I am writing here because I have a few questions about 3's and the way they fall in love.
Here's the story.
I've been in a relationship for 4 months with a guy who is almost probably a 3.
The first three weeks were great and very special. I had not felt this since a very long time and he was feeling the same. It was not just about how we felt, our personality also completely matched, we were all super ambitious and curious people, both passionate about self-improvement and learning new things, both independent, that really was a good match.
Anyway, things changed pretty quickly. He left his job a year ago to be an entrepreneur which stresses him out a lot and he started being obsessed by work (to the point he told me during our first holidays together that he was looking forward to go home and work because he was stressed about his carreer...).
He just became all practical and all logical and lost all spontaneity (work first).
When we were chatting about relationships he also told me things about his exes being insecure, about how showing too much weakness can kill a relationship, and about the fact he’s always been less in love with his girlfriends than they were.
All that completely put me off.
He just gave me the image of a guy with no emotions, who was staying 3 or 4 years in relationships without enough love, the image of someone who is incapable of having deep feelings for someone and treats the relationship as an important task more than anything else.
I talked to him about it a few times but he's just saying he is completely obsessed by his career right now. He’s made loads of efforts to prove me he really cares: I know his friends, we have a work project together, he's with me super often and calls me when he is away, etc. I see all of that.
But he is just not showing any emotions at all and because of this the whole thing seems "fake" to me even though he is an honest guy.
Honestly, maybe it's me overthinking or trying to find a reason to stay alone forever, but I just feel like a "convenient" thing he can imagine his future with, that he likes the image he has of me more than me.
The worst part here is that I am a 5, I am NOT the kind of people who shows emotions easily, I am detached of everyone in my life and I don't want things to go too fast. But I'm expecting something different in my intimate relationships…
If I have to let one person in, I just need to feel some emotional connexion after a few months, or at least to feel he is capable of it.
I want to see he cares in his heart, not just in his head.
I tend to isolate and shut my feelings and that doesn't help at all.
Anyway, I just wanted to hear about some 3’s experiences.
Do you give your gf/bf the impression your here for her/him but they feel you're "away" at the same time...?
How do you show affection and that you care? Does it always have to be so practical? Do you tend to get stuck in a relationship that’s not for you just because you don't want to give up or like the idea of being with someone?
Do you always have the feeling your partner is more in love than you?