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I am talking about your social skills and sexual maturity. I remember when I was a younger kid, I was so enthralled with the new technologies (music, film, video games, etc.), I spent no time developing a social demeanor or developing skills with the opposite sex. I needed to take mental notes on what the hell was going on interpersonally between people before participating myself (now age 21).

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Yeah I was a late bloomer. I must have only started getting sexually interested in women at about 16 - 17 So yeah that's pretty late.
 

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I find that to be true with myself as well. I feel I actually look 5 years younger than I am and I have to remind myself quite often that I'm 30. It just doesn't sink in when I compare myself to the way other 30 year olds have progressed.
 

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I was not at all...I was sexually interested from a very early age and my social skills haven't changed much from when I was in my early teens.
 

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Yep, 18 here and I've just barely begun to climb out of the well of social awkwardness. Also I look about three years younger than my age.
My story is similar.

I look a little younger than I am and I've only recently (in the past two years) escaped from my crippling social awkwardness. I've always been more intellectually and emotionally mature though. Some of the activities people my age do for amusement seem really immature and boring to me. People who know me online generally think that I am older than I really am. I remember having a conversation with someone online (in an MMO) and when I told him I was 16 (at the time, I'm now 20) he was surprised. Apparently he thought that I was well into my twenties. This happens quite regularly too...
 

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No, early bloomer actually. But I find that people my age are so immature... Though, their social skills beat mine so, I suppose I can't say much.
 

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Like most other people on this thread, I'm an early bloomer when it comes to thinking and intelligence and being mature and logical about things, but I'm only just starting to notice how bad I am at relationships. I'm terrible around new people. I don't come off as interesting or funny or cool or even okay - I just come off as someone who'd rather be at home. I realize that people aren't just going to come up to me and say, "You seem like my kind of person!" and start a conversation. I know that I have to start developing social skills NOW before it's too late and I can't cling on to my close friends. Out in the big, bad world.

As for...*cough*...sexual maturity...*giggle*...I have certain feelings for certain people - certain unreachable, unobtainable, god-like people who are much too old anyway. But I haven't felt the need for a boyfriend or anything. It's way, way down at the bottom of my priorities list. Way, way, WAY below school and education and things that should be important to people but aren't. So I don't know.

If you're wondering where this all ties in with age, I'm 14. But I don't think age really matters internally. My thoughts don't have much to do with my age.
 

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Ti is great at finding "exceptions" >_>

But I didn't know 18 = late bloomer. Maybe for ..uh puberty.. why don't you all check back when you're 25.
 

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I think that more often than not, though I would prefer gender to be crossed off of the list as the definition of anyone, that the female INTPs are probably early bloomers in comparison to the males because we're conditioned to do so. But that's just my own theory. Feel free to shoot it down if you want (because I wish that gender norms, stereotypes, etc didn't exist at all).

And also, I must add that I feel like I was an early bloomer. And I feel most comfortable around older people, as I always have. My sexual nature started from an age of about 5, when I had my first attraction towards someone.
 
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I remember looking at playboy magazines I found at my fathers work when I was 6 or 7. Although I had no Idea about sex I remember being enthralled and strangly aroused. The intrigue never left.
As far as social skills go Im in my mid 30s and still cant approach, mingle, or interact comfotably.
 

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Perhaps only the male INTP's are late bloomers?
that's how things should be, but you know that thing... what happened in Chernobyl... that might have had something to do with this
 

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I spent most of my Jr and high school days talking with, thinking about, and chasing girls. Girls dominated my thoughts. I lacked any real adult influence or guidance to seriously pursue academics. I was more interested in girls than college, and back then I thought the people in college were boring. I went on then to work at the largest gentleman's club in the city for seven years and developed social skills on a level few can understand. If any INTPs on here have worked show biz, nightclubs, or crowds I would enjoy talking to you about those subjects - Message meh. Now I have grown beyond the limits of that job and take a serious academic interest as an adult.

Relationships are kinda different, I wish I was better with 'real' relationships.

Socially, when I was young, in Jr high and high school, I took a lot of crap from teachers, some kids, and adults. I just took it, thinking that they knew something I did not. I have grown out of this also. If I have to suffer a negative opinion of myself, I will return the favor. Additionally, I will not be put in the corner by anyone. I may put THEM in the corner for that:) I wouldn't recommend this attitude with law enforcement - it has gotten me arrested b4.
 

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Early bloomer for relationships and sex; late bloomer for social skills, of which I still have none :p
 

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My intellectual and emotional maturity and social skills are pretty well developed, and that's all I care about. Wonder if I'll ever "bloom" Not that I really care in the first place. :B
 

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I still wonder why children my age (twelve to thirteen) giggle when the word 'sex' is mentioned. The entire middle school seems completely immature, but I think I can understand.

People think I'm interesting, though, and they like to chase me.
 
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