I found something on the enneagrminstitute's boards....something I could relate to really well.
The spark was this line by someone:Which was followed by stuff like this:INFP 6w7's - sp/sx mix of some kind. They think they are 4's because they have a whole lot of things in common with that enneagram type. They often have considerable push-pull issues.When 4's are unhealthy they are boring snobs.
When 6's are unhealthy you hate them.
6's move the emotions of others 100% more than 4's....with out even trying.
4's fall back on shock value or with draw. If they poor their failure into creation, those creations can move people, yet they themself are still boring snobs or over done shock drama.
NF 6's live a much richer life of emotion than 4's on the whole. 4's will nurse the same emotions for years. NF 6's LIVE a world of many many deep emotions.
Really it is better to be a NF 6 than a 4. imo
NF 6's can really connect with people.
4's are so self absorbed they fail to understand others on any deep level....although they will spend years nursing the emotions the others invoked in them.
sx first 4's come close to nf 6's on the emotional gutting Ability. although once again the 'hurt' is found in the creations not the person. The 4 them self just makes you want to roll your eyes at them when they are unhealthy. (An unhealthy 4 is platitudinous and pompous...yawn)
A 6 can make you want to kill them with your bare hands. (An unhealthy 6 is exhausting...malignant crazy loon or vindictive Passive aggression)..........strangely enough I could relate as a NFP 6 or better said couldn't relate to what the 4 said.4s are very self-absorbed and have much less mercurial and direct emotions than sixes (heart vs. head triad) even though both are in the reactive triad.
The emotional scope of fours is narrow and narcissistic - they are likely to explore all the angles of an emotion, introspect, dwell in the emotion prolongedly to get as much out of it as they can. 6s will react off other people more and directly. The hearts of fours can be closed to others - they explore themselves. Many a six has told me that my heart is closed off to them.
The emotional world of a four is prevailingly rich stylistic-wise and personal to them (rather than in conjunction with others) and they tend to have more monochrome than sixes. Fours don't do angst as much as sixes, which probably points to what VO is saying.