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Hello everyone. I just wanted to get your opinion of ENFP men. How do you view us? Do we annoy you? Are we attractive to you? Do we freak you out? Do you like us and in what way? Are we romantic or platonic to you? Opinions form other ENFP men is welcomed as well.:happy:

Ready......... Set............. Hotdog........................... Discuss! :crazy:
 

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1. Romantic. Incredibly romantic and sexy.
2. No, ENFP guys don't annoy me. I've only ever met one though =(
3. Attractive? definitely. who doesn't love an "inspirer" ? =P
ive only ever met one ENFP IRL, but INFPs are the introverted version of you guys and i have quite a few[weird, cuz theyre sposed to be rare] INFP friends ^_^
 
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Omg! I just wrote you guys a beautiful novel about you! It took me a half hour to write it and the internet erased it!!! I'm sooooooooo pissed!:crying:
 
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From the one ENFP I do know, that is male, I think you guys are funny, pleasant, attractive, and intelligent.

But knowing how all over the place I can be, I would never date one. Good friends, most certainly!

ENFP women are great though :D
I love INTP men :). They are pretty great! (Sorry, I saw you were one, I had to comment).
 

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Omg! I just wrote you guys a beautiful novel about you! It took me a half hour to write it and the internet erased it!!! I'm sooooooooo pissed!:crying:
I totally feel robbed here.

My contribution: Anytime I hang with another ENFP guy we put a smile on everyone's face whom we encounter. We are a charm machine.
 

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Okay. This is funny that you ask if you are platonic. I've never had a non-sexual relationship with an ENFP male IRL. And no, I'm not a whore. It was only 2 and they were both special people to me. I have found we tend to have instant attraction.

Oh wait. There was this ENfP old man that I met and asked me out on a date and I felt nothing and said "no". So there you go. But he was 22 years my senior.

ENFP men are fuzzy lumps of love. They have so much energy and they are high on life. I love their laughter and their insight.

You guys have a lot of class. It's true. You have a right to judge other's who treat their women like crap. You ruin women. But in a good way. If a woman has ever had the privilege of dating you, she can never go back into expecting anything less. You set a new standard on how women and people should be treated.

You are so open and tolerant of other types and preferences. Seriously, you can't stand close mindedness. You are down to earth and so real. You are so good to your friends. You lift them up and inspire. Even when I've been in my darkest spot and feel like shit, and ENFP man could tell me I was a worthy person and that I will continue to kick ass in my life. ENFP don't judge me for my mistakes. They just dust me off. They give me a soft place to land and then they tell me, "Go. Or I'll kick your ass myself! Knock em dead!"

When other's need support, they can "fall" into you. It feels like they haven't slept for years when they do. Do you realize the type of comfort you provide?

Even a shallow stranger, or a friends with benefit, will be treated with the utmost respect. You make the most out of everything. You want to affect people positively. You work so hard at knowing what a person will need. You hate doing things just "on the surface".

You worry about so and so treating so and so badly. It really affects your own heart. You have incredible empathy.

You hate hurting people, but you get fierce when someone has hurt someone you care about. You are incredibly loyal and fun to be around. You make a person feel welcomed. You also tend to have self deprecating humor. You are humble. Way too humble. And you often date beneath you and function lower than your abilities. This is because you are too humble. You could stand to have a bit more entitlement.

You are incredibly witty and clever. You are fair. You need love. You love being loved. But most importantly, you love to give love.

There is a strength in knowing what you believe in. Even if other's think it is wacky, you know why it's important to you. And you are like a lion protecting your values. You stand firm.

You fight for the underdog. You have a strong distaste for other men who use women. You treat people with respect and you can make anyone laugh when they are down.

You are big kids. You are dreamers. You examine people, and can truly see when someone is "bad". Most people are better for knowing you and grow from knowing you.

You have an inner dark side. There is an inner pain. You rarely share and will only show to those who are very special and trustworthy. You need to go inward at times. This is you being real with yourself. At that time, you are not concerned with others and what you project. You NEED to go inward at times and take care of yourself. This is to recuperate from giving SO much to others.

I could lay around with you and roll on the floor all day. We could watch cartoons, eat grilled cheese sandwiches, and blow on each other's bellies unexpectedly. And then we could all of a sudden get on our high horse and talk about how some stupid law passed and just denied a certain people their rights. Haters. We hate haters.

Haha. ENFP men are cute. So very cute. So squeezable. But there is a hard core.

You are so rare. I don't care about statistics. You guys are RARE and the world is lucky to have you.

I have never met a self-centered male ENFP IRL.
 

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From the one ENFP I do know, that is male, I think you guys are funny, pleasant, attractive, and intelligent.

But knowing how all over the place I can be, I would never date one. Good friends, most certainly!



