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This is a discussion on The Nurturing 5 within the Type 5 Forum - The Investigator forums, part of the Head Triad - Types 5,6,7 category; Since us 5's are not known for our cute and cuddly nature, I thought I would ask a forbidden question: ...

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    Type 5w4

    The Nurturing 5

    Since us 5's are not known for our cute and cuddly nature, I thought I would ask a forbidden question:

    Do any of you consider yourself "nurturing"?

    I'm not an empathetic person in the grand scheme of things, but there is weird side of me that wants to take care of people close(ish) to me who are in distress. For instance, I'm at work right now and my boyfriend has food poisoning. He's taking it like any stereotypical man takes an illness. Like a baby. I'm chomping at the bit to get off work and take care of him. Another example is new year's eve when my brother's n00b friend chugged a bottle of Southern Comfort and I was the only one willing to take care of him.

    I can't be the only five that also happens to me a "mother hen".



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    I think your taking ennegram to seriously in that sense. I think any type can be nurturing sometimes.

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    Type 5

    I agree with Chaotic Brain. Just because you're a Five doesn't mean you aren't human. All people want their loved ones to be well and safe. I have been called "nurturing" (and "cute").

    Quote Originally Posted by vikingbitch View Post
    Another example is new year's eve when my brother's n00b friend chugged a bottle of Southern Comfort and I was the only one willing to take care of him.
    I'd probably do the same thing. I wouldn't want to see the poor guy suffer.
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    Type 5w4

    Quote Originally Posted by chaoticbrain View Post
    I think your taking ennegram to seriously in that sense. I think any type can be nurturing sometimes.

    I never said that a Five couldn't be nurturing. I just wanted to see if any other people who share my type feel the same way. Mainly because I'm interested to see who does, what their wing is, and if there is a pattern.
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  6. #5
    Type 5w6

    The way I "nurture" is often with information, questions and answers, mental stimulation etc. .. in other words, 'help' from the center of me, what I've built up over the years, giving of what I am.

    I don't consider material or "direct" support my forte. I'll give it sometimes, but it's not primary.
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    Type 5w6

    I love taking care of my little brother. I smother him with kisses and call him cutesy little nicknames. The same thing with cats. I don't care if I am with someone, if I see a stray I go into crazy cat lady mode:


    "..but if rents continue to soar all the middle class will be priced out andOMG IS THAT A CAT? DAWWW, LOOK AT YOU! You are SOOO CUTE! What's your name Honeybunny? You want a touchytouchy? A scratchyscratchy? DAWWWW, look at all dat fuuuuuur. You are such a sugarpie!"

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    Type 5w4

    Quote Originally Posted by Bluity View Post
    I love taking care of my little brother. I smother him with kisses and call him cutesy little nicknames. The same thing with cats. I don't care if I am with someone, if I see a stray I go into crazy cat lady mode:


    "..but if rents continue to soar all the middle class will be priced out andOMG IS THAT A CAT? DAWWW, LOOK AT YOU! You are SOOO CUTE! What's your name Honeybunny? You want a touchytouchy? A scratchyscratchy? DAWWWW, look at all dat fuuuuuur. You are such a sugarpie!"

    I'm not really one to smother people in hugs and kisses with nicknames. I suppose mine kicks in when someone is sick or in trouble.

    But yeah... I have a weakness for cats too. A very bad one.
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    Type 5

    Quote Originally Posted by vikingbitch View Post
    I never said that a Five couldn't be nurturing.
    I'm sorry I misunderstood. The way your post was written led me believe you were doubting whether you could be a Five and still have nurturing side. My bad.

    I just wanted to see if any other people who share my type feel the same way. Mainly because I'm interested to see who does, what their wing is, and if there is a pattern.
    I guess 5w4 would make more sense in my case, but I see a bit of both wings in me. I type myself as sx/so as far as instincts go but I try to remain open to other possibilities at the same time. I believe Fi and Si are my most comfortable functions.

    As far as nurturing goes, I've always found it more natural to behave nurturingly towards animals perhaps because they don't give off that intrusive, ego-driven energy that so many humans do. As far as people go, it's hard to predict. Some people I'm just drawn to in such way that I just naturally want to take care of them. Perhaps, on some less than conscious level I see something of myself in them. I'm not really sure. I'm very non-verbal in the way I go about taking of both animals and people. I just sort of...do it.
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    I do consider myself very nurturing. I was always a girly girl when I was a kid and really liked playing with my cabbage patch kids and pretending to be a mom.

    I'm a crazy cat lady in the privacy of my own home. My mom keeps giving me "crazy cat lady" mugs and pins with cats on them and cat calendars - I don't want any of that junk though, I don't really want people to know I'm a crazy cat lady. I love most animals though - whenever I'm out for a walk and a random cat is nearby I have to stop and try and pet it.

    I also love babies. They're exhausting, but oh so wonderful to hold and to see them laugh and play. I have a very "cute" kind of face and little kids have always liked me and been really comfortable around me. I babysat a lot in my teens. I'm looking forward to parenthood. I really enjoy observing kids and seeing their reactions when they discover something new or explore things for the first time. I like watching my cat play in the yard for the same reason. She gets so much joy out of the littlest things and I like how easy it is for her to have fun.

    I like taking care of my friends emotionally too - I try hard not to judge them and just give them permission to be and lots of people have opened up to me over the years. I don't mind playing that role because it's easy for me to stay non-attached and not be too affected by what they say. At work lots of people say I'm very kind and understanding and make them feel really comfortable, and I see that as a way of nurturing too.
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    Type 5w4


    Here's something I wrote in another thread I created on a similar subject in the INTJ section:

    Quote Originally Posted by Shadowlight View Post
    In my own case, the 2 has a very strong connection to the 5. My brand of help is sharing of knowledge, articles, ideas and a very thorough analysis of the situation. In many cases, I act as well - but that's mainly when I realize the other person is too weak or has inadequate resources to do it themselves. I find that I value efficiency in my help as well. At times when I've realized that the other person can do it on his/her own (I'm like the mother who teaches her kid to ride a bike and then when the kid's ready, I take off the training wheels) then I back off till I'm needed again. The difference between 2w1 and 2w3 here is very important. For me, helping is a choice (2w1 with an 8-fix), the right thing to do (Tertiary Fi).

    When unhealthy however, I have in the past done exactly what is said of unhealthy 2's. Felt resentment at lack of reciprocation and withdrawn my help/support abruptly as a form of revenge and desire to control the other person. It was not till I read deeply into enneagrams that I realized how unhealthy that was and now I've controlled that to a major degree.

    As for the help itself, my primary "weapon" of choice is using my knowledge to help and it's more verbal than action oriented - until and unless there's no other choice but to act on the other person's behalf.
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