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Ignoring all the political baggage that it comes with it, I find social media primarily takes two forms:

1. Jazzed up photos of people, places or events that don't reflect reality.

2. Generic photos of people sitting or standing with other people, i.e. at a dinner table or a random event where someone decided a group photo was in order.

I like the 1st one. It creates something nice to look at. The second one, however, just makes me feel a mild sense of despair. Is this all life has to offer? It makes me feel okay about being something of a lone wolf. I was going to say 'social recluse', but that isn't right because I'm quite happy to do things with people. Just not the things where everyone sits or stands to take a photo together.
 

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I existed in a state where I needed vitamins, minerals and fiber. Thus I thought, “I exist in a state where I need vitamins, minerals and fiber.”

I asked, “Should I go buy some food and drinks that will fulfill my needs for vitamins, minerals and fiber?”

I concluded, “It would be good that I would go buy some food and drinks that will fulfill my needs for vitamins, minerals and fiber.”

Thus, I set out to the amazon online store and bought some food and drinks that would fulfill my needs for vitamins, minerals and fiber.
 

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It occurs to me that I am indeed quite a private person.

I often tell people that I'm happy about the publicness of my social media accounts, and don't care that XYZ corporation tracks whatever I do, for whatever advertising or psy-ops shite they want to pull.

But it now occurs to me that I still approach my public accounts in a very private way. There have been many, many occasions where I decided against writing or posting something because I know that someone might see it who I don't want to see it. Unlike on anonymous forums like this, where I'll write damn near anything, I actually do restrict myself a lot in the public realms of the internet.

I've recently been following a lot of the posts on a group called "Expats in Saigon", and sometimes I want to join in the conversations, but I don't because a friend of mine is in that group and I don't want him to see me as a member of an online community. Rather bizarrely, I still find it a bit 'sad' when people put effort into maintaining any amount of status, position or companionship in an online community. It's bizarre because this is exactly what I do on this forum, and have done so for years. The only difference is that I don't attach my name and face to it. This is probably the biggest irrational thought I've harboured in recent years.

It may also be due to the fact that I'm just sick of living through the internet. Wish lockdown would fuck off.
 

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Are the physical skills/spatial perception issues usual characteristics of autism? For example, problems with handwriting or drawing, riding a bicycle, playing sports, parking a car....
Generally yeah. High functioning is really the geek syndrome, because it's mentally focused and not great at social or physical skills. A large portion of the people I know in tech are like that. My therapist suggested I smoke weed to help with some of the anxiety problems I suffer as a result lol. But there isn't much in the way of improving motor skills other than practice.
 

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Are the physical skills/spatial perception issues usual characteristics of autism? For example, problems with handwriting or drawing, riding a bicycle, playing sports, parking a car....

Generally yeah. High functioning is really the geek syndrome, because it's mentally focused and not great at social or physical skills. A large portion of the people I know in tech are like that. My therapist suggested I smoke weed to help with some of the anxiety problems I suffer as a result lol. But there isn't much in the way of improving motor skills other than practice.
i think it may be true for some. my last bf was like undiagnosed but tested fairly autistic. he could do complex computer functions but could barely tie his shoes. and his handwriting wasnt horrible but he wrote really slow and it had to be fancy. it may have been part uncoordination but I think it was mostly emotional blocks. he didnt have super great social skills, tended to get very uncontrollably aggressive when upset, but despite his poor finger control he was ambidextrously amazing with his fanatical mma skills.
 

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Just found Stromme Syndrome, which has afflicted only 12 people in the whole world.

Reading the wikipedia entry on it has filled me with a sense of awe about the collective work and knowledge on the human genome. The fact that folk identified the faulty gene that causes this, and even know what genetics the parents must have for Stromme Syndrome to be a risk (or whatever 'autosomal recessive' means).

It's really quite remarkable.

Collective human knowledge is remarkable. We really are a hive mind, in so many ways.
 

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We are spoiled. If we told a person 30+ years ago they could Google 'Marrakech' and see all those pictures in an instant, I bet you they would be looking at them in awe for at least half an hour. Then we tell them about YouTube and we lose them for five hours. And here we are yawning and complaining at our screens... Spoiled.
 

