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Confession session: 7s... what do you do when you feel Ignored?

[Enneagram Type 7] 
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#1 ·
Just wanted to hear from you guys how you react when the unusual happens and you're not that charming or interesting to other people/acquaintances/family members/ co-workers/ significant others?

I was chatting w/ one of my best friends that is a 7/6 and she gets depressed about it while when I feel ignored I just feel annoyed and move on to the next thing but it's probably because I'm a 7/8.

Judgement-free zone, share away! ; )
 
#3 ·
That was written like a true 7 :sun-smiley:

I can relate to that (both the feeling and the not being easily ignored :winky: ) I just feel that if here's a conversation going and the other person doesn't get it or we're not in the same train of thought I just get annoyed/bored and have the need of move on to someone more interesting or that gets me.

I wonder what would the 7/6 Have to say on this
 
#7 ·
I really dislike being ignored. I tend to pout for a while and then I try to figure out how to draw attention to myself so that I'm not ignored. Sometimes, I succeed.
 
#12 ·
Entertain myself, it's no big deal.
 
#13 ·
If they seem interesting, I engage. If not, I just entertain myself and daydream. What's more infuriating is when you find someone interesting but they're using that cold exterior of theirs. *cough* ISTJs and INTPs *cough* The two types who have often resisted my charm.

If it isn't cooking fast enough, time to raise the heat! Bwahahaha! [emoji48]

I'm sorry ISTJs and INTPs, but your ability to converse intelligently are too high a probability for me to pass up. I hardly have satisfying debates with others. They either get intimidated or flounder around like a fish out of water. (INFP 7w8 here)

The song Fair Game by Sia comes to mind...[emoji6]
 
#14 ·
I don't care in the slightest if I don't care about the person. A stranger, or acquaintance doesn't matter. It's either they don't deserve my time anyways or if they're inconveniencing me, they now can't ignore me.
I have a 6 wing though, so if someone I rely on or care about ignores me I don't take it super well. I usually get very 1 and self-critical. I end up looping because I obsess over why I'm being ignored, but the fact I was ignored in the first place without knowing why causes me enough anxiety about my sense of self and if I'm being annoying that I can't ask.
 
#19 ·
My reaction as a 7 is somewhat similar. Usually I resort to antics or try to make them laugh, push buttons to see if they react and if not... technology comes to my rescue. I take out my phone and get involved in some engaging chats, via WhatsApp and other forms of social media. However if I don't have any other option, my first reaction does tend to be annoyance. That makes me a bit more reckless in trying to get someone's attention. When none of that works, results in either a loop or withdrawal with 1 ish thought spirals pushing me away mentally. That's when the group or person I am with notices that I got unusually quiet and asks me. But at that point, it seems like too little too late.
 
#15 ·
I simply do something to grab attention again. Like say something outrageous in an inappropriate setting, or show people something socially reprehensible that I am entirely shameless and maybe even proud of.
I love their reactions ^v^
BTW I would probably eat my hypothetical and nonexistent girlfriend out while she's on her period.
 
#16 ·
It's rare that we are ignored. We 7s are engaging. We can't help that. However, anyone can be preoccupied and not tune in to us, but mean no harm. I don't worry about that at all. I don't try to get attention from someone who is not able to pay attention due to stress or other interests etc.
 
#18 ·
I just drag my very introverted wife out of her head and take her our for a drive, shopping, dinner, ice cream or something.

If that's not an option, I come here on PerC and engage someone or the other. Or get involved in a discussion in some thread. Usually if you simply quote someone, they will engage you. Forums are good for that sort of thing. It doesn't really matter what kind of interaction it is, it just needs to happen.

Play a game. Talk to family. Message friends.

When there's absolutely nothing happening then I do have a mini existential crisis lol till I do find something.
 
#20 ·
It depends. If it's a need I will get involuntarily mute and patient for a while, than snap. If it's a want I will get annoying and persistent. If it's a discomfort I will get depressed and suddenly every single thing hurts me, even my own clothes. And it it's nothing much - I will simply move on because I have better stuff to do than dealing with boring idiots.
 
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