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#1 ·
I'm hoping people will be honest here. I'm going to be.

Here's the deal...growing up i had two best friends who were older than me. One was from 4th to 8th grade, the other was from 8th - 12th grade. Both of my best buddies were the closest thing to brothers i had ever had. I grew up without a brother in my family and a Dad who was not around. I very much admired and looked up to them. Great guys. Today they are married with kids as I am and we are still friends. I've always wondered about this though...each of them initiated masturbation with me. It became something we did every so often, never went further and never interfered with our dating girls. I always felt sorta bad for it but at the same time i felt closer to them...more accepted by them. Validated in a way. Today as a grown man i guess i can only look at it as some sort of bonding thing. Not sure. They were the jocks, the leaders and always the guys everyone wanted to be around - it was surprising when it first happened because i was more of the musical nerdy guy. But i can't lie and say that it wasn't meaningful because it was - yet it was just goofy too. Huh. Has anyone else had a similar thing happen?

FYI...i've pretty much resolved this in my mind and heart. I know what it was and what it was not. But just wondering if there are others who have had a similiar story.
 
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#5 ·
I personally couldn't imagine another guy touching my business.

There was a guy (jock-football player) that I knew who shared a somewhat similar story. He and his teammates would hang out and play this weird game. They would have a masturbation race to see who could cum fastest on a cracker. That last person to cum on the cracker would have to eat it along with the semen. I was probably 13 when he told my friends and I about this and I was in shock. He seemed too "macho" to do something like that. I think that's when learned to look beyond appearance.

There seems to be a tendency for high school football players to engage in some homosexual activity. I played basketball in high school and always noticed the football players being a little too comfortable with each other in the locker room.
 
#6 ·
This make me shivers. I'm not against homosexual or anything, but TBH, I find it weird that there are some straight guys using masturbation activity together to bond a closer friendship. I've never heard about this before, seriously.
 
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#7 ·
It wasn't like it happend with that as the goal...in fact it wasn't planned at all. And i'm not so quick to call it homosexual. As weird as that may sound - i don't know - i just can't call it that because that indicates a lot to me and none of it fits. As guys we talked about sex a lot, looked at porn magazines together...i guess things just got horny (obviously) and they felt comfortable enough to do what they would do if they were alone. In that way it was a compliment to me...that they felt that unashamed. I don't know. At least this is how my mind "wraps" around it. It wasn't something i ever thought of before it happened.
 
#12 ·
I've never jerked it with/for another guy. But coming from a prep school football/hockey/lacrosse player (specifically hockey) I can tell you that anyone from the outside looking it might think there was some serious **** shit going on.

In retrospect, I think it was a macho thing. Hockey players at my school, and many other, walked on water. We went to a school of 220 kids, living there, and we were like the gods. Got the most girls, got the most respect from teachers, and the most slack. People wanted to be on the team, and be us. We weren't secretive about what went on. We boasted about it, to girls even. Our initiation ceremony consisted of everyone getting ass naked and paddling a new guy with a cut down goalie stick covered in dip spit. We regularly played shower twister and shower soccer. A common game was to piss on the guy next to you without him noticing but everyone else noticing. We had shampoo buddies who would was our hair for us. We never ever closed the door to the shitter, as it was considered "weird" and "antisocial". Even back in the dorm we never showered alone. (Although most guys participated in this "showertime"). And believe me every guy on the team was straight as an arrow. We would quite often have girls come in and shower with us, taking turns with her.

I feel like it was a sorta "look, I can act this gay yet we still get girls". Ego boost maybe. Tradition.
 
#13 ·
You definitely arent alone. It wasnt uncommon in my circle of friends to hear rumors of same sex play. It was something that was done but it was kept on the down low and generally nobody talked about it when it did happen. I know me and my best friend at the time participated in mutual masturbation. Check out the story section on this website:

Solo Touch :: Fact and Fantasy about Male and Female Masturbation (aka Masterbation)

Its chock full of true storys about people participating in same sex play as teens. I would call it normal.
 
#16 ·
Totally forgot what I was gonna say.

Never happened to me, but I never really had any guy friends. If I did, it would have been normal.

