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What would be your perfect first date?

Is there any particular way that you would like to be courted or do the courting?

What would make you feel uncomfortable?

Be creative with your answers if you want.
 

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You're asking the INTP forum about... dating?

Preposterous. :tongue:
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If the person is somebody I relatively don't know, I prefer social settings more than the private one 2 one encounter, drinks perhaps :happy:. It seems easier for us to build talking material that way, which could lead to a good convo and to get a good idea whether they have more than an attractive appearance. The beach is always a good place for me to find material for jokes, though it maybe a lil too revealing for the typical INTP :tongue: lol my last date to the beach lead to some interesting observations we would later call 'Douche Hunting'

me - "...Douchey hair cut, 4 o'clock"

her - "I wonder if he's the type that enjoys watching himself masturbate in front of a mirror?!?"

me - ROFL
 

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A perfect first date wouldn't be an official date at all. The best are the ones where you happen to be in a situation where you get to spend time with a person who you have a crush on. Dates are so cliche that I feel like a huge cornball even being on one. There's also so much pressure, and expectation, that I just feel to break the tension with something completely inappropriate or brutally honest.

I have actually left most first dates I have been on quite early. I can see the end, from the beginning, and I just tell them straight up: not gonna happen kbye. I also like to be friends with someone for a while before trying to pursue anything romantic. No awkward first date needed at that point - just two friends spending time together.
 

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The ideal setting would be like an appointment for a specific activity based on shared interests or something school or work related.

For instance, there is this INTJ girl with whom we attended a local science seminar on Christian culture in an artistic and scientific context, neither of us being even remotely religious. We had a great time and were both somewhat interested in the subject and as a result, it could be said that this was one of the rare occurrences i got to experience the relieving lightness of what could be called happiness.
 

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She'd have to look like Rhianna, be totally into self discovery maybe even be in that 'enlightened' space so we could talk over a few drinks then afterwards, on the same night she screws me like a pornstar. Pretty perfect to me.
 

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If it is a "perfect" first date then it is with someone I am already enamored with and we could go shoveling shit together and I would be happy. He would stop to get me a drink of water, wipe the sweat off my brow. He would look into my eyes and it would fill my heart with awe and longing. Later on we'd take a shower (probably separately because we're shy still) then I would give him a back rub then one thing would lead to another...
Er.. not ideal.

Ideally I'd like to go on a trip to the mountains together. A hike or rafting trip or a trip through a cave/mine would be awesome. Almost anything that involves going to the mountains would be great. A trip to the museum or botanic gardens or other cultural attraction would please me if it was something he was into. Even a traditional movie and dinner would be fine by me.

I would not like anything involving crowds, loud noises, dancing, going to church, parties, clubs or sporting events. An exception might be a concert, though for a first date I'd prefer something quieter. This is because these things take a lot of energy from me (even if I enjoy them) and I would rather focus on my date than on managing the stimulation from the environment.
 

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I think a good first date is for both people to do something they enjoy together. I've had some fun first dates over NTN trivia at Wild Wings. There is a constant stream of factoids to discuss (which I think is really fun) and keep the conversation going. I like playing pool or other games with my dates. Hiking sounds fun, but I've never done that on a date.

My worst first-date scenario: the traditional dinner-and-a-movie date. Eeeeeeek!
 

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It wouldn't be a cliché or conventional date, that's a certainty. I don't think we would even have a first date - is there even a need for a date?
 

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Hmm watching TV and surfing the net for stupid shit to talk about? I need someone who's as in to doing nothing as I am.
 

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You're asking the INTP forum about... dating?

Preposterous. :tongue:
I plagiarized this off of the INTJ forums. I noticed they go for the romance novel/movie type of dates. So I was wondering what other INTPs think.

The idea of going on a normal date is not appealing at all to me, unless I was already in a relationship with the person, which would mean it's not a date. Reading about dating advice for a normal date, not to mention what I would need to do in order to initiate it, makes me nauseous.
 

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I've never been on a date. I'm a total sociopath. I wouldn't want one, either. Or maybe..one of just hanging around his house, or anywhere else, being completely alone, and smooching and caressing and stuff. that would be nice.
 

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There's no definite "perfect" date for me, but something that sounds like fun to me would be going to a museum or a park and later coming home to watch movies.. I don't know. I think just spending time with that special person, no matter what you end up doing, would be a great date.
 

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Definitely not a dinner or movies burrr haha. I was asked for a drive and dinner a few times by an INTJ I dated, and it was so awkward. It's so hard to make any conversation for two shy people.

A perfect first date would be doing something out of the box. Like there's an ENFJ guy who asked me to go fishing with him sometime. That would be overly sweet, if there wasn't some thing on the way. And an aquarium would be nice too, I always dreamed about that when a was a kid. :D I basically think any imaginative place matching common interests.
 
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