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Sixes are avid troubleshooters and have no trouble finding something about themselves or others that worries them, yet, there are those behaviors we display that go past our radars, because they are so essentially integrated into them. The more we fall in the trap of trying to analyze and troubleshoot all that arouses fear or anxiety in us, the more these behaviors or patterns become prominent.
So what are things you do that consistently upset those dear to you/ the things that really drain you and those around you? Note, though that I'm not asking about what you fear or believe might upset or drain others, but about that which actually did upset them and drains them/you and has continued to do so, until a point in the past or present.
Also, if you recognize such a pattern in yourself have you discovered things that help you avoid it? Have you learned ways to stop displaying those behaviors?
For me the draining factor are the 'spiraling thought patterns' as I'd like to call them. When I'm in a bad mood, I by nature, try to analyze what's going on and find ways to try and stop these moods and move beyond them. Which sounds great in theory, in reality this just doesn't work out. Moods are not rational, they don't just go away when you've realized they are not necessary, they don't move away when you've solved what you want to solve. Of course it's good to have a sense of when your emotions are in proportion with a situation, though in proportion or not, problem solved or not, moods often stay longer than you want them too. Usually this really manages to frustrate me, which causes me to reach out to those friends, but then what happens? My good friends reassure me, but the moods still linger and I keep writing more about that which bothers me and theorizing more and more, until at some point either I get too tired of me or my friend get's really drained and done with me in that moment. This has happened multiple times.
The solution? As dumb as it sounds, it's 'just deal with it'. In this case it means I don't have to seek anything, don't have to do anything, but just feel the full force of my feelings and my moods and just that, nothing more.
So what are things you do that consistently upset those dear to you/ the things that really drain you and those around you? Note, though that I'm not asking about what you fear or believe might upset or drain others, but about that which actually did upset them and drains them/you and has continued to do so, until a point in the past or present.
Also, if you recognize such a pattern in yourself have you discovered things that help you avoid it? Have you learned ways to stop displaying those behaviors?
For me the draining factor are the 'spiraling thought patterns' as I'd like to call them. When I'm in a bad mood, I by nature, try to analyze what's going on and find ways to try and stop these moods and move beyond them. Which sounds great in theory, in reality this just doesn't work out. Moods are not rational, they don't just go away when you've realized they are not necessary, they don't move away when you've solved what you want to solve. Of course it's good to have a sense of when your emotions are in proportion with a situation, though in proportion or not, problem solved or not, moods often stay longer than you want them too. Usually this really manages to frustrate me, which causes me to reach out to those friends, but then what happens? My good friends reassure me, but the moods still linger and I keep writing more about that which bothers me and theorizing more and more, until at some point either I get too tired of me or my friend get's really drained and done with me in that moment. This has happened multiple times.
The solution? As dumb as it sounds, it's 'just deal with it'. In this case it means I don't have to seek anything, don't have to do anything, but just feel the full force of my feelings and my moods and just that, nothing more.