I love INTP men :). They are pretty great! (Sorry, I saw you were one, I had to comment).
I'm glad you're sorry, don't be so foolish as to make such an obvious mistake again! ;)
 

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Lol pink everything you said above is pretty much what defines ENFP males. Well everything you say in general probably lights up Anyones day ENFP or not:tongue:
 

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King of Dreams, meeting an ENFP male is like finding a long lost best friend! There's an instant connection, an almost mystical understanding of one another, plus a basketful of hugs thrown in.

Years ago, an ENFP teenager lived across the street from our family. No one could understand how we became friends so quickly in spite of our age difference. There was no sexual element; it was just a very unconventional friendship and I think we both liked that. We're still friends today and he recently took the MBTI. Neither of us was surprised to find we're the same type. He wasn't just a friend. He was my friend and I was his friend. ENFPs reading this, get how I mean that.

ENFP males are rare to me. You're so much fun, so intense about love. You get so fired up when a loved one is mistreated and you are very sweet. You're interested in talking things through and affirming others, which is a gift in friendship. All that Pinkrasputin said and more.
 

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You hate hurting people, but you get fierce when someone has hurt someone you care about. You are incredibly loyal and fun to be around. You make a person feel welcomed. You also tend to have self deprecating humor. You are humble. Way too humble. And you often date beneath you and function lower than your abilities. This is because you are too humble. You could stand to have a bit more entitlement.
I dont really get the bold part, could you elaborate?
 

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I dont really get the bold part, could you elaborate?
You are not living up to your fullest potential. You deserve better and are better than you think.

If you are an ENFP who is 100% confident in your talents, and not afraid to be compensated for them to the fullest extent, that is awesome. But so often I find ENFP males that are worthy of so much more. They can do more and be more than what they are currently doing. It took my ENFP male friend 37 years to fully realize a potential I saw in him at 21.

As far as dating. Yes, you see the best in everyone. So with that, you date beneath you. Don't worry. You'll never see it. Neither will I. Our loves are on up on a pedestal.
 

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Okay. This is funny that you ask if you are platonic. I've never had a non-sexual relationship with an ENFP male IRL. And no, I'm not a whore. It was only 2 and they were both special people to me. I have found we tend to have instant attraction.

Oh wait. There was this ENfP old man that I met and asked me out on a date and I felt nothing and said "no". So there you go. But he was 22 years my senior.

ENFP men are fuzzy lumps of love. They have so much energy and they are high on life. I love their laughter and their insight.

You guys have a lot of class. It's true. You have a right to judge other's who treat their women like crap. You ruin women. But in a good way. If a woman has ever had the privilege of dating you, she can never go back into expecting anything less. You set a new standard on how women and people should be treated.

You are so open and tolerant of other types and preferences. Seriously, you can't stand close mindedness. You are down to earth and so real. You are so good to your friends. You lift them up and inspire. Even when I've been in my darkest spot and feel like shit, and ENFP man could tell me I was a worthy person and that I will continue to kick ass in my life. ENFP don't judge me for my mistakes. They just dust me off. They give me a soft place to land and then they tell me, "Go. Or I'll kick your ass myself! Knock em dead!"

When other's need support, they can "fall" into you. It feels like they haven't slept for years when they do. Do you realize the type of comfort you provide?

Even a shallow stranger, or a friends with benefit, will be treated with the utmost respect. You make the most out of everything. You want to affect people positively. You work so hard at knowing what a person will need. You hate doing things just "on the surface".

You worry about so and so treating so and so badly. It really affects your own heart. You have incredible empathy.

You hate hurting people, but you get fierce when someone has hurt someone you care about. You are incredibly loyal and fun to be around. You make a person feel welcomed. You also tend to have self deprecating humor. You are humble. Way too humble. And you often date beneath you and function lower than your abilities. This is because you are too humble. You could stand to have a bit more entitlement.

You are incredibly witty and clever. You are fair. You need love. You love being loved. But most importantly, you love to give love.

There is a strength in knowing what you believe in. Even if other's think it is wacky, you know why it's important to you. And you are like a lion protecting your values. You stand firm.

You fight for the underdog. You have a strong distaste for other men who use women. You treat people with respect and you can make anyone laugh when they are down.

You are big kids. You are dreamers. You examine people, and can truly see when someone is "bad". Most people are better for knowing you and grow from knowing you.

You have an inner dark side. There is an inner pain. You rarely share and will only show to those who are very special and trustworthy. You need to go inward at times. This is you being real with yourself. At that time, you are not concerned with others and what you project. You NEED to go inward at times and take care of yourself. This is to recuperate from giving SO much to others.

I could lay around with you and roll on the floor all day. We could watch cartoons, eat grilled cheese sandwiches, and blow on each other's bellies unexpectedly. And then we could all of a sudden get on our high horse and talk about how some stupid law passed and just denied a certain people their rights. Haters. We hate haters.

