Hello fellow nines! So, I've determined I'm very much a 9. I'm easygoing, conflict avoidant, see both sides of view. But I'm not quite sure about the wing! So here's my reasoning for each:
Why I could be 9w8:
-I usually don't lead as I'm an introvert, but when I'm passionate about something, I enjoy taking charge
-I enjoy some conflicts? Well, I don't like real fighting, but for example, I enjoy a good debate, challenging ideas. I'm not gonna do this with some random person though. Also, I just enjoy a good challenge in general, like when playing strategy games. Might be the 3 link, but I have a secret competitive streak. I like pulling pranks too, I resonate with that goofball description of them. I mostly back down in conflict, but I enjoy a good roast at times.
-I am not very organized, and apparently those with one wings are more organized
-Being controlled is very, very irksome. I have my clingy moments, but I enjoy being independent and innovative
-I'm generous! I know this is a 9 thing in general, but apparently it's an 8 thing too. I just like helping out.
-I root for/protect the underdog
-I don't care a ton about rules. Like, I'm not going to go out and break them a ton, I don't want to start trouble. But if they don't hurt anyone, I don't care if other people break them, and I may too, more often bend them though.
-Could be just a body thing, but I get restless a lot, and 9w8s are said to be the more energetic nines
Why I could be 9w1:
-I feel guilty very easily, whether that's failure, hurting others, being irresponsible, that stuff
-1 wings are said to hold grudges. This is kinda true? Well, I forgive super easily, but I dwell on things a lot.
-I fear being incompetent too ahhhh
-Despite being a disorganized mess, I find myself fretting over small details
-Might be cause I'm INFP, but I relate to that cerebral, creative, having a little fantasy world description of 9w1s. I do have this little idealized fantasy world, I love to learn all about sorts of things, and I'm pretty artsy.
My relationship with anger would probably be useful. I'm surprisingly angry, it's generally out of annoyance though. I become a little ball of rage and pace around angrily, putting on angry music, but I rarely blow up at anyone. If I do, I'll mostly shout "No!" or something. Things besides annoyance that make me angry are people being controlling, judgemental and obnoxious. I don't like admitting to people I'm angry at them, but don't mind talking about anger in general.
Other things about me that I'm not sure what category to place in:
-I try to make sure people are treated fairly/everyone's needs are met
-I could learn to take critcism better, ahahaha
-In reaction to other peoples' conflicts, I at times find them juicy and funny. But also, I have this tendency to imagine myself in the other person's conflict? Yeah, that makes me sad
Soo, what do you think? I've been called earthy like an 9w8 too.