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    Nurturing Nines

    Are Nines nurturing? How are they nurturing? Are you able to give examples?
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    Type 9w8

    I'm sure 9s can be nurturing.

    It's certainly not a word I'd use to describe myself, or my father for that matter, though. I'm friendly and can show concern, I don't nurture, that sounds too time and investment intensive. If you're there in front of me and need something I can easily give, you'll get it. If you're not in my present space, or what you need will require effort on my behalf then it's not a given.

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    Type 9w8


    I'm more attentive than nurturing which translates to me kinda smothering my significant other.

    I have to be careful of that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonny View Post
    If you're not in my present space
    What did you mean by this? If you don't live in the same house, for example?

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    Quote Originally Posted by frenchie View Post
    I have to be careful of that.
    You mean you tend to smother your SO and try to avoid it?

    Is "nurturing" more descriptive of a female Nine? Would it be an accurate description?

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    Type 9w1

    I'm fond of saying I'm about as nurturing as a brick.

    I can listen and will occasionally offer advice (I find that people are better at solving their own problems if you just let them talk through them). And if I know a hug will make them feel better, I'll do it. But generally I'm more likely to listen - or at least give the appearance of it - than actively help. That would mean getting involved and being engaged.

    Nines with Two in their tritype might probably be more likely to do so, I would think. But I can only speak for myself, and while I have good intentions to be nurturing toward my niece, which doesn't always happen, and I'm always there to listen to my partner and my closest friends if they ask, I wouldn't call my relationships with others nurturing in the least. I'll send good feelings your way and spare a kind word, but I'm not going to get involved unless specifically requested to do so.

    Actually, I think Sonny said it a lot better than I did:

    Quote Originally Posted by Sonny View Post
    I'm friendly and can show concern, I don't nurture, that sounds too time and investment intensive. If you're there in front of me and need something I can easily give, you'll get it. If you're not in my present space, or what you need will require effort on my behalf then it's not a given.
    I guess the short answer would be no, I personally am not outside a very few, specific instances.
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    Type 9w8


    Quote Originally Posted by jellybean View Post
    You mean you tend to smother your SO and try to avoid it?

    Is "nurturing" more descriptive of a female Nine? Would it be an accurate description?
    Yeah I guess you could say that. I ask and make sure that she's ok and comfortable. Sometimes it is best to just not do that.
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    Type 9

    Nurturing comes more naturally to me with plants and animals and less-so with people. With people, I am really at loss sometimes. I agree that it's easier to listen if needed. I feel like nurturing is a skill that I am slowly being educated on and developing. It's like I have to be taught what is and isn't nurturing towards humans. It's always one epiphany after another for each individual. I don't know what's right or wrong and I can be very awkward when I try to care.

    But with plants and animals, nurturing is like second-nature. It's practically part of my genetic make-up, kind of wired into my system. I know what plants and animals want just by looking at them. This might have to do with being an ISFP, since ISFPs are in-tune with nature.
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    Type 9w8

    Quote Originally Posted by jellybean View Post
    What did you mean by this? If you don't live in the same house, for example?
    It's all about how easy caring about someone is (not to be confused with a direct indication of how much I care about someone btw), it's a kind of removed selfish laziness, which, without a drop of pride, is what 9 is about.

    I'll give you an example of what I mean: I have just had a dear friend hit me up via fb asking can I visit him, and help him out financially, neither of those things are issues on their own, however I am now required to put effort into arranging a time, driving the distance to his house, and spend money on him, each additional thing I have to use energy on diminishes my ease of movement. If he named a night, and drove to me it would be easier because then he would physically be in my space and I would be able to focus on reality as it is instead of tuning out, out of sight out of mind style. For me someone physically being in my company has a large impact, without that connection to their reality it's often theoretical to me and something that will go away on its own. Of course this situation involves a friend I care about so I will force myself out of my comfort zone, it is not my natural inclination however. And once he's out of my space again it will once more be out of mind.

    Someone who nurtures others is someone I see as being naturally willing to put themselves out in order to help another. Too much effort for the average 9.
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    Type 9w1

    Quote Originally Posted by Sonny View Post
    It's all about how easy caring about someone is (not to be confused with a direct indication of how much I care about someone btw), it's a kind of removed selfish laziness, which, without a drop of pride, is what 9 is about.
    I'll agree with this. It doesn't occur to me to pick up a phone and call and see how someone is doing. A lot of that has to do with not liking phone conversations, but mostly it's getting stuck in my own little world and forgetting there are people out there. I usually need a concrete reason to call someone and even then I keep it short. This includes my parents. I'm extremely out-of-sight -> out-of-mind.

    Fortunately, I'm fighting that behavior with my son and ex. Trying to keep in touch and in their lives as much as I can... but it's a struggle when I don't see them physically each day. However, when I'm around them... I'm very "in the moment" and in tune to what he needs and try my best to give what I can.
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