Does anyone else have issues with the 7s need to experience things with a "buddy"?
Hey y'all! So I've been talking to this guy who is a Hardcore 7, and he's been fun to talk with and is very nice. But he's very into being super Southern, and I'm from the South but I'm not very country at all. I don't enjoy hunting or four-wheeling or any of that, but he keeps doing this thing of like "if you try it you'll like it" or like "I can't believe you're from the South and haven't xyz", which is SUCH a 7ish thing to do. My dad is an 8w7 and also does this! Even if you make it clear that you don't enjoy a Thing or don't want to experience a Thing, it's almost like 7s will adamantly try to convince you to enjoy something so they can experience the Thing twice: once through their own senses and again through your reaction afterwards.
And my 4ish independence is becoming annoyed that this dude is seeking to "countrify" me (his actual words) and anxious at the idea of conformity and being "made" to like something or "made" into something I'm authentically not. In my head, I'm wondering why he can't just accept that I'm not as into those things as he is, or why my dad can't let it go if I don't always want to taste the food he's eating.
Obviously I'm not planning on letting this happen because I legimitately don't think my personality is capable of enjoying things for someone else's sake. I'm way too much of a crusader for that haha. And this is super early in this relationship so I don't feel any remorse for being like HEY LISTEN NO THANKS if it comes to that, but I'd like to try and nip this in the bud before he like develops some wild expectation that I'm gonna change in order to be his "ideal person" and try to continue hanging out with him if possible. Because we do have a lot of other things in common.
My question/discussion point would be, has anyone else seen or been frustrated by this behavior in 7 relationships/friendships? And if so, how have you dealt with them? This has been a constant frustration for me in 4/7 relationships.