that anxiety part. Often, stress=anxiety.
b) It's annoying and kind of upsetting, but I adapt and try to look for a bright side.
c) I don't like conflict, it's really upsetting and it makes me feel bad. When in conflict I try to solve it the quickest way possible. Unless it's something I really believe in so I try to stand up for myself but make amends.

12. a.) What kind of role are you naturally inclined to take in a group? Why?
b.) If put in power, how do you behave? Why?
c.) Do you tend to struggle with others who have authority over you? Why?

a) THE MOTHER ROLE. I cannot stress this enough. Just two days ago me and my frieds talked about who we can see pregnant and/or with children. I was the only one they said they could see as both pregnant and with kids- they could see me with a big belly wearing pastels and drinking coffee and they could also see me with 4-5 kids, driving them all to a soccer match in a big car. When I told this to my family my sister said: "YOU? No way, at the most, 2" in which my mother looked at her like, "wtf", but then I went and played with my sister and baby cousin and my other sister was like, "No okay I can see you with five kids". I'm the responsible one who takes care of everyone and everything, in every group setting I've been I'm the adult in charge, the mother hen.
b) I'm very fair and I take more on myself than on others, I like to do most of the work myself so I have everything in control and to give people more space because I don't mind doing more work myself.
c) If I trust and like the person, no. If I don't value the person it's more than annoying.

13. What do you see or notice in others that most people don't?

I'm not sure, I don't think my perception is much different than everyone else's.

14. Comment on your relationship with trust.

It's hard to gain my trust, but once it's gained I'm your loyal guard dog.

15. Briefly: What religious and/or political beliefs do you have? Do you think they influenced your responses in this questionnaire?
I'm Jewish andmore socialist than liberal. Also I'm a huge feminist, believer in equality for all races, genders and people of different sexual orientation... I don't think this has affected my answers whatsoever.

Which of the following temptations do you find yourself acting upon the most? (And briefly state why)

1. To constantly push yourself to be “the best”
2. To be without needs, well-intentioned
3. To replace direct experience with concepts
4. To have an extreme sense of personal moral obligation
5. To think that fulfillment is somewhere else
6. To cyclically become indecisive and seek others for reassurance
7. To overuse imagination in searching for yourself
8. To avoid conflicts and asserting yourself
9. To consider yourself entirely self-sufficient

1, 2, 6, 8, 9.
 

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You lost a bit of your 3w2-ness since losing your Fe XD
I could still see it though.

Anyway,some 137 sounds about right :)
 

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You lost a bit of your 3w2-ness since losing your Fe XD
I could still see it though.

Anyway,some 137 sounds about right :)
Hahaha noooo :D Has someone seen my Fe? Anyone?

Anyway, yes I also think some kind of a 137 is most likely :p
 

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I plan to give an opinion but I'll need to think a bit more, for now I just want to complain that you got '16 going on 17' stuck in my head)
 
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I plan to give an opinion but I'll need to think a bit more, for now I just want to complain that you got '16 going on 17' stuck in my head)
Lovely! Haha, I love that song. And it's the truth, will be 17 in September!
 

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Yeah so I'm have very little experience with Enneagram and I feel like I just keep saying '1' so it's possible I see 1s where there are no 1s but I am getting maybe, a 1w9 vibe here? No idea on the tritype, maybe 136? That's really just a shot in the dark; sorry, I wish I could help but . . . Enneagram's still a bit of a foreign language for me(
 

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Yeah so I'm have very little experience with Enneagram and I feel like I just keep saying '1' so it's possible I see 1s where there are no 1s but I am getting maybe, a 1w9 vibe here? No idea on the tritype, maybe 136? That's really just a shot in the dark; sorry, I wish I could help but . . . Enneagram's still a bit of a foreign language for me(
I can see 1, actually! Thanks :D
 

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@Gray Romantic,

I'm smelling type 1...not sure what wing or anything. I agree with @Living dead, 137 sounds right. Maybe 136, but 137 more likely.

P.S. The Fe fell into a black hole.
Make sense, since I always fell back into 3 vs 1... I think 1w2 is more likely since I'm more passionate than dispassionate but eh, what do I know.

Hahaha, Fe disappeared :D
 

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Make sense, since I always fell back into 3 vs 1... I think 1w2 is more likely since I'm more passionate than dispassionate but eh, what do I know.

Hahaha, Fe disappeared :D
Well, considering you're an SJ, 1 is more likely. SJ's are known for their organization and perfectionism :p

"Fe, Fe, oh where are you? Fe, Fe, you're making me blue."
 
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