Haha. ENFP men are cute. So very cute. So squeezable. But there is a hard core.

You are so rare. I don't care about statistics. You guys are RARE and the world is lucky to have you.

I have never met a self-centered male ENFP IRL.
I just want to take the time to thank you Pink:happy:. It really boosted my confidence:crazy:. I think that we are a very rare breed:blushed:. We think the world of women:happy:. Of people, really. So I speak for all ENFP men when I say: You're awesome Pink:happy:! Thank you!:proud:
 

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You are awesome, Pink :)

But I still think there are not many people who have the same opinion on us. From what I've heard we are obnoxious, too sensitive and we talk too much. Even most of my friends say that I was really getting on their nerves before they got to know me better. They say the same about my ENTP friend though. Maybe it's Ne nobody likes. Poor Ne. However, all these people find ENFP women adorable...

I wonder...Have anybody else noticed that most of these positive posts come from ENFP women? Where did all other types go? I would love to know what do other types think about us ENFP men! :D
 

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From what I've heard we are obnoxious, too sensitive and we talk too much. Even most of my friends say that I was really getting on their nerves before they got to know me better. They say the same about my ENTP friend though. Maybe it's Ne nobody likes. Poor Ne. However, all these people find ENFP women adorable...

I wonder...Have anybody else noticed that most of these positive posts come from ENFP women? Where did all other types go? I would love to know what do other types think about us ENFP men! :D
If I'm really on my game, people will never type me properly upon first impression. At work I'm ESTJ or ENTJ at home I'm INFP at the community band I'm ESFJ, and on and on. I wouldn't call it a mask or not being true to myself. I'm creating harmony by adjusting my outward interactions. Harmony creation has ENFP written all over it. It's only when people dive past my outward self and drill through to deciphering motivations do they really have a chance at typing me properly.

I cried at the theater while watching 'Up'. Yet, I just asked one of my co-workers the other day If I'm too emotional. Well, the actual question was, 'Have you ever seen me get angry?'. Her answer, 'We're all still waiting for it.'
 
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If I'm really on my game, people will never type me properly upon first impression. At work I'm ESTJ or ENTJ at home I'm INFP at the community band I'm ESFJ, and on and on. I wouldn't call it a mask or not being true to myself. I'm creating harmony by adjusting my outward interactions. Harmony creation has ENFP written all over it. It's only when people dive past my outward self and drill through to deciphering motivations do they really have a chance at typing me properly.

I cried at the theater while watching 'Up'. Yet, I just asked one of my co-workers the other day If I'm too emotional. Well, the actual question was, 'Have you ever seen me get angry?'. Her answer, 'We're all still waiting for it.'
basically what you said. a lot of people don't get our real personalities if they don't know us. like for example, im pretty sure i come across as F[ie artistic, emotional..kind of comes with 'artistic', people call me sensitive, im a huge fan of hippie type stuff and always go around saying "peace, love, and inspiration", im rampantly idealistic, i always tell people to stop fighting, you know, stuff like that. looking at myself from an outsider's perspective, id type myself as an ENFP[p because im messy and can be indecisive.] it's only my inner circle[not even family for that matter] that could easily believe im INTJ. with my family, i act SJ because acting like myself isn't accepted and id rather just not bother, even if it kills me on the inside. so i pretend to be a responsible, organized, traditionalist, etc..and save my N-ness for my journal, friends, and being alone. i appear a lot like a "stereotypical female" with strangers and people i don't know well.
it's just easier than being judged and criticized.
 
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If I'm really on my game, people will never type me properly upon first impression. At work I'm ESTJ or ENTJ at home I'm INFP at the community band I'm ESFJ, and on and on. I wouldn't call it a mask or not being true to myself. I'm creating harmony by adjusting my outward interactions. Harmony creation has ENFP written all over it. It's only when people dive past my outward self and drill through to deciphering motivations do they really have a chance at typing me properly.

I cried at the theater while watching 'Up'. Yet, I just asked one of my co-workers the other day If I'm too emotional. Well, the actual question was, 'Have you ever seen me get angry?'. Her answer, 'We're all still waiting for it.'
Wait- My male ENFP took me to see the opening of "Up" (had the pre-show and everything). We both cried but I was way louder. Then I went to the theater and saw it 2 more times. The last time I saw it with a current boyfriend. He didn't cry at all and it made me judge him.

I'll sometimes judge guys for not crying at movies. It makes me wonder if their hearts are made of steal. Then I know the relationship is doomed.....

Who doesn't cry at "Up"???? If you are a man and you cry at Up, that is a sign that you love women and believe in love. It also tells me you think it's beautiful to grow old with a woman. You empathized with the man's love and loss.

My ESFJ ex just sat there. :angry:
 
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