depends on where one's coming from. There're also higher mental health levels in less stressful environment, more abundance, more security. Enneagram's more complicated than just indicating a type. I'm a core-fix 4 but when in a good place, surrounded by lovely people I revert back to my natural, optimistic, calm state, which is a 9.
meaning you're just a depressed 9 and not a core-fix 4.
Originally Posted by enumerado
My twin brother is social 4. I’ve always had difficulty typing him in the 4 eneatype because he just doesn’t seem very sad or dramatic but I see now how he intellectualizes his emotions and I always see myself trying to connect with him but I feel like there is a kind of shame and anger in him that doesn’t allow to get very close.
We kind of always had the doubt about him being 5 cause he is very knowledgeable and smart. He is quite the social critique and reads a lot and is a very intellectual person. This makes him very charismatic because he combines this with a lot of sense of humor. I see now too in his constant jokes and sarcasm that he kinds of vents his not belonging feeling (he always critiques the way we were raised) through witty comments.