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We are spoiled. If we told a person 30+ years ago they could Google 'Marrakech' and see all those pictures in an instant, I bet you they would be looking at them in awe for at least half an hour. Then we tell them about YouTube and we lose them for five hours. And here we are yawning and complaining at our screens... Spoiled.
In our defense, it's just how the brain works and always has worked. It's just a different kind of idleness/boredom in response to a different kind of wealth (similar to the elite in their castles).
 

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I wish I could spend hours working on the computer without eye strain or not focus on my problems. But I hate reality, so I end up putting some music on and entering a trance. I wish I could just make shit happen with my mind, whatever I want just happens.
 

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I've complained a lot over recent months about the woeful lack of socialising in my life. In my new job, there's a group chat full of people who are doing online meet-ups to play games and chat during lockdown. I do not have any interest in joining that group. In a way, my lack of socialising is my own fault.

Also I'm still doing my regular cigarette-on-the-balcony thing to keep myself slightly occupied. Most days when I stand there, a guy will drive past with an annoyingly noisy mini-truck thing to pick up all the rubbish people place in the bins outside each building. "Why is he always there when I want a smoke?!" I would think to myself. Today it finally occurred to me that I always have a cigarette after eating, and I always eat at 5. He obviously does his rounds at that time, and so the annoyance is of my own making.
 

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I've complained a lot over recent months about the woeful lack of socialising in my life. In my new job, there's a group chat full of people who are doing online meet-ups to play games and chat during lockdown. I do not have any interest in joining that group. In a way, my lack of socialising is my own fault.
You could always socialize at meetup groups. I was doing that before the pandemic. Also I'm probably gonna start going to the gym, that might be a way to meet people I guess.
Or how did you meet your last GF? You could always socialize that way.

I've been trying to find ways to connect with a friend of mine that I moved away from, but she hasn't been the best at texting.
 

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I join some meetup groups on-line zoom. I visit once, twice a week. They are zoom people so I don't see them outside zoom. Anyone see anything negative about doing that?
 

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I join some meetup groups on-line zoom. I visit once, twice a week. They are zoom people so I don't see them outside zoom. Anyone see anything negative about doing that?
I don't.

I just have a personal preference against it, the same as I have a personal preference against eating brussels sprouts :D

Maybe I'm more antisocial than I thought.
 

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You could always socialize at meetup groups. I was doing that before the pandemic. Also I'm probably gonna start going to the gym, that might be a way to meet people I guess.
Or how did you meet your last GF? You could always socialize that way.

I've been trying to find ways to connect with a friend of mine that I moved away from, but she hasn't been the best at texting.
My last girlfriend was via TanTan, which is basically Tinder but in China. I'm so done with online interactions, so I don't want to do it that way any more, be it for friends or girlfriends or whatever else. I was recently telling my friend that when this lockdown is over I'm gonna dive straight into the city and treat things like I'm in the 90s or something. No more phones etc. Just be a human among humans. It's probably all a pipedream, but the thought excites me.
 

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Autumn is upon us here in Saigon.

It's funny because I can feel the weather is cooler, and I'm getting that "boohoo, summer is over" feeling, as is the norm for British folk who are about to go into 6 months of shitty non-summer weather.

But I'm sat here in my underwear with the balcony doors wide open. It's bloody warm, and will almost certainly be sit-in-my-underwear weather all year round. Most excellent.

Also I made the mistake of buying bananas. I think it happens roughly once per year. I buy them, thinking they'll be a good healthy food option, then feel instant regret after eating one. I hate bananas, I hate the weird soft-dry texture they have. I think I tell myself I'm supposed to like them because they're pretty much the most commonly available fruit in the whole world. But I hate them. I need to accept that I hate them and not buy them ever again.
 

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These days I'm a very early riser. Too early. I generally wake up at 5am, even if I'm tired. This is definitely a result of being isolated and stuck in my apartment for so long.

Problems aside, I actually enjoy being an early riser. 5am is too early, but perhaps 6 or 7am would be fine. I'm really excited for when lockdown ends and I can go out into the world at such an early time. Early morning motorcycle jaunts, grabbing breakfast from somewhere, etc etc. Mornings are great.
 
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