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Okay, I know it's a sad subject, but I wonder how you guys think/feel about how you would be remembered after you pass away: by family, friends, coworkers, the general public, etc.

Do you have any ideas about how you would be remembered? Do you have wishes regarding this? Do you strive towards a certain way of being remembered? Do you fantasize about how people will remember you and under what circumstances?
 

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I don't fantasize about those things. That would mean setting up expectations. I've been disappointed by the people around me enough times to mostly drop that practice.

That being said, I do speculate about how I am perceived. The descriptions I've heard are rather boring, though; surface level adjectives, maybe a few ones of higher "quality". Then again, these are from the people that only know me through school.

I can get a feel for how my closest friend would describe me, but I hesitate to pluck out specific words. I don't know about my family; like my classmates at school, they don't see the "complete" me.

Truly, I just want to be remembered as myself. I don't want a single lie or embellishment. But at the same time, I can't be remembered as such if I lock away parts of myself instinctively. This is one thing I am trying to work on, for many reasons.
 

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I don't fantasize about those things. That would mean setting up expectations. I've been disappointed by the people around me enough times to mostly drop that practice.
Awh :( Do you have hope that you may be remembered as yourself, by at least one person?

I'd like to be remembered as someone who made something positive happen in someone else's life. I try, in my own way. I wouldn't mind if they couldn't recall what exactly I accomplished, but if they at least had this feeling I had done something good for them, that would be really great.

I'll try to answer my own questions in your fashion, but later. ^^
 
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What a depressing thought, and no! of course i don't fantasize about dying.
Honestly I don't think people would care all that much. That's sad isn't it? Let's all cry and hold each other ;_;
 

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What a depressing thought, and no! of course i don't fantasize about dying.
Honestly I don't think people would care all that much. That's sad isn't it? Let's all cry and hold each other ;_;
Hehe xD I'm sure you'll be remembered as 'that INFP that hits on every female he comes across'. Which may be a positive and negative thing. ;)
 

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I always have hope! No matter how doomed the situation is! Probably because I don't want to think about a situation with no hope!

With the current people in my life, I'm doubtful that anyone will remember me as my complete self. :tongue: But I do not wish to blame them for that, for I am the one clenching onto the insides of my barriers.

I can somewhat identify with that desire :happy: One of my own wishes is to touch others' lives, to inspire; so, I suppose one could say I wish to be remembered as such, since it would fit under the umbrella of "myself". But that isn't my focus.
 

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Quite a few people tell me that they think I'll change the world, but I don't really believe it... it seems unrealistic, and I need to try and stray away from my idealism.
So I just want to be remembered as someone who made the people I truly care about happy. I'm pretty good at doing it and it distracts me from myself, if only for a little while.
 

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Actually, I was thinking about this just the other day... I'm just trying to visualize the reaction of my sister and her family when they get the call that "he was found face down in the desert, wearing only a fez, one sock and clutching an empty bottle of Jack Danials.While I doubt they'd be surprised, I'm torn between someone saying "OK, 80 bucks to whom ever came closest to 'found naked in the desert'?" or "way to raise the bar, B". Even though we're a sarcastic bunch, we're always laughing about something... Either at ourselves or one of the others in our family, but not in a demeaning way.Peace.
 
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To those saying they'd rather be forgotten: why? Why do you not want to be remembered?

I think my coworkers at my current job will remember me as that guy who doesn't speak much but seems agreeable, who sometimes 'surprisingly' lashes out Te-style, and after work enjoys drinking a beer with the boss, discussing and analyzing work-related stuff to improve things, when they do not. The guy you don't really notice much unless something happens? lol.
 

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Okay, I know it's a sad subject, but I wonder how you guys think/feel about how you would be remembered after you pass away: by family, friends, coworkers, the general public, etc
I used to want to be remembered as a hero. Now I don't care - I just look forward to dying...
 

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I have no fantasies about it and I don't find it sad in the least. Everybody dies and everybody will be remembered in some way by somebody. But I do expect that different people will have different memories about me. Some will be glad I'm gone and I can't help the way they feel, so I don't really care what they think. People I am close to will remember more of my positive traits--that I am sensitive, helpful, and kind (maybe not always). A lot of people will remember me as an accomplished climber and skier who also was instrumental in getting avalanche knowledge and information out of the brains of a few specialists and into some form of public consumption. For some narcissistic reason, I take some comfort in that of all things. It's still what I do the best.
 
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