Hi 5's, I need your help.
This last weekend I spent some time at a mountain retreat with some friends. While there I met and instantly clicked with a 5. We hit it off so quickly we went on a long hike just the two of us the next day. We both are very sarcastic and enjoyed exploring together. On the way there, we had such invigorating conversation and it felt really natural and easy to talk to him. Once we got there, we sat next to a lake, touching arms and not talking, just taking in the views and air and animals and everything. The evening after we got back, he asked if I would go look at the stars with him, so we snuck out at about 11 and took blankets to the top of a hill just outside of the retreat buildings and lay under the stars for an hour and a half. On the way back he put his arm around me and then he walked me back to the building where I was sleeping. When we got there, I gave him a hug and went inside. The next day we talked a little bit and got a picture together, but mostly didn't hang out at all. While we were leaving the retreat I got his snapchat.
So now, we've been snapping for the last week. It's hard because he lives 140 miles away but there is a small chance we could see each other over the summer if we tried. We both are also going to different colleges next year. Sometimes while we're snapping, he'll leave me on read for 4-6 hours at a time, sometimes going up to 12 hours. I know he's busy, but as a four this shocked me. I always snap people back right away because I'm so affectionate. But I really care about him and this so I did my research and started to understand why he does this. Now, I don't mind so much that he does this, and I'm working on being less clingy and emotional in my snaps so he doesn't get overwhelmed.
So here's my question: if we want to see each other over the summer or ever, we will have to be intentional about planning time to see each other. I am very open to the idea and am trying to figure out a way to talk to him about it. I was thinking of just being honest and laying it all out on the table for him (like send a long text kind of thing) but I was reading on this forum about how 5's don't like situations where they feel probed and I don't want to catch him off guard with it so he gets scared and retreats and shuts down. 5's, what kind of approach to this would be best? How can I get him to be honest about how he feels? I am willing to wait as long as he needs for this, as our connection was something I haven't found with anyone else. Also, do you guys have any ideas as to how I can let him know that if he's vulnerable with me I won't leave or break his heart or anything? I really don't want to mess this up.
He's an SO 5 and an ISTP if that helps. Thank you guys so so much in advance.