What are your family's types [MBTI and Enneagram]? Do you think that played a part in how you got along with each other?
Were you competitive with your own siblings?
Were your siblings envious of you ?
What was your relationship with your mother? Your father?
I had a very amazing relationship with my mother [INFJ 3w4] and father [ESTJ 3w2] - and a very rocky one with my brother [INTJ Type 8] and sister [Unconfirmed]. All 3 of us were high-achievers .. except my sister, both my elder brother and myself suffered massive failures in our life [brother's came at an earlier age, so he overcame it] --- Mine came much later in life and since then, I've noticed things like my siblings envy of me come out. I hate to sound arrogant, but my sister admitted to it recently and I was taken aback. My reaction was "Have you even seen how fucked up my life is .. why would you be envious?" Apparently, my relationship with my mother was a huge cause of envy for my elder siblings. And it still is.
There are other things as well .. there was competition b/w the 3 of us in terms of grades, degrees .. I was the first to a Master's degree. My sister's the only one with a PhD. My brother didn't even need a degree to be the most successful of the 3 of us [go figure -- he's a Type 8]. Sometimes I think I'm more worried about competition than they are -- which I suppose means that I'm an unhealthy/average 3 at best and have only been healthy for a short period of my life when I was getting my MBA and on top of the world.
Would appreciate if you shared your stories :)