Lucky bastard :sad:

But yeah. It's normal. It makes you male, not gay. Gay is when it does go further and you begin to actively seek it out. Until it becomes a natural thing for you to do and want and seek out (and go further with), that's when it means something else, but all that really is is that you're bisexual.

But we're guys, ya know? We get turned on. We experiment. It's normal.

So...

:proud:
 
#17 ·
I just want to clarify that I was on football teams from ages 7-22 and I never witnessed any extra weird stuff going down in the showers. We were just nude around each other: that's it. I've heard about some weird freshmen initiations on other teams, though, so there is apparently some out of the ordinary stuff going down in places.

One of my friends wanted to wack off on in my house when I was in 8th grade and I thought it was weird and sent him home...I would've been weirded out x10 if anybody tried to do anything on a higher level than that.
 
#21 ·
I have heard of this happening. It's really more common than you would think.

That's actually really hot sounding. Dammit, wish I could have been a part of something like that. :frustrating:
 
#23 ·
in my opinion, if you touch each other, its gay, and if you just touch your selves, its just weird :crazy: . that is if you are over 8 or so..

but im not here to judge, be weird all you want if you like it, i dont mind. i bet there are some things that people see as weird in me.
 
#24 ·
Wow I am so glad same sex tribbing and making out is not considered "gay" or "weird" since it was under 8 years of age.

Or wait a minute- I just remembered I never really never gave a shit. :shocked: I define myself and could care less how society defines me. As long as I'm not repressing anything I'm good. :wink:
 
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#28 ·
Not trolling at all. Just being honest and figured others on here would be too. I dont' get my rocks off hearing stories. More so - it's just normalizing to hear others with similar experiences.

My avi is a pic i'm pretty damn proud of...it's taken years to add some size and not look like that skinny little kid i always was.
 
#34 ·
So yesterday i was having a convresation with another friend of mine. I'm not one to mince words and being an ENFJ am pretty open. We start talking about marriage and working out. He said something that made me think that perhaps he had had some experiences. I asked directly and sure enough....he had jacked with a friend growing up too. I'm still a bit shocked...this guy doesn't even remotely give you off a vibe that it would have happened. He laughed it off and said it was just goofy fun. All i know is, man, this is awesome there are men that can be this honest.
 
#35 ·
I've actually heard about same-sex experimenting and masturbation. I haven't known anyone personally that talked about it. I think most people are afraid of the stigma, especially since there are a lot of PerC members coming on here that highly disapprove of this activity.

As Pink said earlier, it's completely natural activity that children engage in. It's parents and society that shames them.
 
#37 ·
There are many guys that have done things like that and they feel a bit awkward about it too. Anyway, don't stress. If you liked it, it doesn't matter why, but it's okay. Yeah, it's homoerotic, but I think it's no big deal. We all are a bit bisexual, and if it's not still everyone, who cares...
But I have heard people like you, if that was your question.
 
#39 ·
I did that with some of my female friends. Most of them were confused and thought this made them gay or bisexual, but I never thought much about it since then. Masturbation whether alone or with help is just a way in which we explore our bodies, and sometimes other's. Children often masturbate out of curiosity, attempting to learn more about their bodies and feelings. I have distinct memories of a love affair with a ribbed pool toy at the age of 11.

I actually knew some people who were nudists and very open-minded growing up, and they let their kids run around naked all the time. I noticed that boys are extremely curious and excited about their penises, and want to share what they learn about their genitals with other boys to compare stories, ask questions, etc. This phase doesn't seem to end for some until they're in their 30s, especially if they don't get it out of their system early on. Many young guys feel the need to explore their sexuality in our ever-oppressing and judgmental society. If the media and public opinion tells them that all men must be sexually dominant, only interested in traditional sexual acts and only ever with a woman, most guys feel the need to question themselves. What if I like being dominated? Am I wrong to think that some men are attractive? Does it make me gay if I like anal play? And how will I know these things if I never try them?

Until you get your questions answered, they'll always be bugging you in the back of your head. The best way to get answers is to explore your sexuality without worrying about social normalcy.
 
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