Without going into too much detail, I suspect myself to have a narcissistic mother.
Being an only child I have served both as the "golden child" and "scapegoat" throughout the years. I've been praised - but only publicly - so it would serve my mother and validate her supposed good parentship. On other occassions I'm put down in order to earn others' sympathy, or to establish her authority as a parent.
For as long as I can remember, I have been very much of an individualist. Though more of a quiet rebel than an outspoken one. I do refuse to concede to certain societal norms because, well - I can - it is outside of my home, but in regards of my mother it is not the same. From time to time I realise I'm walking on my tip-toes so that she will be unable to find any fault in what I'm doing, saying, thinking or even implying. She uses herself of invalidation - mockery of feelings and guilt-tripping, infantalisation - not allowing me to get by on my own, in turn feeding the guilt-tripping. She is an ENTJ/ESTJ, possibly enneagram 3 or 8.
("Those were details, though!" you say. Perhaps they are.)
I did identify as a type Four once (and I'm open to the possibility that I might be one after all) though I am fairly certain I'm a Two. My attitude towards frankness is fiercely adverse and I don't believe in criticism at all - unless it constructive and encouraging. I cannot bear the thought of anyone within my day-to-day life feeling unappreaciated or unloved, regarless of how close our relationship is. I will be smothering if I care - and I do care (too much I think). In other words a tendency to take on the role as "rescuer", admitting I could be in need of one myself.
Hence my interest in the possible correlation between type Twos and narcissistic parents, especially when it comes to only children, or so called "scapegoats" (if you have siblings). Thoughts?
Additional question; do you still live with your narcissistic parent(s)?
Much love :-) (I know it's difficult!)