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What's your opinion on adding random people on facebook to try & get dates with them/meet up?

Adding friends of friends you hardly know for the same reason?
 

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That's how my best friend met her ex. It worked (they were super in love and dated for almost two years, and are still friends/will probably get back together tbh). I also met one of my friends this way.

However, if I were single I wouldn't do it and I generally don't add people who friend me on Facebook who I don't know, unless they have enough information public that I can tell they're a legit profile and someone who I would have something in common with. If this is a specific person who you want to friend, you could try it, but it may not work.
 

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I am just wondering if women thought it was creepy & why...

I mean, it's an opportunity to meet a new person. I'd meet people I wouldn't have met otherwise.
 

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I am just wondering if women thought it was creepy & why...

I mean, it's an opportunity to meet a new person. I'd meet people I wouldn't have met otherwise.
It depends on the woman and how creepy your profile looks. Like if you have a picture where your face isn't even visible and everything is set on private or your listed interests seem random/strange, then people might be cautious.
 

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It sounds romantic but it's not. I think it's creepy, I don't know the person and their motivation. I have no qualms adding acquaintances but I wouldn't add random people.

There are better, safer ways to meet new people.

Once a religious guy added me and his profile consisted of a lot of pictures of him praying and religious quotes. He was sleazy, too so I blocked him, instantly. It's funny now but wasn't then.
 

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I think it depends on your intentions. See, personally i wouldnt want a guy to look at my profile picture and think "oh she's hot i should add her" because i'd find that creepy and shallow.
 

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I use FB strictly for people I already know,
And intend to keep contact with,
Otherwise I delete people regardless of their past history with me.

I can't afford to just let EVERYONE on my FB as that'd take away time from people who I care and love for,
Or see myself visiting in the future with :)
 

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Sounds less efficient than talking to people offline to get that face-to-face experience, not to mention kind of annoying to the people being added (especially if it's happening on forums where people want to talk, not cam or flirt with people 1,000 miles away).
 

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What's your opinion on adding random people on facebook to try & get dates with them/meet up?

Adding friends of friends you hardly know for the same reason?
Much like your avatar, it's creepy. Nigerian scam artist much? "Me the happy girl loving to the you. I seeking for to family and the life partner happiness."

My favorite response is just as duplicitous and at least funny - "I so need a loving Russian girl. I am so misunderstood in my job. I work as a male porn star and I am objectified and treated like meat by beautiful women every day. I go to fabulous parties and I am treated like an appetizer. I am wealthy but still have not found true love ..."

Gets boring though. Too many of them. I get 1-3 per day either fb, e-mail, online dating service, etc. CREEPY
 

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The only random friend requests I've ever had are people (all male) from various parts of Asia where I think it's more of a cultural norm to horde friends for the hell of it - I think facebook is a bit more 'myspacey' for them. Definitely in India I find a lot of them add whoever they like and assume immediate proper real life friendship. I had a girl from Pakistan once add me, I thought I must have met her in India when I was there, but it turns out she was a complete stranger, we chatted a bit on a few occasions, then I got bored and stopped talking to her, and she actually got mad about it, as if I was a bad person for not maintaining our 'friendship'. It really surprised me actually. Major cultural difference, methinks.

So yeah that's all I have to say on this subject. I personally would never add a stranger just because they looked like my cup of tea. Even though I'm an INTP, thoroughly absorbed by the online world, I still believe people need to meet in real life to gauge whether there is an attraction or not. Diving in with random friend requests is just odd.
 

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What's your opinion on adding random people on facebook to try & get dates with them/meet up?

Adding friends of friends you hardly know for the same reason?
I would advice against it. A random add is like a bad first liner, but at least then you have met each other in person

There should be at least some basis for an add, is what I would say, to fall back on (to start the discussion with - and avoid coming across suspicious).
 

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I don't get it. I'm generally not interested(romantically) in people that I haven't met in person, and I just wouldn't bother trying to date someone that I didn't already know at least somewhat.
 

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We would have to have a common interest or maybe if they lived nearby. I think it also depends on how they got to my profile. Most random friend requests that I receive from guys are on my step-sisters friend list. She jumps into any new relationship feet first with her knickers around her ankles. So, she tends to attract a certain 'type' and I immediately judge them as after one thing. It creeps me out that they add me because I'm listed as her sister.
 
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